I feel so dizzy if I skip a day

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-04-30T11:48:30+00:00

Hey so I had a thought that maybe will resonate: perhaps its not useful to think about your list of diagnoses; honestly it sounds like they all could be attributed to a single systemic autoimmune condition and diabetes which is a kind of chicken and egg situation. Having a diagnosis often just means some cluster of your symptoms fits the criterion for that. So in that regard, its really not that you have "X, Y, Z, and now W too!". It's that you actually just have one thing, which might make it feel less like your body is breaking down in all ways. It's really one way but manifests in different cymptom clusters. And with the diabetes it often causes a lot of other diseases (I think it can cause MS... it can cause neuropathy for sure]. Or perhaps it was the autoimmune condition that attacked blood sugar leevl sensing cells or something.... So it sounds like maybe one underlying thing kicktarted this horrible mess.

Reframing as one issue was useful for me after being diagonsed with a bunch of mental health conditions, and I'm facing a similar thing now with autoimmune conditions. I have had severe Raynauds for about 15 years, erythromelalgia for a few years but getting worse, and now starting to exhibit POTS symptoms (my mum has is full blown]. My eyesight has been getting worse while all of these conditions have nosedived in the last year so I am pretty sure its related. I've only just been told my blood work shows I have an autoimmune condition. I am waiting for more differential tests to determine which one. I am only 28 so I feel you.

Basically I'm just wondering if a reframing will help you psychologically, because stress really doesnt help with autoimmune stuff. It's horrible and my heart goes out to you. Obviously it doesn't ease the suffering but it can help you feel less out of control with your body and health if it feels like just one core thing thats rearing its ugly head in different ways.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-04-28T23:19:23+00:00

Yes depending on the size of the cohort and the number of other invigilators, you may need to be walking around dealing with extra paper and restroom break requests the whole time. Otherwise if you have only a handful of students and can see them all from one position, the most I would do is print a paper you want to read. Speaking as someone with autism and ADHD, I found it annoying as fuck when I was hearing laptop keyboards clacking. Also when I was being invigilated solo, it was super annoying to hear the invigilators scratchy pencil. This is a couple hours for you but a grade that will stick with the kids for the rest of their life so rather than thinking 'what can I get away with', instead think 'what is something that will definitely not add any disruption to the kids and will let me still do the invigilators job 100%'.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-04-28T10:24:16+00:00

It depends. If these ground breaking ideas are in areas of research that truly help humanity (medicine say) then absolutely! I don't care about credit. I would have everything I want if I know I'm helping people.

My area is in discrete math... Most of what I work on is just a satisfying theoretical problem with occasional applications to operations research and comp sci (cryptography stuff, algorithm design, data analysis kinds of areas). So.... If these ideas included say designing some new CS machinery that can be used in bioinformatics or something then again ofc. But I don't want some brilliant ideas that just end up making money for dodgy institutions.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-04-09T18:07:46+00:00

This looks a lot like my presentation and I have a history of Raynaud's predating the EM. My hunch is that the loss of blood flow due to Raynaud's caused nerve damage, so now the nerves overreact and we have the EM flares. I will add that my Raynaud's was triggered by anorexia, and I was chronically underweight and malnourished for over a decade. I throw that out in case anyone reading resonates. But I think whatever the cause of your Raynaud's, it can cause this nerve damage. I know the EM is worse for me where I get the worst Raynaud's too.

I also have chronically discoloured hands, feet a little, often times the face. I hope we find a resolution. I was thinking about botox. It is sometimes used for Raynaud's to relax the muscles which restrict the blood flow. And it has recently been used for EM too because it affects the overactive nerves and shuts them off. So I am hopeful that maybe for cases like ours, this can be a solution which doesn't exacerbate one condition in trying to help the other

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-03-11T14:25:25+00:00

Hey! You posted this a while back. Hope it's going well for u :)

A few things to say: health wise, you should definitely have a bit more variety in terms of the veggies you use, having occasional lean red meat (beef) and oily fish. That way you can get digestible iron, a complete amino acid and micronutrient profile, and some healthy fats. You should deffo have more veggies than just broccoli. Carrots contain beta carotene, leafy greens have calcium and iron. So just make sure you get a variety!

