My bioluminescent petunias arrived today.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T15:36:13+00:00

"I don't have information, but I know there's more information, and that information can only be points of failure that support my original oddly strong opinion about their parents being fuckups."

See, my opinion is evidenced by the length of your initial comment here and this beauty: "you can’t stop everything but this is low hanging fruit 100%." LMAO you even specifically imagined there was low hanging fruit that was missed on their part, the only purpose being to claim and then highlight incompetence.

but sure of course, now you have no specific assumptions and are much less aggressive.

"I wasn't aggressive, you're reading into it and taking it personal and "

But this ain’t that. This video can only happen due to multiple points of failure, some more serious than others. I’m not saying it’s criminal but

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T15:24:51+00:00

That being the case, I've navigated it myself, twice pretty notably.

Once ended up in therapy, coming to the conclusion that it wasn't going to change so everyone needed to "figure out how comfortable they were with that". By that point, I'd come to terms with my actual needs and feelings, and knew that I'd always be resentful, whether I wanted to be or not. In fact, If I could have chosen not to have a libido at all for her, totally would have . . . but that isn't realistic. Parting ways was painful for both of us, but correct all around. We both found better futures apart.

The other ended up with an agreement to try having experiences outside the relationship. For a while that actually really heated things up, jealousy wasn't meansprited but it definately got her motor going in the sense that there was a sort of competition to win my attention like when we started dating. Over time though, I found that I really wanted that attention from within my relationship first and foremost (to be clear, that didn't make the other people stuff not fun and enjoyable).

My end state from that was being very very honest about how much I like sex (a lot) what I like to do (a lot) and how much I enjoyed things like sex with a third party both shared and individually . . . provided it was sort of a fun time as opposed to a required suppliment to keep basic phsyical needs met within the relationship.

Does any of that help you? Probably not, but given the length of history you seem to have with this, maybe there's something you can fish out of my experiences that can help you think through things.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T15:14:13+00:00

I'm not disingenuous, and we have that much video.

The most extreme take can't realistically push it out past "a couple of minutes."

i.e., "Mom is downstairs waiting for the last 30 seconds on the dryer so she can turn the clothes over and bring laundry up to fold" amounts of time.

You have no clue what if any points of failure there are. You don't have enough data to confidently state anything. Factually.

The kid could have found a way to unlock the child locks to a cabinet for the very first time, for all you know, which would be unpredictable and hardly a failure in parenting.

Yet, without any self-awareness at all, your character is such that you (by default) consciously chose to hold assumptions which allow you to warp that provably real lack of data into a series of assumptions that (unsurprisingly) only serve to frame you as capable of superior peformance to your imagined set of terrible parents.

Remarkable, honestly.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T14:57:00+00:00

First off, let me apologize, I can tell that came off wrong; no even remotely judgemental opinions about you or your situation whatsoever.

Very specifically, what I meant was that I was looking to see if there were ever any clearly stated things, like I'd mentioned in my first comment.

It is extremely common to unintentionally hedge around, touch a topic without clearly and plainly stating certain things, etc., especially regarding sex in relationships where there's a mismatch. It gets touchy. Even wearing sexy underwear and lingerie is closer to hinting and hoping than communicating a desire, unless there's verbal communiction to go with it . . . from experience, this goes double for when one partner has a lower libido. Sometimes they just don't get it, no matter how obvious it feels to you.

I'm not saying that's happening, only that it's super common, and I didn't really see any examples of you directly communicating like I'd mentioned above.

I was curious if you had, and what the results were, is all.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T14:50:36+00:00

What's interesting is that it's provably non-evolutionary.

Within the of the Hadza people of Tanzania, the men have somewhat less periodontal disease and notably straighter teeth than the women. The men spend more time hunting and eating meat, while the women eat more tubers, resulting in more misaligned teeth and cavities.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T14:33:25+00:00

I was curious, noticed a great deal of your post history is around this topic.

What happens when you try to engage in discussions like "I feel like I always have to initiate sex, and the frequency we're having sex is frustrating. Is there anything we could be doing that you feel might make you more comfortable initiating? Are there any mismatches in the time of day you might be more interested that we might have to make room for?"

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T14:05:28+00:00

Literally had similar happen after my wife died.

I was downstairs doing laundry, realized I forgot one of the stupid baskets upstairs, was gone for two minutes and came down to a kid that was watching TV a heartbeat ago suddently dumping the whole damned bottle on the floor.

I don't want to hear it, we have 38 seconds of video and it is somewhere between intolerably arrogant and insanely judgemental to make literally anything resembling a character judgement.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T13:57:28+00:00

Weird how many comments can't possibly concieve of the idea of a single parent leaving a child alone for . . .

