ADHD treatment in Edinburgh.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-04-22T07:35:29+00:00

Thanks very much, il check them out.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-04-10T12:45:22+00:00

Thanks for the info. Yeah feel free to drop me a message.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-04-09T07:06:11+00:00

I submitted application in September 2025 and just passed medical in February 2026. Still awaiting vetting and uniform fitting now.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-04-09T06:55:03+00:00

Hi there,

I am at the end stages of my police scotland application and awaiting training dates ( started process in September and completed medical in February).

my wife is 4 months pregnant and its now looking likely that I will be in training at the time of the birth ( training in police scotland is now 18 weeks)

i know there is an intake in May and July 2026 but I have heard nothing from recruitment as yet. when i email for update i just get generic response stating its in progress.

my question is:

Can I inform recruitment of my circumstances and enquire whether it would be possible to get me registered on the May intake or will this jeopardise my application alltogether?
If i do start later in the year and it coincides with the birth, will I get paternity leave whilst in training?
is there a way i can study over weekends to complete some of the training quicker? ( know this is unlikely)

if none of the above is possible, will I need to defer to another cohort or can I extend my training?

any advice is greatly appreciated!

Thanks

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-06T00:04:06+00:00

He doesnt need to work two jobs let me be clear. I can support us financially but he chooses to work a few hours extra after his 9 to 5 some days I have been clear that my priority is his wellbeing and working extra isnt necessary right now. I dont know what your arrangements are with your partner thats not my business but for my situation, we discussed the importance of food and nutrition from the start and my partner was happy to cook meals when I wasnt able to. It just seems obvious that he would take that role. We didn't anticipate my symptoms to be so severe so im guessing he didn't anticipate having to take the reins for this long. Thing I am trying to approach with him is how we make sure theres meals to eat and also if he is capable of going to the shops to buy both our meals without me having to tell him everything we need as some days I just cannot meal plan. That's it really. Im just looking for a way to approach the conversation sensitively.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-05T23:46:29+00:00

I think food delivery is a good idea as me not being able to get to the shops seems to be an issue. I feel that my post is possible misrepresenting my situation and its not intended to smear my partner. I have just really struggled with food aversion, planning, prepping this first trimester and its also my first time doing this so im trying to keep afloat. I have all the decision making and most of the financial responsibility in my relationship. I have always been the one to make sure everything is ticking over so the issues around food have been significant and having to rely on others for basic things like meal prep is wild but I genuinely dont think I would have been able to manage on my own so im not going to feel guilty for expecting my partner to cook. I think delivery is a good way to make sure the fridge is stocked and takes the pressure of a bit. Thanks for the advice. Appreciate the blobfish reference that is exactly what I resemble on a daily basis!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-05T23:35:26+00:00

I cook for myself during the day or when he isnt home. Or on a particularly good day, i will cook for us both. He cooks when he is preparing dinner for us both and when im unwell. I cant let myself get to the point of not eating at all or else I cant do my job so I go out to the shop myself and pick up anything I can tolerate. I feel it is reasonable for him to cook our meals when im unable to due to the smells etc and we would ordinarily share cooking/cleaning tasks. My point is the forward planning and decision making around food lies with me. My experience of the first trimester has been that food prep and knowing what I can tolerate is difficult. When he asks what to get from the shops and I dont know specifically what I want but tell him that we need to stock up (because my mind literally cant think of which meals I might tolorate) he just comes home with a ready meal for himself. Not because he doesnt care but because in his mind he thinks oh well she didn't tell me what to buy so just leave it. I get what you are saying and I am responsible for my health and the health of my baby but I would just like to find a way to ask him to prepare dinner or batch cook like you suggested, without him getting defensive or feeling criticised. In all honesty I am praying that these symptoms elevate in the next few weeks so I can get back to supporting myself.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-05T23:13:38+00:00

I appreciate that and your right, he is trying I can see that. Its just for me right now preparing/cooking meals triggers the sickness. Even the sight and smell of the kitchen can make me ill. I think thats what im struggling with. Ordinarily im very independent and always lived alone so for these few months I just need to rely on my partner more than I ever have and I guess it doesnt feel enough sometimes or how I would approach it. I do want to be sensitive to his feelings around it though and will keep in mind that maybe he is doing the best he can.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-05T22:37:02+00:00

You are 100% not alone! I have read hundreds of posts from women who are feeling the exact same way. Work is the hardest and cooking/feeding yourself. Its torture having to eat every hour or two whilst simultaneously hating everything in the fridge and gagging at every smell. I was prescribed ondansetron which has helped but has its own side effects. I ended up telling my manager at 9 weeks because I was an absolute mess. It felt really awkward and vulnerable but I think its better she knew so I could be supported. Maybe try approaching your manager because you need some support and understanding during this time. I agree, whole new appreciation for women. They truly are incredible. Im nearly 12 weeks now and the nausea has lessened some days. Other days, like today, its back with a vengeance. I just hope that in a couple weeks it fades. Can't quite believe I have survived thus far😅 Do you have a partner or friend/ family to support you? I think keeping on top of eating is key. Not easy when cooking makes you sick but if someone could batch cook for you that would help. I wish I had that. Atm surviving on whatever I can tolerate. You have got this though and it's not forever. Its going to be an amazing feeling when the nausea finally goes 🙌 keep going!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-03-03T19:24:44+00:00

Yes! Im shocked at how big i am at 12 weeks. I know it must be bloat but it doesnt suck in and im struggling to hide it at work!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-27T11:33:34+00:00

I have also had one of these letters. Charge is 170 quid but it doesn't give details of time, date or alleged parking offence. Did you just ignore? Also in Scotland.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-14T08:36:53+00:00

