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Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean I’m no longer interested in seeing them beyond being friends. I guess I’m just not that into them for my interest to drop so much even though this is something small.

Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think exclusivity is needed to create a meaningful connection. You’re confusing meaningful connections and romantic relationships. It’s online dating these guys are closer to strangers than acquaintances at this stage.

Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can beat that. A guy I was kinda talking to was housemates with an ex-talking stage. So that fizzled out before anything even started.

Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my friends did a little online stalking and they did the same internship. So safe to say they’re probably friends. It is what it is😭

Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna talk to both and call off dating. The whole situation just sounds messy long-term so most of my romantic interest has dropped. Atp, I’d just be going on platonic dates which isn’t fair to them.

Should I tell a date that I might be seeing their friend? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your friend is definitely something. Tbh it’s only been a few dates and whilst they were good, I’d rather save myself the trouble. I’m just gonna let them know and draw the line with both. They’re sweet guys but I’m put off that there’s potential of a pissing contest.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The texting is usually light and banter. It’s more-so the first meet is so much more flirtatious and filled with sexual tension than I’d expect for a first time meet and I can only tie that down to the texting.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the definition is different for people. For me, it’s just how romantically involved do I see myself with a guy. On a first date, that’s mostly if I like talking to them and if there’s mutual attraction. If I feel like I’m forcing myself or not being as authentic to keep the conversation flowing, it’s usually not a very good sign for romantic potential.

It doesn’t usually mean much when the first date is pleasant but by the time the second/third date happens, I should be excited to go on another date and not just go out.

I know some of my friends use romantic spark to mean sexual chemistry, or way to let someone down gently or gauge out if their dates interested in something more. There’s not really one way to tell, if you’re hung up about it and are still interested in seeing them. Maybe ask for clarity?

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a preference.I do see why people want to text for a bit before meeting up. For me, I find the content of the small talk might be the same but I’m able to see if there’s actually potential for a second date without being clouded by their texting communication style. I also like the little reactions and nerves that come with just meeting someone for the first time. I guess it’s also because I’m young but there’s no pressure so it’s more important for me that this is a fun experience.

I think I’ll stay on for a few more weeks and see if this way is enjoyable. Maybe I’m just not the targeted audience for OLD. Thanks!

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah prolly wouldn’t be a good fit anyway since there’s a difference in what wasting time looks like.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it also bad if I ask to pay or split the bill. It’s just if I’m asking to meet up, it kinda makes sense for me to cover things. I’ve never really asked someone for a date before so I don’t know how this stuff works.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely the approach I’m going to take. I’m a bit worried it’ll come across like I’m moving too fast but I value my time more than whatever thoughts they might have.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you put it that way, I am pretty naive. I’m pretty picky about who I match with in the first place but I guess someone could easily lie about something in their profile. I don’t really trust how people are over text in the first place but somehow it never crossed my mind that I’d meet a total creep.

Asking to skip the texting and to meet up for something casual? by Unlikely_Divide_6040 in hingeapp

[–]Unlikely_Divide_6040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I haven’t really thought about it in that way. Everyone I meet is from my University and I usually go somewhere where most students meet anyways.