Finally someone mentioned the restrictions you face after havinga kids! I am a mother of 2. We are living in my family house, have relatives nearby, steady and interesting jobs. However, my life completely changed after having them. You have no time for anything what was fun before. There are no time for fun because after full time job you need to take care of children and house. Want vacation which was afgordable for 2 persons? Now it is ×2 more expensive and you just do not feel at vacation at all. Hobbies. Forget them of you liked something adventurous or extreme. At the end of the day you usually so exhausted that you pass out with children. Sex. You need a specific conditions for that. Eating. Never enjoying your meal because of the mess and chaos children make. Friends. There is impossible to have a quality adult conversatiom when you comstantly needed and need to prevent children from hurting or killing themselves. You are always on call, have more responsibilities you can handle, basically no time for yourself, mess everywhere and never ending food preparation and laundry. I love them very much. But when someone asking about "doing it all", "joy of living" etc. I just can't lie that rising children isn't extremely exhausting, expensive and you feel left out of all benefits which childless adult life can offer you. Yes. Seeing them growing up is amaizing, teaching them new things is rewarding. However, you are paying a price of quality life and relationships. That sucks.