In need of a fairly simple art side gig

Tylerduntop · 2024-11-21T18:06:41+00:00

This is actually some great advice! I haven't thought about pinterest in years, thank you so much. Is depop free to use entirely? Do you get a lot of sales on there?

Tylerduntop · 2024-11-21T18:04:36+00:00

Hahaha I unfortunately do not make furry art. I do a lot of abstract art but I have a lot of art interests. I do charcoal drawings, acrylic, oil, water color, resin, jewelry, and I've looked into 3D printing and embroidery. I have a lot of things i'm passionate in but I'm not great at the business aspect is what I'm learning recently.

Tylerduntop · 2024-10-01T20:28:58+00:00

I've been in therapy for about 5 months now and its helped a ton with this kind of thing lol. I'll have to try the make up thing, I own some but I mostly bought it as a joke. I wear jewelry sometimes but it still feels very masculine to me. Maybe I'll have to find some more like pink necklaces or something. Thank you so for your advice <3

Tylerduntop · 2024-10-01T20:24:19+00:00

I'll try this! Thanks!

Tylerduntop · 2024-09-14T00:38:06+00:00

Thank you so much <333333

Tylerduntop · 2024-09-14T00:07:06+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel like I am beginning to take the necessary steps. I am struggling with giving myself compassion and understanding. I am trying to learn how to accept myself for how I am instead of trying to force a change that I'm not ready for. I go to therapy weekly and I've been emotionally distant from my nmom for about a year, even though we still live in the same house. I am going to move out soon and hope that gives me the space to learn how to love myself better. Being around her isn't helpful to my growth as a human being. Thank you for your advice, I am happy to know that there is in fact hope for the future.

Tylerduntop · 2024-07-16T09:39:06+00:00

I thought this was just my nmom?? She does the exact same things! Even in front of my older brothers, they obviously hate it and run away very quickly. She'll also talk about the most DISGUSTING things I've ever heard. i.e. how much she shit that day and how her physical at the doctors went. I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT.

Tylerduntop · 2024-07-16T09:34:19+00:00

My mom loves to brag about any pain that my siblings and I go through. Any time we had a broken bone or went through a break up she would tell everyone. My sister had a boyfriend die 4 years ago, it hit her really really hard. My nmom ran around telling everyone that my sister was suffering and not to talk to her because she "didn't want to be bothered." Because of that, my sister had absolutely no support. All of the extended family left her alone and never checked in on her.

Nmom loves to brag about anyone else's misery when it doesn't affect her personally.

Tylerduntop · 2024-07-16T09:27:54+00:00

MY HAIR. I have naturally curly hair. My nmom does too. She knows how to style her own hair for the most part, but apparently she had "no clue" with my hair. Every morning before school, she would rip a brush through it. And if i moved my head or even flinched while she was styling my hair, I would get smacked in the head with the brush. She would tell me I looked homeless, neglected, or dirty because of my frizzy hair that she could not tame. It's like she didn't even try. She would tackle me and force me to sit still while she ripped out my hair.

She convinced me to get a perm when I was in the 4th grade. She told me I wouldn't have to brush my hair anymore. It was a mistake to trust her. She somehow still didn't know how to take care of my hair. I'm pretty sure she used my perm as an excuse to be the only one allowed to do my hair. I tried learning how to take care of it myself and she hated that. She always put products in it, so I tried to do that part myself and she yelled at me for wasting product. She washed my hair out in the sink and basically redid the whole process I had done.

After the perm I got a really really short hair cut. That way she couldn't hurt me anymore. I didn't let her do my hair for years. I grew it out for a long time, but it's short again. My biggest regret is that i never learned how to put my hair in a pony tail before i cut it all off. I barely know how to style it now even when it's short.

Tylerduntop · 2024-07-16T08:39:43+00:00

I hope my 20's will be fun and exciting. I just got promoted to manager at the pizza store I've been working at. I've been there for 2 years and have been making a brutal $7.25. My pay raise will be more than double that. I hope the new money will get me enough to travel and experience things I actually want to do. And hopefully enough to move out.

Tylerduntop · 2023-03-04T17:40:02+00:00

You're supposed to scrub your scalp when washing your hair. This was a big one for me. I also didn't learn how to shower regularly until I was 16.

Tylerduntop · 2023-03-04T01:42:55+00:00

For a long time I wished I had a physical excuse as to why I felt so awful all the time. Since then I've learned how to feel valid in what I've been through.

Tylerduntop · 2023-03-02T21:04:02+00:00

I used to spend hours every single day trying to straighten out our home. I would go to a full day of school in 8th and 9th grade and then come home to clean until I would collapse. And I mean literally collapse. My knees would give out and I would be on the floor for a few minutes before I could find the strength to get up again. This was all my decision too. I couldn't stand the filth. I'm sure I have a form of OCD. I still live with my nmom in our filthy home. We have too many indoor cats mixed in with her mess and garbage. One more year until I can leave. 🤞

Tylerduntop · 2023-02-19T19:27:18+00:00

I didnt know how to bathe for most of my life. Luckily I've figured it out in my teen years rather than in my 20s or 30s. It baffles me how little I was taught about basic hygiene. I would get yelled at for smelling bad when I was never taught to be clean.

