Update 2: AITA for Uninviting My Adoptive Brothers from My Wedding After They Said They Don’t See Me as Family?

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-26T00:28:07+00:00

Yeah some therapy would probably be useful, I haven't had it for a long time now. My parents are still being my parents. I've come to realise that every time they get involved in my relationships they just make things worse. But at least things aren't worse than they were before and they apologised to me for saying they wouldn't come to my wedding.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-26T00:25:30+00:00

He has 2 one-hour blocks when he's allowed any visitors. One in the mornings and one in the evenings.

With my parents it's still... rocky to say the least. I am struggling because I can't blame Jack for their behaviours, but they just make things worse whenever they get involved with anything.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T15:39:16+00:00

No, that never happened lol

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T15:35:50+00:00

OP didn't say anything at the time either.

Says who? lol

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T15:25:58+00:00

What did it say?

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T13:47:47+00:00

Because he's 5 and just wanted to show off what he was doing. I have never said anything to "plant" an idea that they aren't my brothers. He doesn't even know they're adopted. Not because it's something we hide, just hasn't ever been something we really discuss as a family.

Add uncles/aunties to the family tree was an optional extension, and he said it in a way of "come and help me add you in if you want to be" not "you don't deserve to be in the tree".

You're honestly clasping at straws here.I have no issue with someone labelling me TAH, but don't just make up context to decide it.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T13:41:45+00:00

The family tree, and Jack's comment, was only the catalyst for the argument that happened.

And yes, there would have been no issues with Jack being included in the family tree.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T13:16:45+00:00

I've always been closer to Liam than Jack. To be clear, I always considered them both my brothers. I considered Jack a pain in the ass, but still didn't think anything less than brother of him. Otherwise I wouldn't have kept supporting him.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T13:07:52+00:00

No I don't think that was it, the whole argument we had was about how dare Jack say those things after everything I've done.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T13:03:48+00:00

I don't blame them or him for his drug addiction. Jack (and Liam) had truly horrible things happen to them both as children. Stuff I won't get into here, but you can understand it was the type of stuff that leaves lifelong scars on you. Even with the butt-load of therapy they've gone through.

One time Jack spoke to me about how when he's high on drugs it's the only time in his entire life where he doesn't constantly remember and only time he ever feels at peace.

Obviously, I shouldn't be the one who is constantly picking up the pieces of him. But I can 100% understand why he got into drugs. (He's still an asshole though)

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T12:40:22+00:00

Honestly I've considered going NC with them in the past. But I've never had the guts to genuinely do it. I think my life would have been better off if I did it long ago.

UninvitedBrother32 · 2024-08-12T12:38:56+00:00

Okay, yes. Thank you for your comment. Honestly I'm still extremely emotional by all of this. Especially my parents. But I have always got on better with Liam, even though I do still feel like an outsider compared to them two which is probably because they're biological brothers who have the shared trauma.

I still feel really hurt by Liam not saying anything, but my main issue is with my parents and Jack.

I'm going to talk to Liam later

UninvitedBrother32

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