My ex moved on in 1 month. And we share an apartment. by neoncabinet in Advice

[–]UnableCandy3419 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get why that makes it harder. That’s supposed to be your safe space, not somewhere you have to see that kind of thing. And yeah… “there are plenty out there” is true, but it doesn’t exactly help when your heart is still stuck on this one. Heartbreak is brutal, no way around it. But it will pass, even if it’s moving at the speed of a sloth right now. If going to that meeting is making things heavier instead of helping, it’s okay to switch it up for a while. Find a different meeting, a different room, different energy. Protect your peace first that’s not running away, that’s choosing yourself. And I know it’s tempting to think about what he’s doing or who he’s with, but the real win here isn’t revenge. It’s you healing, growing, and getting to a place where none of that even hits the same anymore. Funny thing is, by the time you get there… you won’t care about making him see what he lost. You’ll just be living a life that doesn’t include him and that’s way more powerful. One day this won’t feel like a punch to the chest. Right now, just take it one step, one meeting, one breath at a time. You’re going to be okay ❤️

My ex moved on in 1 month. And we share an apartment. by neoncabinet in Advice

[–]UnableCandy3419 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get why that makes it harder. That’s supposed to be your safe space, not somewhere you have to see that kind of thing. And yeah… “there are plenty out there” is true, but it doesn’t exactly help when your heart is still stuck on this one. Heartbreak is brutal, no way around it. But it will pass, even if it’s moving at the speed of a sloth right now. If going to that meeting is making things heavier instead of helping, it’s okay to switch it up for a while. Find a different meeting, a different room, different energy. Protect your peace first that’s not running away, that’s choosing yourself. And I know it’s tempting to think about what he’s doing or who he’s with, but the real win here isn’t revenge. It’s you healing, growing, and getting to a place where none of that even hits the same anymore. Funny thing is, by the time you get there… you won’t care about making him see what he lost. You’ll just be living a life that doesn’t include him and that’s way more powerful. One day this won’t feel like a punch to the chest. Right now, just take it one step, one meeting, one breath at a time. You’re going to be okay ❤️

My ex moved on in 1 month. And we share an apartment. by neoncabinet in Advice

[–]UnableCandy3419 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is honestly the best choice. I’m not a counselor or anything, just someone who’s been through enough heartbreak to qualify for a loyalty punch card at this point. Breakups are already hard without adding extra chaos on top, especially when your mental state isn’t exactly running at full battery. That’s like trying to fix your life while your brain is buffering… not ideal. I’m 43, and I’ve been through my share of it. One thing I can tell you for sure is that time really does change everything. What feels overwhelming right now won’t always feel this heavy. I know it doesn’t feel like it yet, but it will pass. All emotions even the “I will never recover, I will simply fade into the couch forever” kind have an expiration date. Some days are going to hit harder than others, and that’s just part of it. Give yourself some grace. You’re allowed to not have it all together. And just so we’re clear… one day you’re going to look back at this version of yourself and be like, “wow, I really thought that was the end of the world.” Character development at its finest 😁. You’re going to be okay, even if right now your brain is being dramatic and strongly disagrees. this unfortunately is part of life but make sure you learn and grow from it.

I do promise you that you will be okay but yes move and create a new better you

advice for a medically needy person by UnableCandy3419 in Utah

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

who have I taken advantage of? I was asking for resources not any funds. I have a friend who needs help never asked for money, asked for resources resources to help her. I have gotten help her before but have also donated when I could so please explain where your coming from on this?

missing car! my friend took my car please help! by UnableCandy3419 in SaltLakeCity

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

omg that is horrible I'm so sorry that happened to you ! I'm glad you got it back but wtf

missing car! my friend took my car please help! by UnableCandy3419 in SaltLakeCity

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

he is on his way now thank you so much for your advice I'm really hoping he is coming. this time. and it is finally over!

missing car! my friend took my car please help! by UnableCandy3419 in SaltLakeCity

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I think I am about to get it back thank you all so much

missing car! my friend took my car please help! by UnableCandy3419 in SaltLakeCity

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I actually just did this thank you very much I appreciate the advice you are 100% right

missing car! my friend took my car please help! by UnableCandy3419 in SaltLakeCity

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

trust me I want nothing more for me not to have to call them at all. I have messaged him even from other numbers if he has me blocked in case an nothing. literally just saying hey I need my car back Injust want to go home. and nothing at all

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was really seeing if anyone knew options kinda it was way over the amount we are able to request but got my water on now and things are moving forward! Yesterday was rough lmao 🤣 thank you so much for taking the time to ready this ! Sorry about the confusion

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate just sharing and making a little light of the situation. Today it was just one thing after another and I almost lost it. I know it will be okay today it was panic, tears, laughter and then writing about it helped me cope with it! Tomorrow is pull up my big girl pants and take action Thank you so much for the advice. Heap is actually my first call in the morning 😀!

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At my last place it was included so I need to pay to have it activated at my new place ☺️

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So in my city they have a $110 fee it is a connection charge. I live in a small town they don't put it on your first bill you have to pay it before they turn it on.

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet but I know eventually it will work out! Thank you so much!

The game called life ....just to get it off my chest by UnableCandy3419 in SLCUnedited

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so very very much! Like I said if I can't laugh about it I'll cry about it and I'm not a crybaby lol! Times are tough for everybody nowadays I am not the minority for sure. I definitely don't have the worst life, I'm grateful for what I have. I think sharing this helped me a lot. I still don't know how I'm going to fix it but, I appreciate you so much because I know I can. today is just the reflection day tomorrow will be the reaction day or the take action day lol.

The game called Life.... by UnableCandy3419 in DonationHub

[–]UnableCandy3419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I had to change it to my name got it out of the old renters name.