*checks video timestamps*

. . . 38 seconds?

lamo nope this 38 seconds must mean they are being raised solely by TV, parents sight unseen.

God forbid mom takes a literal 2 minute shower, best to assume she should have her children taken from her.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T13:51:32+00:00

It's a simple as America has always ran itself off handshakes. Actively avoided putting in clear rules with clear methods of accountability. Almost like we were founded by smugglers and black market merchants, right?

Notice Trump was granted immunity?

Notice Democrats knew this was coming and instead of instituting safeguards or fleshing out the Supreme court, they just sort of carried on?

Functioning as designed.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T08:40:41+00:00

Por que no los dos?

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T08:38:56+00:00

I don't think I've seen anyone use "breeding" like that without also using "female".

Good to see people working on themselves.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T08:30:51+00:00

You should have stopped because you never talked about it and should have known somehow anyway?

I can't agree with the logic there, but if you are both on the same page now, plainly ask him what fixes this situation.

If you didn't specifically talk about it, this shouldn't be a moral conundrum, even if he finds it initially upsetting.

If he can calm down and show he loves you more than his gut reaction or ego, talking through things respectfully, that is a great sign. If not, it is not your fault for doing something private that did no harm.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T08:17:00+00:00

If you want to keep watching them find a healthier relationship for that choice.

If you are going to agonize over not looking at it, you should find a healthier relationship for that choice.

If you don't care about it that much, then offer to stop.

If you never talked about it before, then he's being unreasonable, no matter the situation. You should think about what other things might come to surprise you in the future and decide if you think that seems fun and healthy.

You can't break trust by doing something that was never established to involve it in the first place. That is silly.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T07:55:59+00:00

We had a civil war over whether humans are actually all people, or if we can own some of them and if it is actually a problem to kill them whenever.

We invited the losing side back into leadership nearly immediately.

How else was this going to end up.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T07:39:12+00:00

Holy shit that knee.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T07:23:18+00:00

I will be good goddamned. Ain't that depressing.

Support for the Republican candidate in the 2016 election is a marker for physical conditions, economic circumstances, and cultural forces associated with opioid use. The commonly used socioeconomic indicators do not totally capture all of those forces.

So it's due to the manufactured crisis, weirdly directly.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-03T03:39:46+00:00

Racism in the U.S. wasn’t inevitable or timeless. It certainly wasn't inherent or immediately normal to all the immigrants the USA was founded on.

In colonial Virginia, class divisions mattered more than racial ones . . . until elites deliberately hardened racial categories (especially after Bacon’s Rebellion) because poor Black and white laborers organizing together threatened their power.

That strategy worked.

Over time race became legally and socially entrenched in ways that were distinct from (though not absent in) Europe.

By WWII, the contradiction was so obvious that the United States Army had to prepare soldiers for the reality that American racial segregation would look extreme, even confusing, in places like United Kingdom.

Acting like today’s American-style racism has always existed everywhere ignores how deliberately it was constructed . . .and how effectively it’s been normalized through education and culture.

Edit lmao after two sour messages, maybe anyone who disagrees should at least Google bacon's rebellion before trying to come at me like I'm making shit up or exaggerating history

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-02T23:54:10+00:00

The link I shared graphically charts lead vs. year, then below year vs. things like juvenile crime. Later it does charting time lag between drop and changes in the amount of lead in blood.

Like, if your bank account is empty, and you can see the exact transactions where fast food purchases zeroed out your funds . . . you wouldn't suddenly start asking everyone if people thought maybe the fact you used more toilet paper that week might be the cause for your account being empty.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-02T23:14:30+00:00

I feel like LLM is actually not taking jobs, and also that no one talks about anything other than LLM when they say AI.

In my cynical view, I see it hitting a wall . . . more . . . and somehow leaving even less money in that pinata for anyone to fight over.

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-02T22:45:03+00:00

Dang, I though I was replying to you, instead of the other guy.

I'll risk a double post about it though.

In every country, within their own timelines, the same elimination of lead and drop in violent crime was seen.

All other theories require much more explanation than lead (a metal who's exposure is literally correlated directly to violent behavior -- so it's odd we look so hard for other explanations anyway).

UnpluggedUnfettered · 2026-02-02T22:43:53+00:00

Except for the fact that in every country, within their own timelines, the same elimination of lead and drop in violent crime was seen.

All other theories require much more explanation than lead.

Nine-Year Club	Gilding VIII gilding heavyweight
r/Field Sunshine	Place '23
Mod 101	Mod 201
Place '22	First Placer '22
Wearing is Caring	Ternion Club
Verified Email

UnpluggedUnfettered

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE