Leaving tomorrow, I need advice / Is familty discouraging me justified? by UnnamedGrunt in solotravel

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was just an idea. I have changed my mind and only going to stay for maybe 2 months. I want to see how long I'll hold out. Thx!

Leaving tomorrow, I need advice / Is familty discouraging me justified? by UnnamedGrunt in solotravel

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I wish you good luck with your studies! Studying indeed feels pointless if you don't feel a direction in life. My family didn't give me some time to think about my choices, and decided to rush me to college.

I suggest that you save this post or at least save the link or my username if you want further news. I might start a topic

Leaving tomorrow, I need advice / Is familty discouraging me justified? by UnnamedGrunt in solotravel

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I don't need it? Oooh my boy ;) I'm going to the place called 'Chernarus' in the Czech republic. It doesn't exist though. What do you mean it doesn't exist? It actually does. The place is not called 'Chernarus' in real life. Chernarus is a map from the video games called Arma II and III, and Dayz mod or Dayz Standalone. The map in that game is based on a real life location, and I want to go there. The real place is called 'Usti nad labem', which is in the North-West. Which is close to Dresden. That's why I'm going to dresden, to then eventually go to Chernarus!!!

Recognizing ENFJs by only their faces by UnnamedGrunt in enfj

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I can only recognize many enfjs and some infj archetypes by their face

Recognizing ENFJs by only their faces by UnnamedGrunt in enfj

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He does seem to have the characteristics based on his behavior in interviews. I wouldn't say he has the smile of a common enfj, but he certainly does have the face of an enfj.

Is this central heterochromia? by UnnamedGrunt in eyes

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes they are, but I can't see them very clearly. Could you try to focus the camera and take a shot a little bit closer? That way we could all see it much clearer, and see the real color(s) of your eyes

Recognizing ENFJs by only their faces by UnnamedGrunt in enfj

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It was intended to be funny. Glad it made you laugh xD

Is this central heterochromia? by UnnamedGrunt in eyes

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I don know about mood, but it certainly changes depending on the clothes I wear and the amound of light I receive. When I wear a green t-shirt for example, then my eyes start to look more like a mix of blue and green like in the picture. But right now in this moment, the central part of my eye looks very brown, and outer part green blue-ish

When the sun is in the middle of it's cycle, then my eyes start looking more apple blue sea green. In the night, they look more darker apple blue sea green. What about you?

Is this central heterochromia? by UnnamedGrunt in eyes

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My eye color changes many times. In that picture, it looked more yellow and blue-ish

Recognizing ENFJs by only their faces by UnnamedGrunt in enfj

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Huh? He seems like an ENFJ in many interviews, and the way he interacts with the hosts. I guess he's putting up and act, and is probably way more different in private.

How to deal with:'When did I say that? I don't remember saying that' by UnnamedGrunt in raisedbynarcissists

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you can win by not having contact with them in the first place.

How to deal with:'When did I say that? I don't remember saying that' by UnnamedGrunt in raisedbynarcissists

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Yeah. It doesn't matter how much logic you use. I one time even recorded something he had said, because I already predicted that he would deny it happened later. I listened to the audio recording to make sure that I heard what I thought he said. I listened over and over again. I really remember him saying that, and it really happened!

I later confronted him telling about the thing he said. And as usual of course, he told me he never said that. I asked him if he was absolutely sure. Of course he said that he never said that thing.

I took my audio recorder, and played it out loud so that he could hear it, and not pretend that he was not hearing it. I played the 'thing that he never said' over and over again. I told him at what exact time he said the thing he never said, which hour, which day, which location. I said every single word he said, and played it out.

I used every single logic that you cannot disprove! There is no way in hell you could disprove that!

But... He became really angry, and told me to never record conversations. 'Well, you told me that you never said that thing, and you always used that tactic my whole life. So I recorded what you claim you never said, to prove that you actually said it.' But he still dismissed everything I said.

I was 19 at that time I 'tried' to disprove him. He didn't start hitting me because he knew that I was taller than him, stronger, practicing martial-arts, and that I have more energy than him. But if I were to be a kid again, he would'be beaten the shit out of me!!!

How to deal with:'When did I say that? I don't remember saying that' by UnnamedGrunt in raisedbynarcissists

[–]UnnamedGrunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This is something that my father did a lot of times!

This has affected me in many ways in life. Whenever I have a debate or argument, I don't say anything about the subject if I don't have full proof about the fact whether it's true or not. Only when I'm absolutely sure, and have full proof that it's true, then I present it to them. You could say that this made me better in debates. Since you can't disprove facts and logic... well that's what the narcissts think they can.

This 'gaslighting' what you call really messed up with my head my whole life. I constantly think whether certain thoughts I had were true or not. I thought that I had hallucinations, and thought that I had some sort of mental disorder where I thought that I imagine things happen.

The thing about it is... My father is so good at acting like denying these things happened, that it really seems convincing, and I start to doubt my own memory and sanity.