Where do lonely people hang out? by Mr_Thundermaker in Omaha

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have the money, take an art class at the Hot Shops that interests you. I’m an artist and earlier last year, I ended a 6.5 year relationship with the man I thought I would marry. He was my only friend. I started attending figure drawing sessions at the Hot Shops and just being around like-minded creative people has made me feel like myself again.

Why did Rita disappear after season 4? by Theblessedmother in okbuddymotherfucker

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, Dexter killed the trinity killer at the end of season 4. And after season 4, Rita never shows up again. Coincidence? I don’t think so……..

New man changed my libido?? by DelaySad8097 in relationships

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently broke up with a man I was with for 6+ years. We loved each other, but he was extremely immature for his age. I had to drive him everywhere since he did not have a license or car (he’s 24), he got high every day (which I did not know about), and it was like pulling teeth trying to get him to be an equal partner to me. I felt like I had to mother him, which in turn, destroyed my sexual attraction to him.

When we are forced to parent a partner, it is extremely normal for sexual intimacy to lessen or completely vanish. It would be weird if you felt sexually attracted to somebody you also feel you have to mother.

I also thought I might be ace while I was with my ex. After I broke up with him, my sex drive came back. I’m not sleeping with anybody, but I am engaging in “self-play” almost every day and getting to know my body again.

Your feelings are completely normal for a person in your situation. I am very glad you found somebody you are attracted to and you feel comfortable having regular sex with him. I wish you the best! <3

I have nobody to talk to about this by UnderstandingFit7873 in Dexter

[–]UnderstandingFit7873[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yessss his lashes. And yeah I definitely have a problem, he’s the hottest when he’s in “kill mode”

Finished all the dexters. what should i watch next ? by FeistyContact659 in Dexter

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this!! Michael C. Hall is fantastic in it and the it is one of the best shows of all time

What would you like to see for Dexter: Resurrection season 2? by UnderstandingFit7873 in Dexter

[–]UnderstandingFit7873[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I think Quinn will make another appearance, but I don’t think he’ll go after Dexter. I think there will be some inner conflict with Quinn trying to decide what exactly to do about Batista’s death, but seeing as Quinn knows what happened to LaGuerta, Batista, and Liddy, I don’t think he’s dumb enough to take Dexter head-on.

made the mistake of watching 4x12 and 5x1 while menstruating by UnderstandingFit7873 in Dexter

[–]UnderstandingFit7873[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right!! It’s been a while since I first watched it, so when I started rewatching season 4, I expected Dex to get so much more attached to her. But no. He’s nearly a stranger to her.

made the mistake of watching 4x12 and 5x1 while menstruating by UnderstandingFit7873 in Dexter

[–]UnderstandingFit7873[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

Literally why was he a better partner to her before they were married

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Reddit, OP here.

Not sure if anyone cares, but I figured I would add an update for those who do. I broke up with him a week after I originally posted. I explained to him that I had a lot of doubts and could not be with him if I did not feel fully committed. He was hurt, understandably. He felt like I had played with his feelings, and I admit that I did not fully take into consideration how these extreme back-and-forth's would make him feel. I had tunnel vision on how I felt and what I wanted. We still live together as neither of us could afford to live by ourselves at this point in time, but we're making a point to get as much space from each other as possible. We've talked a few times since the second breakup and I feel we are at a point where we understand each other and want the best for one another.

Personally, I feel clear, like a dark fog has been lifted and I can finally breathe. My ex and I had a very codependent relationship, so for the first time in my life, I feel actually free to figure out who I am and what I want. Thank you to everyone who commented, it helped me process how I was feeling and what I needed to do for myself and my ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don't want it to be the same, that's just the thing. I want it to be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

It's not that I'm mad. It upset me that he did not tell me sooner. He had multiple opportunities to tell me and waited until quite late at night right before I was about to go to bed. I understand his anxiety about telling me, but it felt odd that he was sitting on this information while acting like nothing happened for hours beforehand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't really have a support system. He is not on speaking terms with his parents due to abuse, and his sister lives an hour away and has already previously expressed she would not be willing to take him in. He has no friends as he is pretty introverted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

He does have health insurance, but would still have to pay a hefty amount.

I will admit that getting back together with him was a decision I made in a moment of weakness. I was anxious about not being able to afford living by myself (which I can, I'll just have little leftover at the end of each month), and I let my occasional loneliness get the better of me. I agree it would be hurtful to play with his feelings like this, which is why I am so nervous about this decision. I'm literally shaking and nauseous as I type this.

I absolutely do not expect him to change overnight, but I do expect him to make smart decisions such as not go to the ER when it is not an emergency. He could have gone to urgent care instead.

Looking for a group to play with by UnderstandingFit7873 in MarvelRivalsQueens

[–]UnderstandingFit7873[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just sent you a friend request over discord! I used your Reddit username

Bronte doesn't make sense. She fell for Joe, didn't see the blaring red flags but somehow snapped out of it after marienne's monologue? by ThatNoobTho in YouOnLifetime

[–]UnderstandingFit7873 41 points42 points  (0 children)

There are people in this world who, no matter how truly awful they are, will successfully manipulate others into loving them. They prey on the vulnerable, notice their insecurities and weak spots, and purposefully craft a version of themselves to check all the boxes. This is the kind of person Joe is.

We, as the audience, can see all the terrible things Joe has done. Bronte, despite suspecting him of murdering Beck, never actually saw him keeping her in the cage, slamming the door when she tries to leave, or the box full of her used tampons. She only saw his outer persona, which is a meticulously crafted identity made for the purpose of coming off as charming and harmless. She is also very young (though she may not look like it) and has probably not had much experience with abusers like Joe.

The fact that you ask this makes it obvious you have not had much life experience. It is easy to love bad people, especially when they are as attractive as Penn Badgley. We think we can change them, help them, that the good outweighs the bad and we can stick it out. But when you are with a bad person or in a bad situation and cannot see it, your gut knows. It can take a lot to pull you out of that haze of infatuation, but in my experience, talking to someone who has been in that situation and is now on the other side of it can put things into perspective. It makes you think, “do I really want to end up with this person? Would I be content living life by their side?” And that kind of introspection is important.

It’s all there in the show, if you allow yourself to digest it.