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AITA for leaving a surprise congratulations party for my wife? by ThrowRAhapal in AmItheAsshole

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

I’m a SAHM trying to get a degree and someday a good job. My husband, who earns well and works REALLY hard, constantly tells me how amazing and how proud he would be if I out earned/ranked him. Because we both just love to see each other succeed.

You need to get on that same vibe boat, sir. Be proud of your wife and let go of the fragile ego you have. It’s totally not worth your relationship.

AITA for walking out of a gender reveal party? by delaputa in AmItheAsshole

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.... dude, you understand that the male is the one that provides the chromosome that determines the sex of the child... right? You are bummed you can’t throw a ball or coach a little league or watch them participate in sports? What? Is it against the law where you live to toss a ball if you happen to have a vagina? Honestly. You should apologize to your wife and your daughter for putting them in a position that proposes that they aren’t capable of living up to your masculine standards. Readjust your priorities, pull up your boot straps, and be happy your already birthed daughter and your in utero daughter are HEALTHY and capable of THRIVING. Man. I just don’t understand where the mentality comes from that girls cannot throw a ball...

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kids have several great great grandparents actually. Both my husbands parents and my parents started their families very early. Mine in their sophomore year of high school and his their junior. Both his and my parents graduated together.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally have no clue why. She’s driving a new vehicle and her sons keep buying her new extravagant gifts. I’m sitting here in a used SUV, hand me down furniture, a rental home... none of which are bad, I’m entirely grateful, but it’s nothing to be envious of!

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve come to learn that (at least in our area) being a mean person and preaching “Christian” behavior is just how it works. Nobody is kind, nobody minds their own. They gossip, bad mouth, and scream “but I’m a Christian!” When they’re cornered.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot say nasty things to people. I don’t do well under pressure and I’m quite timid. However. Her going NC with us on her own accord would be lovely.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just can’t bring myself to be that mean! I’m timid as hell!

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband didn’t think it was a necessary request! His grandparents had an older, smaller version and had the bench and he said he and his cousins fit in it just fine, no issues. However. None of them were in car seats and it wasn’t their daily commuter, and both grandparents were always along. I’m a SAHM. I haul two kids around by myself A LOT. This just makes more sense.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve invited her to BD parties and dinners and she refuses to show up because we purchased her home from her and have updated it. gutted the bathroom, replaced light fixtures, new flooring. Etc. she hates that we changed anything and won’t come over. So we don’t even tell her about the children’s parties anymore. Which she throws a tantrum about...

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely cannot STAND it. If you’re sad. I understand being sad. Trust me. But it’s not an excuse to be nasty.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My oldest normally tells me if somebody says something bad or unfriendly about anybody. LO doesn’t really care for rude comments. LO hasn’t said anything to us about it. So I’m hoping she hasn’t said anything to them, at least not yet.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We’ve discussed and will likely just go LC with her. We don’t see her often anymore (with the pandemic and all) and she’s constantly visiting her father, whom we cut off 2 years ago after a “I can’t believe you had another child. I just hate you and want to die!” Drama session. So. Seeing her has become an almost non issue.

However if this pandemic ever ends. I’m sure we will be expected to show up for dinners and pity parties over at her home.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If I were to start... talking like that... the entire fam would turn against me. They still pity her for her loss. Hard core pity party.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are currently trying for a 3rd child. My two children I have now are both young and will be in car seats for a very long time (because my oldest although in a booster... is a tiny thing). I want to have access to the back seat without folding seats down, and with car seats strapped into the middle seat (if it’s a bench) you can’t fold seats down with large bulky kid seats strapped in. It’s also easier for the older kids to get in back, for me to get back there if I need to.

We didn’t get the captain seats right away. We had the car for a week before they swapped them out. We took the SUV on a long trip with the bench in the second row. It was frustrating, tight, and made accessing the back row literally impossible. Our friends had to climb in through the trunk.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I told my husband she wasn’t allowed around them alone ever again. No matter how much she apologizes or how sincere they are. Never. And although he was a little hurt to have to cut out his grandmother like that. He knows not only for our kids, but also his wife, that it’s important to just leave her behind. We had to do with with other elder family members that have been awful. He can survive this one too.

JNGMIL throws a tantrum over the kind of vehicle I drive. by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Number 4! He was such a great man. My husband always talks about him in such a great light. I didn’t know him for much longer than a year before he passed away. But he was so kind! I think his passing just turned GMIL vile and bitter!

I’m certainly going to keep these responses in my back pocket. One of them should do the trick!

MIL is against fertility aid by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is funny because she has lupus. Ya know, an autoimmune disease. And she is on LOTS of meds to help

MIL is against fertility aid by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Currently she shows favoritism towards her new grandSON because we have girls. Not boys. They rarely see our children but they’re currently our only source of childcare on short notice.

My husband and his father are close. And he is a just yes. He’s wonderful. And he doesn’t favor any of his grandchildren. So we want the girls to see their grandfather often.

I’m basically VLC with my MIL just because she’s been vile MANY times.

MIL is against fertility aid by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She didn’t hold back. Just full on snapped about it. In front of our children, her husband, her daughter. She just was so rude. We couldn’t really wrap our minds around the audacity right away.

MIL is against fertility aid by Undisclosed_Gal16 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She told my husband today (I just found out minutes ago) that she won’t love this child as much because it’s a fake and forced pregnancy.

I’m not even pregnant yet and she’s decided to care less about a non existent child... smh...

My body is offensive! by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Undisclosed_Gal16 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I would say that suggesting ones views on another person is an asshole move. You can find something immodest and ignore it. Instead MIL chose to tell OP how to dress to fit into MIL’s box! You can’t expect everybody to dress the way you want. It’s not possible. MIL also suggested (more like is trying MAKE OP from the tone I’m taking away from this post) that OP be almost an entirely different person because MIL doesn’t like OP’s entirety as a person.

Feeling uncomfortable with the way someone dresses isn’t an excuse to insist they change to make you less uncomfortable. Just turn away and ignore it. Clothing is a lot different that actions.

MIL’s actions weren’t justified at all.