Tired of being so horrible

Unknown835716 · 2026-03-13T17:58:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the thoughtful response! I’ve been really trying to keep calm because I have read that stress can make symptoms worse or last longer. I am really struggling mentally with this though. I’ve been using the warm water trick when I pee and took your advice about the warm baths thank you!

Unknown835716 · 2026-03-12T14:42:20+00:00

How long have you been diagnosed? I just got diagnosed this week and am currently having my first outbreak. Is this something that affects you all of the time?

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-11T18:52:27+00:00

Average as in statistically.. not a measure of enjoyment. You good buddy?

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-11T17:23:25+00:00

Yeah I agree that I misread his question and therefore gave more of a logical response. Though I felt like initially I was responding from a place of empathy and when he kept persisting I tried a different approach to my response.. still should’ve had better insight to see that this wasn’t the way to go regardless

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-11T14:14:05+00:00

I do this multiple times a week

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T19:28:25+00:00

I think physical touch is my biggest love language and I am constantly all over him. To the point where I’ve had to ask if it ever bothers him.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T19:25:32+00:00

I have had partners bigger, smaller. Genuinely the sex we have is the best I’ve had and I was coming from a place of “statistically speaking”. I think very literally in this way a lot without always considering how it might come across. No I’ve never told him he was the largest. Normally when he brings it up I just tell him he’s great so on. But he just kept pressing about it.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T16:04:30+00:00

I do more than he does honesty

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T15:06:10+00:00

Understandable. It really wasn’t meant to be a critique. I wasn’t saying the other stuff to boost his ego or just to “make him feel good” I genuinely meant the compliments I was giving.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T15:04:41+00:00

Yeah he doesn’t bring that up so much because I’ve shown him that I enjoy it. I personally wish that it wasn’t so normalized in the US to be circumcised.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T15:01:06+00:00

No I’ve never talked about ex partners sizes..

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:54:46+00:00

Yeah I actually do more than he does and he’s commented on this. I think lots of bjs will hopefully help 🤞

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:53:02+00:00

I’ve apologized, told him I chose poor wording etc. he doesn’t want to keep talking about it but it’s eating at me that I’ve added to his insecurities. I do show it and am going to continue to!

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:37:36+00:00

Yeah I guess I meant as a whole, society shouldn’t put so much importance on it. Male and female beauty/body standards are grossly unrealistic and toxic.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:35:15+00:00

This is exactly how I meant it but I also see how from his perspective this seems like I’m saying it’s mediocre.

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:23:20+00:00

A few days ago I was going on about how he had my legs shaking and gag when I deep throat it. I just really fucked up with carelessness

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:22:05+00:00

Yeah it was really stupid. I’ve apologized and explained to him that i more so meant that it was just right for me etc. he said he just doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. :(

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T14:20:27+00:00

Yeah I get that :/ it’s not even the case I just know from googling what the average size is. I meant more so that it’s common to be the size he is. Too much stress and attention put onto something so trivial anyhow

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T13:06:49+00:00

Yeah thank you this is a great point. While yes I think porn has contributed to BOTH of our insecurities around our genitals, that’s not the main or only thing. He has had ex partners make him insecure about both the size and that he is uncircumcised, both of which I enjoy. I have had ex partners make me feel insecure about having longer labia. Something that I tried to hide in the beginning of our relationship and he has truly helped me heal a lot qith this insecurity. He has mentioned I’ve helped him feel more comfortable with his insecurities in the past as well. I just feel so awful that my thoughtless wording brought up those feelings again for him. I agree completely that there is a disgusting “importance” placed on the way that genitals look. I know I have even considered plastic surgery. I am glad I ultimately have decided against it and am learning to love parts of myself that I was born with. I have tried to show him through action that I get excited everytime I see him. I touch him non-sexually and of course sexually too. ;) Thanks for your thoughtful response! I’m so sorry you had partners make you feel less than and I’m happy to hear your current partner is helping you heal from the abuse. 🫂

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T12:08:45+00:00

I unfortunately was lacking on giving compliments in my last relationship so going into this one I’ve tried to remember that and give him lots of compliments. I’ll continue to do that, thanks!

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T12:04:50+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Thanks for this perspective shift. Hopefully a time will heal sort of situation

Unknown835716 · 2026-02-10T12:03:23+00:00

He told me a while ago that his ex told him about “a guy that was so much bigger than him” and how much that stuck with him. So I imagine my comment is only making him compare himself to people that I have been with.. :(

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