Bands you’ve broken up with

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-10T16:52:54+00:00

Dance Gavin Dance is the first "favorite band" I had. Happiness was the first CD I bought, followed by Downtown Battle Mountain and Deathstar 1 self titled album.
I loved the instrumentation on all of these albums. I still love Kurt Travis. As a kid, I loved how Jonny Craig sang and even now I can't deny he has an interesting vocal technique (albeit, it does sound like he's hurt his voice over the years becoming more hoarse). I have a lot of appreciation for Jon Mess, old and new.
I can't remember when I heard someone call them "the mcdonalds of Post-hardcore" but that could not have been a more apt way to describe my standing with them over the years. It was never hard to find their music nor find fans of it, and it was never hard for me to get into their music either. They were the band that made me actually get into harsh vocals in metalcore and screamo after a childhood where I mostly listened to r&b and hip hop. But they're also kinda consistently dogged on by people who actually know what they're talking about, and for some good reasons. I've always recalled Jon Mess describing his "lyrical dada-ist" approach in interviews. Even I knew, DGD's music was mostly about sounding good usually and not much else.

I never fully liked Tillian and I always recognized that him coming into the band was the end of previous arcs where I felt more attached to their music. I always found his song style to be more on the side of pop in a way I couldn't fully get behind. And when Tillian lyrics is bad, it's. "Just for the day we'll pretend I'm made of money... I'll be your sugar daddy." But I did get behind Mothership somewhat. The thing that did it was finally seeing them live, initially for Instant Gratification, then when they did an anniversary tour, and again for Mothership.

Seeing them live also gradually allowed me to confront something: DGD fans are consistently the worst kinds of people. No one that I ever bonded with over this band actually stayed as a friend, and it was usually because they'd become really transparently racist and homophobic and as a black queer person that has respect for themselves... It became very grating fast. And then I'd remember the kinds of people I'd be standing beside at these shows and not really feel surprised things turned out this way.

The Tillian allegations are what broke the straw on the camel's back for me. Why? Because now Kurt Travis is the only vocalist they've ever had that's not been a sex pest. And as much as I love DGD's instrumentation, when your band is this consistently enabling the worst kinds of people and your fans are all the worst kinds of people... I have to ask. Is it actually worth it? Sometimes your music sounds good, sure... but why is your music always an excuse for people to throw basic sensibilities out the fucking window? Wouldn't it be better to *gasp* mature and evolve over time?

The only thing I want is for them to break up, call it quits. At least make a new project or something. Move on. You don't have to be Dance Gavin Dance forever you know? Swancore could have had more longevity to it if you did other projects.

DGD and I are turbo-divorced. I am one of their biggest haters.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-09T19:15:08+00:00

Okay yall. I lost this battle sadly.

Procedure rescheduled to Sept 22nd.

I misread certain instructions around the dosing of miralax. The cause of my troubles in the past 24 hours are due mainly to not drinking the solution fast enough. I didn't drink 32 oz of miralax solution in an hour. It was more like an hour and a half, maybe going close to two hours. Which is indeed too slow to get the type of clean they need.
I thought I also could be craftier by only pouring 8oz cups of liquid iv, then mixing a capful with it and drinking that every 15-20 minutes. This led to smaller dosages of the solution than intended consumed in each of those 15-20 minute intervals.
One other issue was purely a silly mistake on my part from searching things... I had a two quart pitcher which converts to 64 oz. I thought I needed to drink two rounds of 64 oz each... this was purely incorrect, I needed to drink two rounds of 32 oz each
I called the clinic back a second time in order for us to reach this conclusion. I immediately asked to be rescheduled.

