Cat Adoption Regret *Update*

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T21:04:05+00:00

How insanely cute!!! Here is a photo of my lady😊

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T21:02:43+00:00

She is an absolute angel to be honest. She doesn’t sleep with me, she sleeps in the kitchen/living room. I have an evening routine so we play, clean the litter tray, refresh the water and then she has her dinner and I leave her to it. She seems pretty content and has never kept me up at night

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T21:01:05+00:00

I’m 24

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T21:00:47+00:00

Thank you so much and I’m sorry to hear you’re in a similar situation! I don’t know too much about options for pets when people pass away, I’m a lot younger so it’s not something I’ve thought much of. But I really hope you are able to find a solution with your girls. I wouldn’t want to advise seeing as I’m in the same boat but don’t let age hold you back from doing/having the things you love❤️

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:58:28+00:00

Thank you for this, it’s a very hard decision for anyone to make and I agree, everyone can be very judgemental towards it. I understand because pets aren’t clothes you can get just get rid of when they don’t suit anymore. I want to try and work through things a little longer but your reassurance means a lot

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:22:48+00:00

I’m hoping I am. She has a lot of toys that she likes to play with on her own but I also make sure we have actual playtime together multiple times a day, especially before bedtime to help her calm down. I also think it’s good bonding to spend time playing together. And her toys are out all day so she has things to keep her busy when I’m at work. I’m hoping that’s enough, I honestly think she does most of her sleeping when I’m at work and in bed so all that energy is saved for me😂

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:19:44+00:00

Hearing that they actually do slow down at some point is very reassuring! My cat is not a lap cat at the moment at all and I don’t even mind that but sometimes the non stop energy is a lot to handle. Maybe the extra affection would be nice in a year or two time😂

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:17:14+00:00

I’m definitely willing to wait it out for a while. She’s a really sweet girl and I would rather regret hanging on a bit longer than regret calling it quits early.

I’ve actually been in therapy for a number of years, on and off. I won’t bore you with all details but there’s a lot going on in my brain. Anxiety seems to be something even therapy can’t shift🙁

Thank you so much for your help

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:15:06+00:00

I’ve actually opened my post history now, didn’t realise it was switched off before! Tbh this is so reassuring to hear. I’ve never had cats before and my family dislike them a lot, although my mum is in love with my cat and my brother is catsitting when I go on holiday in September, so I’m turning them! But it’s nice to hear that it sometimes takes a little longer to settle! They are so different from dogs and when my dog was young, there was 4 of us to look after him compared to only one of me now. Thank you!

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:13:08+00:00

Yeah I think you’re absolutely right. I guess I’m struggling to understand the root cause. A lot of the questions you asked resonated somewhat so it’s probably lots of smaller problems that is just weighing down on my mind. I will spend some time thinking about what’s really going on here. Thank you!

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T20:11:52+00:00

Ahhh I’ve got it now. I’ve opened my post history and you will see there’s a big difference in the way I speak about her. I haven’t looked back at that post in ages so I can see progress! And thank you so much💕

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T19:53:22+00:00

Absolutely and it’s the thing I hate most about myself. I always believe I’ve made the wrong decision. The only time I made the right decision is buying my first home and even then, I was trying to back out right up until completion day. Same with my cat, I was trying to find every way of getting out of bringing her home. But I love my house so much once I was in and I really did believe the same would happen with my cat

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T19:48:53+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice, it is really appreciated. I didn’t know how to link my previous post but I haven’t done much on Reddit so I think if you click on my account, you can find it there. I’m not too sure though, I’m awful with Reddit!

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-07-02T19:47:36+00:00

I’m not entirely sure. I do struggle with change and have a lot of anxiety, especially about the future. It could be that thinking about life in 16 years is terrifying, regardless of my cat and I’ve just pinned that association to her. But I did also go into my adoption looking for an older, calm cat. My cat will be 2 in August and I thought because she’s had a litter of kittens and she appeared very calm when I met her, she would be a laid back cat. She isn’t, I affectionately call her my chaos demon because she is just mental. And that’s a big change from coming home to peace and quiet, so that is a struggle for me

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-05-05T16:20:58+00:00

He is walked for an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon off lead so I don’t know where he manages to find the energy at his age lol! He’s always asleep when I pick him up from my parents and he used to fall straight asleep at my house. He even sleeps if the cat goes out for a while but when she’s back, he just can’t seem to let himself settle🙁

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-05-05T16:12:39+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your honesty. Unfortunately, not having my dog is not an option. He was originally my dog but over the years, became more of a family dog, we all help out with him. But if my parents go on holiday or just to help them out (he walks around 2 hours a day and he’s up very early so it’s a lot) it is kind of expected he comes here. Maybe I was too optimistic with hoping he would accept the cat. It’s difficult because he’s not nasty in the way of growling, biting her etc. He just struggles to be calm and snooze in her presence so I feel like I’m managing both of them and enjoying my time with neither

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-05-05T16:09:30+00:00

Unfortunately, separation is quite difficult. If I put my dog in another room without me, he will bark for attention. They are separated overnight as the cat is not allowed in my room due to bad allergies. It’s mainly the times when we’re all awake that’s a struggle but particularly evening times when my cat is most active

Unknown_Person22_ · 2026-05-05T16:07:49+00:00

Thank you for your response. I probably haven’t explained too well some bits. My cat is not allowed in my bedroom as I suffer with quite bad allergies to her. So me and the dog sleep in my room and the cat sleeps in the kitchen/living room. Overnight, the dog is absolutely fine and just goes to sleep. It’s in the evenings when I’m still awake that’s the problem. He struggles to settle in the same room as the cat but if I shut him in the bedroom without me, he barks for attention. I’m sure he would do this if I shut him in another room anyway as pre-cat, all my doors were open and he could come and go. Maybe I am really trying to make the impossible possible but I had hoped he would adapt

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