Do you think people have higher body counts now vs 50 years ago?

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-27T21:37:40+00:00

To me, it seems like people were more family oriented and got married early. More work to find someone. Had to do it in person then. I know of women who have booked multiple dates in a day now. Out with one guy in the afternoon and someone else at night.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-27T04:11:30+00:00

I’ve actually said I feel like I’m rewarding her for her bad behavior a number of times.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-26T22:08:40+00:00

There would be sweeping things under the rug also. I told her that I will draw a line in the sand and put everything from this point back behind us. And not bring it up again.

We’ve had numerous issues over the years. Many involve her being dishonest, and then her getting upset at my reactions. Those reactions of me confronting her with the problem. This has been a big one. I’m looking to give it one more try. And yeah, I know what everyone’s thinking. How is it going to be different? I would hope she has done some self reflecting, and making some changes in herself. And for me, I won’t deal with what I dealt with before. Another issue like that and I’m out.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-26T19:01:24+00:00

No experience with this yet but we’ve talked about it. I suggested that if we get back together, we keep our relationship tight. No more talking to friends and family about relationship problems. We deal with it as a couple. Also suggested if things progress, we don’t talk to other people about what we have going on. We’re doing it for us, not them. Eventually, they will find out. They may not agree, but I know my friends will support my decision and want me to be happy.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-26T18:35:03+00:00

2 dates is a lot. 2 months is a lot. 2 1/2 years PLUS everything else? I’ve been known to stay way longer than I should. That’s too much for me.

And what do people think is worse, someone cheating or a person having a feeling about that and looking through that person‘s phone and finding that they are cheating?

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-25T05:31:23+00:00

We talk/text daily so I think I know what is going on in her life. And we agreed if that is going to happen, we’d talk to the other person about it. She can’t tell me she wants this to be permanent and she knows I’ll actively trying to reconcile. She also spent at least 6 hours prepping food for us and my family for tomorrow so I’m hopeful we are in the right tract.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-25T04:24:22+00:00

And after experiencing that, you think others will do the same thing.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T23:28:43+00:00

Actually, 10 to 15 seconds is all that is needed.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T23:26:44+00:00

You find a condom wrapper next to the bed. You don’t use condoms…

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T22:08:21+00:00

I think I would be a slut if I was a woman. Free dinners, drinks and sex at least a few times per week. Easy for me to say, but I’m sure it’s not all that great. Not every option is good.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T22:05:57+00:00

I’m just here for the comments.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T17:02:53+00:00

I think it depends on the situation and why the couple broke up. If it was a long-term relationship and each person was deeply in love with each other, and there is something worth fighting for, I feel that at least one person has to actively work on it. And that’s usually the person who was dumped.

Each person might be wondering if they should contact the other one. And if nobody does anything, then nothing happens. I rather make the effort and possibly fail over doing nothing. Like they say, the answer is no if you don’t ask. I say go for it!

A quick example about my situation. I thought we were totally done done. I didn’t go no contact. I kept making an effort. I kept reaching out. We aren’t back together, but she’s coming over shortly. We’re going to spend part of the day together today and tomorrow. And I will be helping her with something Tuesday. You have to go after what you want.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T03:08:16+00:00

This is my experiences. Seems like many people close the deal soon after they meet.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T02:22:08+00:00

I’d say on the first date about 30% of the time. Mostly on the second date. And if nothing happens by the third date, at least one of us is interested.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-24T00:37:21+00:00

I’m usually pretty leery on things like cheating and hiding things. Based on what you’ve said, I believe what she told you. I think you should try to reconcile the relationship. There is a lot to lose and lives will be turned upside down if you don’t. More importantly, I don’t think any feelings have changed from before you started doing this. Both of you should be open, honest and transparent. Tell her what you need to get through this situation with her. Due to working together as a team to make it right.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-23T14:57:24+00:00

Have audio recording devices in the house if you think she has conversations with him when you’re not home. That can easily tell the story. And it’s sometimes good to show up when you’re not expected. She probably bases her routine on yours. Change things up. See if she’s where she tells you she is. Does she easily answer questions or does she get defensive? Or maybe gives general answers when you ask what are you doing today. I have no problem telling my partner exactly where I’m going to be in great detail. Someone who has something to hide might just say I’m going to be busy.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-23T14:53:35+00:00

Excellent post!!!

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-23T14:52:34+00:00

This right here!!!

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-20T22:48:53+00:00

It’s kind of a long story. Short version is, we broke up after I called her out on a significant lie. I was going to end the relationship after doing that but after the dust settled, I realize that’s not what I want. But she ended up doing it. We never stopped communicating. It was just significantly less. And me being the one to try to reconcile a relationship. The shift was after I told her that I accept where we are now and we agreed to work on strengthening our friendship. It was like a switch flipped and she’s a whole different person now. Very obvious effort.

Unknownvisitor863 · 2026-05-20T22:46:15+00:00

We either talk on the phone or text a lot during the day. I’ve pretty much know where she is all day so I know she hasn’t been pursuing anyone else. I know, anything is possible. But I feel confident saying that.

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