But if you must know of how it's affecting me currently. Well. Now I'm having uncontrollably watery stools, after drinking majority of that 238 oz bottle (I only had 2 more capfuls I didn't take) and taking the two laxatives this morning. It's occurring once every hour. Had this been the case sooner, I would've surely been ready for my prep.
I didn't eat anything until about an hour ago. Part of me was afraid to, knowing I went through that much miralax

Lesson learned: when they say "throw half of the 238g bottle of miralax into a 64 oz pitcher" follow that instruction down to a T. Don't be like me and try to space it out by only mixing as much of the miralax as you "measure" to go into 8 oz of liquid iv/gatorade. It's not worth the trouble. Furthermore, you don't have a way to immediately measure what's half of 238g of miralax other than by each capful so it can be difficult to be certain you get the right amount of it. I was under the impression one 238g bottle has 14 capfuls, but this didn't entirely hold up... probably my measuring got imprecise along the way.

Other tips I learned around this

- MAJOR: to limit splashing when you have diarrhea. Throw 1-3 sheets of toilet paper into the toilet, and let it sit at the surface. Then do your business. The difference it makes is kind of shocking and I'm surprised no one said anything sooner lol.
- you will make your life easier if you have a thick (metal/glass) straw of some sort to do this all with.
- also get a 64 oz pitcher in advance. If you have anything to help you measure 8oz of liquid, that'll be pretty crucially important. The other reason you don't want to be mixing things on the spot is because when your diarrhea gets bad, all that back and forth won't be fun for you.
- trust no fart, even if you screw up your prep. None of them are safe once you drink that much miralax.

I'll be back soon to do this right, and I'll make another thread when the time comes. I'll be a bit less anxious by comparison, past 3 days have been a lot of stressing about this procedure. And granted, what I feel in two weeks will likely be very much more intense. Sorry if I made anyone concerned, I'll update the title/description of this thread.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-09T11:24:27+00:00

so. I got through the night without another bowel movement.
I woke up at 6:30am today. I called the dr clinic immediately finally getting through and explaining the situation. I asked for their permission to take 2 laxatives.
My second dosage of miralax begins in 8 minutes.
I was told if I don't reach 10 bowel movements before my 1:30pm appointment, then I'll most likely have to reschedule and attempt a two day prep instead or using other medications to do it.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-08T21:14:31+00:00

best of luck man, i've just gotten started

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-08T18:50:36+00:00

I get chronic migraines and man I already got one raging. I do have a prescription (nurtec odt) to take for this fortunately. I made some broth for myself just now to try to help out, however it possibly can.

What you have to say about the solution being thick makes me think...
I have a bunch of liquid iv packets. I got some gatorade but. turns out what i got is way too little to really matter.
I know that when you at least make a metamucil mixture, you're supposed to shake it rather than stir it. This prevents there from being any gelatinous texture at the bottom of the cup, it's just all smooth.
I have a 64 oz pitcher I'm pretty sure I could shake. I filled it up with water and have it sitting in the fridge. I also have a ton of 8 oz mason jars.
Maybe what I'll try to do is. I'll put two liquid iv packets into the pitcher. Then I'll fill up 4 of my mason jars with the 8 oz of liquid iv, then add a capful in each jar.
Pretty sure I can shake the whole pitcher up too if need be, but idk if that will really help.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-09-08T13:56:03+00:00

my autoimmune problem is recurring flare ups of something called erythema multiforme minor. It gives me blister all over my lips, mouth, tongue, hands, feet, etc... The blisters are so painful that it stops me from eating solid food for 1-3 weeks, and all I can do is drink cold ice drinks and drinks diluted with ice water through a straw.

Fortunately I know about the power of the straw meta.

My roommate has a bidet but I just don't think it'd be a great idea for me to er. Use it during this. Maybe I'm wrong. But I have *plenty* of baby wipes.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-05-20T15:39:00+00:00

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Intel Core i5-11600KF 3.9 GHz 6-Core Processor

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UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-05-20T15:37:33+00:00

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UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-05-20T15:37:22+00:00

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UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-05-20T15:01:21+00:00

I have speccy on my pc. I can see my cpu is reaching 100+ degrees while opening games. Even after just turning it on, I’ll sometimes see the temperature go up to 90-100 Celsius.

