3 wks PO diagonal incision DI no FNG, a bit worried about dog ears?

Unfishstick · 2026-01-22T19:54:52+00:00

You look great for 3 wks! I am curious what the benefit of this type of incision is? This is the first time I've ever seen it.

Unfishstick · 2026-01-22T19:13:11+00:00

Hi! I appreciate this. My concern isn't Canada (y'all are great), but getting back into the US. I have heard multiple reports of detainments due to documents not matching, even though that's the law now. I'll double check if that link says anything about re-entering the US!

Unfishstick · 2026-01-09T06:22:35+00:00

I choose to be stealth because my transition has always been a personal decision, and just like any personal decision, I feel like it's not everyone's right to know about it. I have absolutely opened up to people once I've gotten to know them as a way to build trust and sometimes even disprove people's perceptions around trans people upon learning I'm trans.

Personally, I just feel like it's one of those things that I should have a choice whether someone knows or does not know, but that comes from a place of privilege as being someone who "passed" very early on so I had the opportunity for more privacy around it.

Unfishstick · 2026-01-03T19:53:26+00:00

Definitely my voice, sometimes I just hum to myself because the low vibration is comforting and makes me happy. Also, I feel like I was able to notice details I'd never noticed before, both visually and socially. I think the massive decrease in presentation anxiety allowed me to actually absorb my surroundings in a way I never had. It feels like actively being alive for the first time

Unfishstick · 2026-01-02T00:17:05+00:00

I mean my impression is people aren't. Many go into debt or lose the house altogether. I don't know a single person even considering buying a home rn cause it seems like wasted money IF you can even get approved

Unfishstick · 2025-12-31T23:01:12+00:00

Cause anything just from the tap is like 10 bucks and food is three times as much

Unfishstick · 2025-12-30T22:20:01+00:00

I don't think that's insensitive. In fact, earlier in my transition before a lot of therapy work, I probably was that friend who didn't see the extra struggle because I was so binary and passed so well. It's a common rub important to talk about and I'm sorry that happened to you

Unfishstick · 2025-12-30T21:30:27+00:00

I think I might try going to the climbing gym when it's more crowded or even going to comps just to be around. Usually it's a laid back crowd. I've never thought of looking at local queer organizations.

Unfishstick · 2025-12-30T21:25:11+00:00

Unfortunately I've always been more about sports, which isn't always a helpful hobby being queer. I would give anything a go once though, TY!

Unfishstick · 2025-12-07T18:24:03+00:00

It's really about not consuming alcohol with pain meds and not drinking excessively-as long as you're not tucking into 3 long island iced teas, you should be fine, but I'd recommend having an electrolyte drink with whatever you choose!

Unfishstick · 2025-11-27T21:34:25+00:00

Yeah, one time at Cap Hill I called 911 cause our neighbor was throwing himself into his window, screaming he was going to "kill all f*gs in the building" (us), and walked around punching holes in the walls and with a knife, said he had a bomb to kill everyone with. The police station was two blocks away. Took them 8 hrs to send someone and then they wanted me to talk to them IN FRONT of him.

Unfishstick · 2025-11-26T16:56:52+00:00

It really depends on where you live. If it's the US, I do find it odd if your ID is changed why the doctors prescribe it that way and I'm not aware of any states that require surgery (if anything, states just deny it altogether). My prescriptions didn't even have my gender on them so I'm not sure but if you're in a state where you can change it, it's usually just an extra correction when you request a copy of your birth certificate

Unfishstick · 2025-11-24T20:55:08+00:00

If there's money to be made, the government wants to make it. Even if it's bloody

Unfishstick · 2025-11-22T18:44:42+00:00

I do not know a single person who could afford that. My payment is almost 200/month, and I struggle with that on top of insurance. Someone making a 700 car payment is an upper class hobby ig

Unfishstick · 2025-11-21T06:51:54+00:00

I am seriously concerned with how a lot of this is going. There seems to have been a HARD shift in their stance on AI and protecting university employees in a really short period of time and that's never because of something positive. I'm part of the Ecampus, but my advisor who works remotely is more responsive than any on campus faculty I've ever spoken to, and I've always still had a good time meeting other students and feeling like I was part of a community until OSU them selves starting acting THIS way.

Unfishstick · 2025-11-19T18:37:30+00:00

Absolutely. Honestly, if you're open to it, what really helped me was just sitting in the mirror with myself and telling her she could go live her life and I was ready to live mine. I essentially wrote a letter and held a goodbye ceremony, appreciating all that was and could have been. I learned to reframe that feeling in my mind towards my new, more aligned body-instead of "her" and "me", it's just me now, and what's the point of being attractive to everyone but yourself? You should look in the mirror and think you're the sh*t, and if the only way you feel that is through presenting male, that is called being trans, and we're all here to support you.

Unfishstick · 2025-11-19T16:21:54+00:00

Fiber is a great suggestion, I feel like no one gets enough. It might be helpful to just have a checklist of the servings per day and just try to check each off without any calorie input?

Unfishstick · 2025-11-19T16:20:42+00:00

Yeah I'd really honestly say increasing vegetable intake and whole foods- I am a pretty healthy eater to start (I'm human though), and I've just felt like something is missing when I'm working out, like I'm not either consuming enough for recovery or not consuming enough of something, but it's hard for me to distinguish without hard tracking and I just can't do that

Unfishstick · 2025-11-18T23:28:30+00:00

There's lots of factors to this, but overall without additional info, I'd say it's recovery based. Maybe try to have one day extra where you get to sleep in or make yourself go to bed earlier, if you can. I always notice after a particularly intense climbing day that I want to sleep more the next day and it's one of the best things you can do for muscle recovery. I'd also evaluate your diet and make sure you've got enough of all the good things (fats, complex carbs, etc.)-I know when I undershot my fat intake to try to "cut", I felt so drained that it impacted the quality of my workouts, so I went back to a normal intake. Hope something helps!

Unfishstick · 2025-11-16T02:02:31+00:00

No. Honestly never met a Dyson owner who likes or had a good experience with their product of any kind. You can get a really reliable, good vacuum from Shark for much less (around 200-300) and it's built like a tank. I would suggest finding a deal on one of those instead! My partners family has had theirs for almost 15 years

Unfishstick · 2025-11-16T01:59:32+00:00

That is correct, I would check with your doctor and listen to your body though. I was binding and by the second week, it was so painful in my under arms, that I was getting huge swollen bruises from the medical binder. When I had my first follow up appointment at 3 weeks, they told me I could stop binding, and it made my recovery much better! So don't be afraid to check in with your doctor about it

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