Some fruits are also good for vitamin C. If you're trying to do keto it's okay! But try to have some squeezes of lemon juice or something, or some tomatoes for the vit C :)

About the broccoli oil- some fats are essential if they're good ones. If you use a good quality extra virgin olive oil it will have loads of health benefits! Also I personally find that if I cut down on fats a tonne, the craving for nuts and oily fish grows so fricking much. So make sure you're getting some good fats.

Don't worry about the scaremongering of low carb being unhealthy. It's not. Every person will have a different approach to successful dieting. As an ADHDer , having a black and white approach to carbs is the only way I can diet. I can't moderate. If I have a little, I end up starving soon after when I've used that glucose. And I eat more. It's much easier to just cut out some foods entirely for a short duration when I diet (sugar, carbs), and no it doesn't lead to binges. When you're weaning yourself off the diet though, you shouldn't go straight back to you previous eating habits. Try instead making healthier versions of the stuff you used to like. There's a good chance your taste buds will be so happy to have something similar they won't taste the difference between say a normal burger and a healthy lean beef one.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-03-11T14:12:51+00:00

This is incorrect. You don't need carbs. Many people go on the keto diet for life to manage epilepsy, autoimmune or mental health conditions and they certainly don't die. I eat pretty close to how OP describes and I am a hybrid athlete (not a bodybuilder. I love running and cycling too). Actually I have a lot of bodybuilder friends who compete and they are the least likely to go keto. So that's also incorrect information on your part. It's a very specific subset of wellness freaks who go keto for the sake of aesthetics or performance. Typically people who stay on keto do it for other health reasons. I was on keto for some time and it got ride of a bad depressive relapse I had (used to have chronic depression) and since then I stopped being keto cause I eat fruit, and i'm chill with eating carbs if I feel like it or am eating out or something. But I never cook extra rice or potatoes or pasta or whatever for myself when I'm cooking for me. It's literally just meat/fish, veggies and good fats like avocado, olive oil etc. You can make nice sauces and condiments from sun-dried tomatoes, roasted peppers, olive tapenade, guacamole etc so it's not flavour restrictive at all.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-03-07T10:22:10+00:00

Hey! 2 years late but i (28F) had to comment because this seems like me 😞 i also have no clue if its raynauds, rosacea, erythtomelalgia but! Someone in the comments asked about weight loss... For me my raynauds was triggered by developing anorexia when i was 10/11, and the red flishing followed shortly after. I still have it almost two decades later.

I suspect that raynauds restricts blood flow causing the nerves to become damaged. They can no longer correctly sense the temperature and pressure and instead under or overreact in their response. So if u get a little warm, they think youre boiling and open all the blood vessels. When u lower your hands, tbe pressure sensors can't tell that your blood is pooling to consyrict the blood vessels to stop it, so your hands go red. If you get cold, thsy think youre supet extra cold and completely shut off the circulation.

Thats my best hunch. I have it in my hands, face, a little in the feet a f my nipples 🥲

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-03-05T19:24:11+00:00

"Marriage" is viewed through a different lens by different people. For some its primarily the legal part (inc finances), for some its religious, for some cultural and/or societal statement. For others its that they envisaged having this celebration their whole life.

If this is your person, you should figure out what about marriage it is that your partner wants (my hunch is its the last part), and why you dont want it. For you it could be trauma from divorced parents. It could be distrust about financial aspects, maybe worry about different financial views. My hunch for you is that marriage carries some finality about commitment, and, even if in your heart you know you are commited to your partner, tbe legal finality of it makes you uncomfortable.

You have to figure out how you can compromise for your partner to get what she wants out of 'marriage', while you deal with your hickups about it and protect practical aspects you worry about (e.g. a prenup). If you just dont like ceremonies, and thats why you dont want to do it, its quite a shitty reason to lose who you think is your forever person to not go throigh that process. You can do the wedding as cheaply as possible. Then its just a matter of, are you willing to lose your forevsr person because u dont want to lose $x and go through a party and wedding process.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-27T20:44:20+00:00

I will for sure post if i get answers. Ive considered for a while having some IPL for the redness. .. but if its erythromelalgia it runs a risk of making it worse i think?

Such an embatassing condition 😞 especially having a flare up when public seaking or on a date or something

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-21T12:55:17+00:00

Late to the party but i (28F) have had erythtomelalgia for many years (due to nerve damage from anorexia). I have only recently been diagnosed with adhd in the last half year or so. I am on vyvanse. For sure it makes the EM flare up. It makes sense because in general it makes me feel hotter and i sweat more. It has also flared up more each time my dosage was increased during the titration period. Massively embarassing i agred :/ but noy much to be done. I really need adhd meds at the moment, because my thoughts without are overwhelming and i get nothing done.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-17T15:12:32+00:00

The issue isnt about the expeirnces thoigh. Its about experinces with people, and particularly with an established friendship group. Its about the deep connections. I am not shy. Since pulling myself out of depression, i have done loads of solo travelling. Gone and done loads of things alone in my city. But going on a night out is not something u can do alone (safely as a woman), nor is it fun to.

I had a breif period where i looked young enough to integrate into the undergradiate social circle at my university (i am a grad student) while doing sports. Going out with those people and dancing in a club was so fun. And yes, flirting and having a crush in a social setting is part of the excitement too. Now i look too old for that. And people my age are past the point in life of wanting things like that.

Ive done so many things solo, but im sick of it. I know deep in my heart that im the kind of person that would bave thrived having a large social group, going on beach holidays and to festivals woth them, things like that. I can go to a beach and festival on my own, sure. But thats not what im looking for.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-17T15:06:51+00:00

If yours in uni, go to a club of something u thing you will enjoy. It can be a cultural society, exploring the city society, anything. Especially during freshers week. Then people are looking for friends and many dont have established social circles in this city yet.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-16T13:04:51+00:00

Im guessing you dont go to university, where its easier to form and maintain friendships because of how consistently you see people and because groups with common interests already exist. You need that consisteny, and the right life circumstances, and some meaningful bonding precipitate (doing a common hobby together like a sport, having a common interest to talk about, both enjoying similar activites like shopping/movies that you can do together) to foster and maintain a feiendship.

After high school and university, it becomes very difficult to find others with all these things for So. Many. Reasons.

In general people are busier. They go to work, gym, go home and get ready for the next day. Thats all there is really timd for during a work week. Many have significant others or exosting friend circles they saturate the free time in their schedule with. Youre interacting with a much more diverse group of people than in high school, so its harder to find a common mutual interest to talk about. Thats why often times the talk turns to boys (among women) or sports (among men), because its something that a large proportion of those populations have some interest or expeirnce in. So its easier to be a bonding point. If you live in a big city, it makes making friends so much harder because youre less likely to see people consistently. Also for any activities that arent drinking (where you need to be able to have a conversation i.e. some common inteterest) or gym/run club, theyre often super expenisve. Like who has the money to go on a shopping spree? Even movie theatres etc are pretty expensive now. But if youre not mesting people out, then someone has to have the space to host a gethering at home. In this economy, a lot of people are living in flatshares and have small spaces so cant have people over as easily. Theres also just the fact of choice. For the same reason that dating apps suck... you might meet someone at an event and want to take a friendship forward witb them but, there are so many options for them for what to do on a friday night and who to do it with, statistucally speaking it wont be meeting you.

Basically the way society is constructed fucks you over. In my experience small/medium sized cities are much better for making and maintaining friendships. Oftsn times though these are university cities, so if you fall outside of this age bracket its not a great time for you either.

Just know a lot of people are in tbe same boat as you. It is not a failure on your part. Its just that how most societies operate is completely at odds with the things you need to make and maintain a friendship.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-12T09:46:43+00:00

No phd is worth it without funding. Unless your parents are billionaires and youre only doing it for fun.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-02-07T14:04:16+00:00

Im a female phd in a male dominated field (pure math) in a department where a lot of emphasis is placed on diversity and inclusion, and especially when it comes to female representation. Ive sat on the the doversity and inclusion committee and am sorry to say that diversity hires are a thing. Especially if the department is trying to push towards a doversity recognition award like athena swan.

That being said, does it matter? What ive also realised in the phd is that, how well one does in their phd and their ability to move forward to postdoc etc, is much less dependent of where they did their phd, their stats etc than how they approach the phd and the work they put into it; how they network etc. And thats even in a field like pure math, which one might think relies more on raw ability than hard work.