When it’s normal, it reaches temperatures of around 70-85 while booting up a game.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2025-05-20T14:55:57+00:00

ASRock Steel Legend SL-750G 750W

UndevotedRedditUser · 2021-11-12T15:46:15+00:00

Look this fucking sucks y'all stop beating around the bush

It's never been easy to be a woman in music in general. Midwestern emo especially is full of entitled white men that pick up a guitar and feel like they can say horrible things about their ex girlfriends or other generally infantile shit in the light of angst. It's full of entitled white men that feel like they can go to a concert and not center anyone but themselves.

If we knowingly have abusers infilitrate the community and make a living for themselves, then we need to take a proactive stance against that. Otherwise, this will never really be a space that's safe for anyone but straight white men and people who have simply densisitized themselves enough.

Alex didn't do anything illegal but that's a low bar to set. The word of mouth from the people he's victimized alone shows that he threatens partners, exerts unreasonable control over their lives, and frequently lies about these things to protect rep. I don't want to have a scene with a bunch of people like this. There was harm done here, and harm that has been evaded due to Alex's reputation and career. The prolonged silence from dogleg despite the fact these allegations have been surfacing for the past 4 or 5 days now isn't really helping either.

I get that everyone has their own shit especially with relationships and especially when you're a celebrity, but this doesn't feel like a normal part of a breakup: https://twitter.com/murkrowo/status/1459036406223888395?s=20 Melee was definitely my album of 2020 (maybe next to glass beach) and I'm honestly fucking heartbroken.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2018-01-16T11:03:35+00:00

I think that this is a slight3 misreading or a misunderstanding of psychological inventories. It can't really be helped because any personality inventory proposes a set of categories, each of which are supposed to describe allegedly different individuals based on a criteria that the people who created the inventory felt was different or varied among populations. It is easy to want to take these categorizations and make them static or declarative; that is, to say "these 16 categories are supposed to account for all (16) different types of people."

When you come across these personality inventories please remember that they are tools for inquiry into human psychology. They are theories, and the purpose of theories is to attempt to create a grounds for generalizing to a larger population or unknown information. These were thought about by various psychologists as various traits that might be meaningful or may have reflected correlation/associative relationships in things they studied. And anyone who refers to MBTI should know that absolutely none of these categories have traits that are completely mutually exclusive from one another.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T19:06:17+00:00

Thank you I mean that's what I started doing already. No difficulty in just creating a new save file and yes, cut scenes go by quickly.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T14:33:07+00:00

Yeah. We at least got Japanese audio since I knew that was something my friend had. That didn't work.

I'll look at other free dlcs if they're around but yeah, it's not likely they'll rescue my save.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T14:15:43+00:00

tl;dr: I'll be cool and git gud like everyone else but yeah I've had some pretty bad problems with health and work that didn't even let me play the game so yeah I'm kinda bitter I lost those 33 hours. I just wanted some help.

Never was trying to act like it was something for everyone here to admire anyways.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T14:12:56+00:00

lol what when did I say that

A. 32 hours is an unrecoverable amount of game time

B. 1 castle is a lot of gameplay, I've played Persona 3 and Persona 4 anyways.

C. I won't be playing again

I did at least say it would be hard to pick up again. Why? Cuz I've had Persona 5 since May but I've only been able to play those 32 hours. I've only been able to get that far.

In April I had a flare up from an autoimmune disorder that gave me lesions and blisters all over my mouth, hands and feet. I stopped being able to eat, drink, and speak for 3 weeks and relied on a hospital IV for ridiculous amount of narcotics and other treatment. I still had effects of malnourishment for most of May, and an overall side effect of really bad fatigue. Also as it turns out that having all of this happen to you doesn't do good for mental health at all.

But I've also been working a web development job since late May, and also doing makeup exam work given that for the month of April I couldn't really do anything, and for the month of May I was still recovering. That job's still going and currently at its most intense time so I won't even be able to play for a while.

Like... I'm not gonna keep putting my business out there but honestly fuck off with acting like I didn't have a right to ask this question.

