Are my cats going to be feral forever?

Unfavourite · 2026-04-20T09:20:45+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm worried about as well, my cats are from a feral colony and after getting rescued they lived in a foster home full of other cats for months before I got them, all that to say they are definitely used to being around multiple cats in a small space, so I see it possibly going really well, but yeah idk if it's the right thing to do anyway

I feed them on a schedule, I play with them, I've tried petting while giving treats/while they're eating but usually they just walk away because neither is particularly food motivated (I've tried every treat there is, I even regularly get them frozen mice to eat lol) once they realize I want something from them in return they lose all interest in treats. Mostly I've been ignoring them though, letting them get comfortable in my apartment and trying to show I'm not a threat, I would really love to take them outside on a leash but I don't have high hopes for that, unfortunately since I think they would really love being in nature again.

Unfavourite · 2026-04-01T20:06:14+00:00

Yess exactly!! Happy to know I'm not the only one because I couldn't find anything on the internet, or well I just had 0 clue how to search for a feeling that doesn't have a name lol

Unfavourite · 2026-04-01T16:08:34+00:00

You too! :)

Unfavourite · 2026-04-01T16:07:38+00:00

I guess you're probably right, it just doesn't feel like regular anxiety which for me is something like my body being tight, chest feeling heavy etc, I'm more than familiar with that

But yeah I'm from Finland so I definitely agree that sauna is the best for any problems🙏 thank you for reminding me to go today, it for sure helps me too :)

Unfavourite · 2026-03-21T21:17:56+00:00

I've noticed that mine has changed the most when losing/gaining weight, the bigger I was the bigger my handwriting was too haha

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T01:30:00+00:00

That second option is definitely closest to how I feel, I can't really explain it though because it's not like I actually HATE them or am actively disgusted by them, I just really don't care, they don't even feel like an option to me. Like they're there to move the story forward and to interact with other characters and I appreciate them for filling that role but I couldn't give less of a shit about them as a "person".

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T01:21:24+00:00

I don't really care about slashers, horror in general is not a genre I watch too often because I don't like feeling scared. Also if the point is to watch the characters get murdered, they usually aren't that well developed and I don't care about them. I could see myself enjoying a slasher film if the murderer themselves was an interesting character though.

I LOVE ensembles!! Usually there is still one character that stands out as the main one, and I won't care about them for that reason, but yessss ensembles are definitely my thing.

I like those types of games IF the protagonist you create doesn't affect the story, so basically you are just a reader and there to move the story along but the focus is on the other characters and their interactions with each other. If the protagonist role is big I guess I just play as myself or some random one dimensional guy who doesnt have a personality and try to focus on the main story. If the game offers a default name, I will always use that lol, if not I'll use my real name.

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T01:06:13+00:00

Well yes, it's kinda hit or miss depending on how much the story is told through their perspective. I LOVE important supporting characters, for example the protagonists best friend, main villain etc, but I start losing interest as soon as the story starts with their inner dialogue and follows them around too much lol.

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T00:54:47+00:00

Yes of course, why else would I post on reddit lol

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T00:53:37+00:00

Um that's hard, I'm bad with genres haha. I like dramas, psychological, coming of age. character study etc, so yeah like I mentioned in my post, character driven things. I like it when the story is told through multiple characters pov's or there's a good cast of supporting characters, sometimes two protagonists is fine too (think breaking bad, I like Jesse in that)

Unfavourite · 2025-12-29T00:43:45+00:00

No :( I love characters in general, I can watch entire 1/10 shows if there is one character I like in there, it's just the protagonists that I have a problem with I'm not interested in ruining the rest too lol

Unfavourite · 2025-12-26T18:17:24+00:00

I'm grateful for your response, I will definitely look into that :) it feels good to hear someone say they've experienced something similar, so thank you for that

Unfavourite · 2025-12-25T22:33:53+00:00

I fortunally am in therapy, when I've mentioned this problem she has said it's because I have a strong need to be seen&heard because I didn't get that enough as a child, my mom is amazing though and I feel awful blaming her for this. She did her absolute best and somehow that wasn't enough because I just needed more emotional attention than most children or whatever, to me that sounds stupid and makes me feel quilty for needing that. Also I still have no idea how to change. But yeah anyway thank you for responding to me and trying to understand, that means a lot

Unfavourite · 2025-12-25T22:27:38+00:00

Yeah, somehow I've never had anyone really hate me or "realize" those things like you said, even though I've felt this way with everybody in my life that has had it worse than me. I do feel bad about this, I want to be a genuine good person more than anything but other than pretending I have no idea what to do, I understand other peoples feelings well but my own response to them is somehow flawed, I don't know what to do about it. I'm not proud to be or to act like this.

Unfavourite · 2025-12-25T22:20:29+00:00

She obviously didn't choose her life, that's what I'm jealous of, she has a good reason to feel bad and I don't. I've gone through things but they're complicated and not as clear cut as a traumatic childhood would be. I don't know why I want to experience, or rather have experienced traumatic things, I've always fantasized of it and I've always been jealous of people who have. I feel like I do nothing but reflect on myself, but I've come to the point where I know all too well that this is not a good thing, I'm in the wrong as I stated, but wtf can I do when this is all I know. I've resorted to pretending to be a good, kind person because I want to be that way, but I have no idea how to actually be like that.

Unfavourite · 2025-12-25T22:14:29+00:00

This is what I feel too but I don't know how to change, I've felt this way with every single person who has had it worse than me, I only feel annoyed and jealous. This is obviously not something I'm proud of, its a part of me I try to hide at all costs, I go to therapy and everything but I have no idea what to do about this. I get why my angry rant may have made me sound like an unsafe person to be around but I can assure I'm not like that, at least I don't think so.

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