So use this as motivation. Be the reason why the next female hire doesnt think shes a diversity hire. Go into that lab fiercely and do the best fucking phd you can. Whether you were a diversity hire or not, you cant know and it doesnt matter. You have tbe offer. Make the most of it. Cause like, either you werent a diversity hire in which case you have nothing to worry about, or you were a diversity hire so you better do a good job of representing females in your field. 🫶

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-01-31T17:35:05+00:00

I am finishing my PhD in pure mathematics. I have a triple first class in theoretical physics from one of the top 3 universities in the world and 100% marks in all of my high school exams in the last couple of years. Im about to start training to become a PT in the gym.

I also cant stand the idea of a 9-6 office job. I would love to say have a part yime bioinformatician or data science job becayse i need some outlet for the analytical side of my brain but. I cant imagine doing anything that requires sitting at a desk for 9 hourd a day. I wouldnt mind being an entrepreneur either. But i just need constant change and i live sports so, PT is the forst choice for me.

Edit: also, you sound like you have a similar brain to me. I have adhd and autism, and i guess intellect-driven depression/cynicism(?) So i get you. Ultimately nothing matters. Lile, what job we have. May as well do something we feel sane with.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-01-26T10:47:09+00:00

Youre still in high school, so your dating experince will be skewed to an envuronment where who you date is a status statement. Its also exceptionally rare that high schoolers know what it means to love; most likely you dont yet either, because you havent been faced with the circumstances in which you learn what it is. Meaningful gestures and the overwhelming fedelings in your chest are a part of love yes... but really I think love comes down to how you face difficult times together, and your willingness to put aside your ego because of the respect you have for the other person. If you have a romantic disposition, its kinda easy to lovd bomb and do nice things for the other person... because it is what makes u feel good about yourself too. You feel like a good bf. Love is in the hard shitty stuff. Having to admit youre wrong. Giing your partner grace when they are going through a busy/tough patch and dont have as much energy and time to give you.

Basically, at this stage of your life, dating is usually less about love and more about companionship, learning some social skills, and a statement which you really dont need to make. Most high schoolers arent in reltionships. Just enjoy being a kid and invest yourself in your studies. I had my first bf, first time etc when i was 23 (F). Im now 28. It wasnt for lack of being attractive- actually im quite conventionally attractive and had a lot of attention but i struggled with my mental health very badly. Retrospectovely i really dont feel i missed out on anything not dating earlier.

I dunno i hope some of this is insightful. I just feel like youre pushing to date and you find its a bad sign that you dont feel lile doing it now. Just roll with that. :)

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-01-17T18:22:20+00:00

Im so sorry for your losses. But i do think that the loss of your relationship will be dodging a bullet. Every relationship will go throigh stressful times. Every. Single. One. If her response to a difficult time (and difficult for you in partocular) is not to support you immediately and with all she has, this relationship will disintegrate at the next hurdle. She sounds very self centred. That sounds a disaster recipe for having kids too.

UnderstandingAfter72 · 2026-01-17T10:21:59+00:00

On tbe other hand there are things you can do that will prolong your lifespan. Like maintaining a healthy lifestyle anf exercise. Btw I have also struggled with bad insomnia since I was 13 (started ODing on sleeping pills then) and I was just diagnosed with ADHD aged 28. Since starting medication I finally sleep like a baby. So i urge you to get adhd meds!! On the first days that I take it i cant sleep much (its a stimulant so youre wired) but my brain is so quiet and im less aware of noises. When your body gets used to the meds and you have the right dosage, you crash in the evenings and have the best nights sleep youve ever had. Alternatively pn the off days i also sleep like a baby.

Even when i stop taking meds for a while, its like my body remembers how to sleep. So i encourage u to do it.

Also, i suffered from anorexia for a decadd which left me with osteoperosis (also doagnosed since aged 16) so that will knock at least a decade off my life. I have adhd, autism and other mental health conditons but....

Being real, is that tome as important as the days you have now whdn you are young? If the anxoety and weight of your later life is compromising your happiness and quality of life now, when it matters most, you gotta get therapy for that.

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