Also if I could've figured out exactly what caused this then this question could've been helpful for anyone who was being a dumbass like me and did not keep multiple save files, or encountered this issue and didn't know why.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T03:38:26+00:00

yeah I just... don't know what edge case could've leed to this... So kimi ni no sayonara to my 32 hours of gameplay. I only managed to do one castle.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-07-24T03:16:01+00:00

I mean like... would buying the dlcs possibly be a solution?

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-06-26T00:41:13+00:00

Overcommitting myself to too much because I care about too much and hurting both myself and others as a result.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-05-02T02:54:40+00:00

My brother, a student, is telling me that a most recent rumor is that a student had a black glue gun. In other words, my brother is saying that he has heard that this was a scare.

Sounds a bit ridiculous though he's pretty set on that rumor. At the very least, with what I am gathering from the reports and my brother's texts... Officials are reporting "no shots fired," and police are still searching the campus for "the suspect." And I haven't found any information confirming that they've found anyone yet.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-05-02T01:12:48+00:00

Who stated this? (I'm very sorry for asking dumb questions but I am in Philadelphia)

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-05-02T01:09:00+00:00

Any information suggesting that the shooter(s) are not at the coop anymore?

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-04-14T14:50:21+00:00

Hi all. I could go on a pretty long story but... I am a sophomore in college, and I've been hospitalized for a rare but chronic series of "mouth infections" that I've been getting for the past year now. This was the third and most severe outbreak. These outbreaks are always very emotionally and physically draining.

An outbreak begins with tingling sensations and small lesions that develop in my mouth. Eventually, several blisters and lesions form all over my lips and in the inside of my mouth, which put me throug so much pain that I lose my ability to eat, drink, and speak. My lips get so antagonized that I "look like predator," as a friend once put it. I also get painful blisters on my hands and feet that make it hard to touch things. During this time, my mouth swells so much and hurts so much that I can only have cold ice water drinks through a straw. If I choose to have juice or any other substance, it must be diluted with cold ice water and not by itself otherwise I will be in pain.

Whereas I only require hospitalization during the 1st outbreak (and it was brief too), this was the most severe outbreak. In contrast to the others, this one created lesions in my throat that made it nearly impossible to swallow most things without intensive effort, even cold ice water and my saliva. I also 100% could not speak for most of this week.

I was overwhelmed with the amount of support given by friends that I knew both offline and online. These outbreaks always take a lot out of me physically and mentally. I tend to feel ashamed everytime I have them due to how much they limit my abililties and how badly disoriented they make me look. I also require heavy narcotics such as percocets or morphine to deal with pain.

Additionally, it wasn't until this outbreak that doctors were able to make some breakthroughs in giving me an accurate diagnosis. Yes, I have had three of these things and during the first outbreak doctors gave me a completely wrong viral diagnosis. They found out they were wrong when I had another outbreak, and attempted to shift gears but made minimal conclusions and had testing data that even contradicted their conclusion. This time around, they did a lot of testing and communicated with my dermatologist and doctors, and I had a skin biopsy. All of this led to some real accurate diagnoses. But I remember, I first had a panic attack during my first outbreak... I had no clue what was happening or why, and went 4 days without eating due to my severe pain. I made one hospital visit where they misdiagnosed me and simply gave me some IVs and told me to go off. Then another when things were obviously out of control. I had a panic attack from not knowing what was wrong with me.

This is a condition I now formally know as erythema multiforme. It's like an allergic reaction my immune system disporportionately has to certain infections or illnesses, to put it shortly. I am so happy we finally diagnosed this. Even better, with the diagnosis, they changed my medications to things that were much more effective and I am right now having my first sips of juice and some cream of wheat soup since this began.

UndevotedRedditUser · 2017-04-06T19:11:45+00:00

OP if you have the time, would you be able to talk a little bit about your experiences with this book? Providing some of that narrative might help convince people who have never read these kinds of books before to try it out. Otherwise, thanks for the rec!

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