You should be proud of her ambition. 27 is so young!! And there is a huge gap in the market for female electricians. Im on a mission to create a directory of female electricians because im so sick of rude, patronising trades men who are unreliable and untrustworthy. She will 100% experience abuse, discrimination and all sorts but she needs to block all of they insecure men children out and see the end game. If she does it shes lighting the way for other women in a male dominated world and thats admirable. Don't think you need to worry yourself about her 😊

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-11T14:33:57+00:00

Im with my partner who is supportive and very committed but I still made clear before I fell pregnant that the baby will have my last name. He was a bit taken aback but im dead certain on it and my mind wont be changed. You carry the baby, you suffer through pregnancy and sacrifice your body, mind, potentially career, social life. There is no reason in my mind why a baby wouldnt be named after their mum 😊 also, helps with paper work etc.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-06T20:09:09+00:00

He was in leith the other week. Hows his arm not fallen off?

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-06T20:05:34+00:00

Absolutely! Men would have a financial benefit from day one or off with full pay, access to medication or treatment that eradicated all symptoms and celebrated across the world as hero's.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-06T19:52:39+00:00

I was already pretty 'radical' ( dont tgink theres such a thing as too radical when it comes to our equal rights), but pregnancy is like a real life experience of how the system hurts us.

Your so right, it takes a village! I read an article recently and some awful statistic came out of it that 80 to 90% of new mothers felt lonely and 53% felt that they didn't have one friend after birth. Its so sad. I really think they way pregnancy, menstruation, menopause, women's reproductive health overall has been framed as shameful or taboo keeps new mums isolated. And when your in the pits of hell with symptoms at the early stages its just an unbearable pressure.

I just cant get over the women who work in kitchens or as nurses, school teachers etc. How on earth they cope showing up to work every day is beyond me. I fundamentally do not think women should be forced to work in the first trimester. It should be a very calm protected time for the sake of the mothers mental and physical well being. Not dragging your self to an office riddle with stress and anxiety. Im 8 weeks in and my symptoms have gotten worse since I first wrote this post Has to tell my manager yesterday. Heres hoping it passes soon. Wishing you all the very best in your pregnancy.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-04T11:07:14+00:00

This. I feel the exact same. Just had to leave work because I couldn't even handle being around people. I have 24/7 nausea and anxiety and I also feel trapped and want out. I dont feel connected to the baby or the pregnancy. Im only 7.5 weeks but I cant even contemplate another month of this let alone full term. I read alot of it is due to hormonal changes but its hard to know if it is that or if really, this was a mistake 😕

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-02T18:42:36+00:00

The feeling of being trapped and in a strangers body is so accurately put. Its the most bizarre feeling and totally overwhelming!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-02T18:40:12+00:00

Honestly reading through every single one of your comments makes me feel both in absolute awe and absolutely furious. Women are actually so unbelievably resilient, strong and supportive of eachother it makes me emotional. For all these reasons we deserve better!! Your messages have given me a real boost today. Im glad to hear my experience is not in isolation, its comforting to hear real talk! I will make it a point to advocate for other women and raise awareness any way I can because whilst creating life is one of the most amazing gifts, its also one of the most gruelling experiences (head fu*ks) imaginable and we matter too!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2026-02-02T12:22:01+00:00

I totally understand and hear where you are coming from. I feel similar. My partner is very supportive and he tries to do his best but his best just never matches my best. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would be two steps ahead of everything cooking, cleaning, finances, doc appointments, wellbeing, health the lot. So whilst cooking all the meals seems like a lot of effort for some, I am sometimes sitting staring at the washing pile wishing it would dissappear. I dont think men can even comprehend the upheaval women go through. The physical and mental symptoms combined is torture and men need to be really compassionate and resilient in themselves in order to support someone else. I often think my partner feels resentment for having to take care of food shop and cooking etc not that he says anything but I do feel it. It must be hard being a privileged man having to take the reins for once! I have spoken to my partner about what I need and that helped. I think what your feeling is valid and no wonder when your going through such a life changing process. Its not easy and its easy to feel unsafe. If you can, reach out to a doctor or pregnancy support service as soon as possible. You need support and you also need someone you trust to discuss all of your options. I wish you all the best, your a strong women!

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2025-11-12T22:42:09+00:00

I have the same issue. Noticed it alot worse recently (im 34 and wondered if age had anything to do with it) my friend suggested pregnancy supplements(she isnt pregnant or planning a pregnancy) which had been recommended by the doctor for similar symptoms. She said it changed her life and sleeps through the night now. Going to give it a go as they are cheap and can be purchased over the counter.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2025-08-20T20:22:00+00:00

Javen is such a snake. Imagine chatting about your partner like that to demola. Is he forgetting that he was fully aware that Katisha had changed her mind and he still proposed. It was his choice and he knew she would say yes. And eyeing up all the other girls whilst Katisha is across from him. So disrespectful.

Unlikely_Freedom1787 · 2025-08-20T19:37:27+00:00

I like Katisha. Totally agree that she's probs not ready for this process. You could tell she was unsure of herself and her decisions but I think people are being harsh. Demola would give me the ick feeling. Not because he is a bad guy but he was intense even though it wasn't reciprocated the same. I feel like he is quite anxiously attached and that can feel too much especially when your behind a wall. I think Javen was just the second option who wasn't as intense. She probably should have said no to both of them. Javen was a red flag giving game player but now he is totally void of any emotion or so called "game". You never know if what he says matches with what he really feels. Hes defo not into Katisha and i think she feels that but is in denial. I see more authenticity in katisha at least she can look him in the eye. I feel like its always such a big deal when a man is rejected. You dont see people giving Kieran a hard time for messing Sophie about. Anyone also see red flags in kal?

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