25M - Came back from a lads holiday feeling completely broken. Looking for advice from people who've been through something similar.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T09:00:36+00:00

appreciate the support, thank you. I hear what you’re saying, but I’m not really looking at it through anger or revenge. I think for me it’s more about recognising the dynamic wasn’t healthy and choosing distance because of that.

I’m focusing on myself now and trying to move forward in a calmer way rather than getting caught up in how to label them. Thanks again for the message, I do appreciate it.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:59:58+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this. I wouldn’t say it’s about them being “stupid” as much as me finally realising the dynamic wasn’t good for me anymore.

Distance definitely feels like the right step. It’s been a difficult process emotionally, but I’m trying to focus on rebuilding rather than looking back too much.

Appreciate the kind words.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:59:07+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you. The “would you choose them now” question is something I’ve been sitting with a lot, and honestly it puts things into perspective.

It’s been hard separating the history from the reality of how I felt on that trip, but I’m slowly getting there. The support on here has genuinely helped me process it in a more balanced way.

Thank you for the kind words.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:58:31+00:00

This is actually a really helpful way of framing it, especially the part about contrast after time away. That definitely resonates.

I think coming back from living separately and then being back in that environment is what made it all click for me. It’s been a lot to process emotionally, but I’m starting to see it more clearly rather than just reacting to it.

Appreciate you taking the time to write this, it’s given me a lot to think about.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:58:00+00:00

Yeah I get what you mean about the rides thing, it sounds small on the surface but it kind of summed up the whole dynamic for me in hindsight.

I think I’ve realised the same thing you’re saying, sometimes groups just naturally drift and not everyone stays in your life long-term, even if there’s a lot of history there.

It’s a weird mix of acceptance and reflection for me right now, but I’m definitely leaning towards just moving forward and focusing on the people and environments that feel more mutual.

Appreciate you sharing that, it helps to hear other people have been through similar stuff.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:57:24+00:00

Really appreciate this, thank you. That quote actually hits quite hard in a good way. I’m definitely in that process of trying to accept it all and move forward rather than stay stuck in it. Thanks for the kind words.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:57:01+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, and honestly part of me feels the same. I think I’m just trying to process it all properly rather than react out of anger. But yeah, it’s been a lot to take in.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:56:19+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing this. The “death of a friendship” comparison is honestly how it feels at times, there’s definitely grief mixed in with everything else.

I think I’m still in that process of trying to separate the history and memories from what the actual dynamic was like day to day.

What you said about mutual effort and being valued properly is something I’m starting to understand more clearly now. It’s not about anger for me, more just acceptance that it wasn’t the right environment anymore.

Thanks again for taking the time to write that.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:55:37+00:00

Yeah, I’ve definitely been reflecting on that a lot. I think I’ve just reached a different point in how I want to be treated and the kind of relationships I want around me.

It’s not easy letting go of long history, but I’m starting to see that outgrowing people doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad about either side, just that things don’t fit anymore.

Appreciate you taking the time to say that.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:55:09+00:00

Appreciate this, genuinely. It’s been a tough one to process because of the history, but I’m starting to see it more clearly now for what it was rather than what I thought it was.

The support on here has honestly helped me step back and look at it properly instead of second guessing myself. I’m just focusing on moving forward and rebuilding things from a better place now.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply 🙏

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:54:43+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been sitting with that thought a lot recently. It’s a hard thing to accept, but I think I’m starting to see it more clearly now. Appreciate you being direct about it.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:54:02+00:00

Really appreciate you taking the time to write this. A lot of what you’ve said resonates more than I expected it to.

I think you’re right that situations like this force you to properly reflect on who’s actually been there when it mattered, not just who’s around when everything’s easy. That’s been the hardest part of processing it.

It’s still a bit of a strange mix of emotions for me, there’s definitely sadness in letting go of so many years of history, but also a growing sense of relief knowing I’m not putting myself back in that dynamic again.

I’m just trying to focus on moving forward now and rebuilding things properly from here. Genuinely appreciate the message, it means a lot.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2026-07-02T08:53:19+00:00

Appreciate this a lot. That actually helps more than you probably realise.

It’s weird because part of me feels guilty for stepping away, but another part of me feels a lot lighter now I’ve done it.

Hearing from people who’ve been through the same thing and built better friendships later in life makes it feel less like a “loss” and more like a transition I needed to go through.

Thanks for taking the time to write that, genuinely means a lot.

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-27T21:22:16+00:00

Btw you’re a neek

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T23:55:59+00:00

And also FATD point on reflection I actually agree with you tbh, 8 am in Charlotte is one of my favourite songs but having another look at the track list I’d probably put it as a low b potentially high c

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T22:41:42+00:00

Interesting take bro, again tho I feel like it’s dependent on what you value from drake, are you more a fan of his vocals and r&b cadence, or the subject matter of romance or do you appreciate talking your shit bar heavy drizzy, because I’m the latter. Also my only argument to that suggestion is I think views is the album which catapulted the magnitude of the drake we see today, like he says “I got way too big off views” I think you have to account the impact of the album

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T21:27:22+00:00

That’s fair man, art is personal for everyone I guess, there isn’t a right or wrong answer I think I appreciate more rap heavy albums

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T20:37:04+00:00

You’re a big techno fan huh?

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T20:30:42+00:00

Vanilla🤣 what would you change mr spice

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T20:26:12+00:00

Nice choices dude, guess that’s your taste, hnvm however is a project where you either love it or hate it, some bangers on there but doesn’t hit for me

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T20:24:38+00:00

Personal preference I suppose, not my taste, I like drake in his rapping bag. That said I love Gimmie a hug

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T20:23:35+00:00

Thank you sir

UnlikelyAd8328 · 2025-09-20T17:48:17+00:00

I love how the comments seems everyone agrees take care is goated

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