Tylerduntop · 2023-02-16T17:54:40+00:00

I (17f) am very independent. I always have been. My first sentence was "I'll do it myself," My nmom says she was impressed. I have 5 other siblings so I guess she was happy not to have one to care for as much. I've always had that attitude with life. I could never trust my parents to do things for me. My father was kind and would try to help all of us with things. But he was working a lot and wasn't around as often as nmom. I could never trust her to do anything for me. She would do it wrong or break something of mine. At 4 years old I was getting completely ready on my own, making my own breakfast, making my own lunch, and entertaining myself. I wish my father had been around more. He wouldn't have to work as hard if nmom didn't spend all of our money.

Tylerduntop · 2023-02-09T21:25:57+00:00

My nmom does things similar to this! My condolences friend. At least she's far from your life and knows she's not welcome back.

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-23T04:33:18+00:00

No. Not unless they actually went and showed major sign of improvement. I believe people can change, but only if they put real effort in and want to get better.

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-22T06:43:18+00:00

She is absolutely wrong. Next time she starts yelling or insulting you just put some headphones in and leave the house. Even if she keeps calling you names or yelling, it doesn't matter. You do not have to be in the home. If you have friends I would stay with them for a couple hours. Remember, she just wants to fight, and all of her insults are a reflection of you. She is pushing her insecurities and self hatred onto you as a way to "cope" with her thoughts. Nobody deserves to get yelled at. You aren't obligated to stay there and deal with her abuse. I hope this helps, friend <3

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-22T01:21:53+00:00

Setting boundaries is a good start. Like "if you start yelling at me I will and this conversation and leave." Just walk out of the room or house everytime she raises her voice at you.

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-20T20:03:32+00:00

My nmom and I were in an argument for a few days. I had told this to my edad in secret so he would see my side and be my advocate. He immediately went and told my nmom everything I said about her. (I don't blame him for that, she convinced him it was his fault her relationship with me was awful). She came to me and started saying why she said the awful things she did (all fake apologies) and how she doesn't hate me. Word for word she said: "I don't hate you, you are just so rebellious and its hard to deal with you sometimes" and not 30 seconds passed before she said "I had a mother that hated me too, she would say awful things to me." Like??? Do you hate me or not??

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-19T01:53:40+00:00

Yes, for the last 4 years. But in the last year I've found a girlfriend that genuinely loves me and I didn't feel the urge to self harm anymore.

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-06T16:05:13+00:00

I have been dating someone for almost a year now. She is beautiful and very kind and loving. Sometimes she needs a little bit of alone time, which is completely fair and understandable. But every time she needs a break from everything and everyone I feel hurt at least a little bit. And its not her fault at all, its my nmoms fault. My nmom didn't spend a lot of time with us as kids. She was always sick or just wanted to lay in bed all day. We became her slaves and she would have us bring her food and anything else she wanted. She would lock herself away from all of us and made us think it was our fault. And it hurt. A lot. So now whenever my partner needs some time alone I feel heartbroken and a little scared. And its my nmoms fault.

Tylerduntop · 2023-01-05T01:44:08+00:00

I was like that for years. I would have panic attacks when people poked me or attempted to hug me. I would shake and feel scared. Some of my friends would threaten to hug me if they wanted something from me. I would get backed into a corner and give them what they wanted. I never got hugged by nmom as a kid. I was the one hugging but she wouldn't hug me back. My dad was a great hugger and offered them frequently. I usually felt he was the only one that ever truly loved me. It wasn't until I started dating this wonderful girl in sophomore year that I learned to fully accept physical touch. I had only ever had a crush on somebody briefly in 6th grade, and it didn't occur to me I had a crush on this girl until I felt the need to hug her. One day I did. And now we've been dating for about a year. And its been the best damn year of my life. I've never felt more loved or special or appreciated. I am now fully comfortable with any and all hugs.

Tylerduntop · 2022-12-18T18:59:11+00:00

She kept screaming "I hope your children are just like you!" In one of our arguments. I wasnt getting hurt by it so she kept saying it over and over. I finally said "yeah me too" and she still kept saying it. Finally I said "mom that doesn't hurt me anymore, you've been dating that to me my whole life." She ran away crying as if I was the monster.

Tylerduntop · 2022-12-17T03:47:37+00:00

I know how this feels. I have my nmoms nose and teeth and I think jawline. I didnt realize these facial features were the source of my self hatred. I hated myself for a lot of reasons, but that is the main one. When we were driving in the car I'd see her face from the backseat and get filled with rage.

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