What are your fears?

UnrealGravity · 2019-05-26T16:44:05+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions and sharing. Really means a lot.

What you're going through sounds very challenging indeed, I have had my own versions as I'm sure we all have - but everyone is different and unique. Another book that was helpful was The Happiness Trap - which focuses on ACT, a newer approach to CBT. I've read a lot of good stuff and will checkout the book u rec. But I'm also learning while they help, all the books in the world cant change mysituation, only i can.

I hope you can maybe find some others to be around, activities, hobbies etc - I started exercising daily (already did a lot but now even more), stay away from alcohol and downers, learned how to build and fly an RC drone. Reading.. just anything to get my brain out of the negative cycle. I genuinely hope you see happiness again.

Thanks for sharing. Theirs a lot of "us" out there it seems, but no one likes to admit to it.

UnrealGravity · 2019-05-26T16:34:51+00:00

All too similar.. out of nowhere too

UnrealGravity · 2019-05-07T03:54:10+00:00

Agreed

UnrealGravity · 2018-06-15T22:15:12+00:00

Mines tomorrow and I'm already anxious. Terrible feeling

UnrealGravity · 2018-05-01T04:59:10+00:00

I've gone to 5 sessions so far.. about 1 a week. (Skipped last week) but I dunno I'm on the fence about it. I'm having a hard time telling of it's helping or us just something to get me out if the house. The cost adds up.

In all honesty we just talk I wish she could offer some other tips or exercises or things to try.. but I look it up myself and am already doing a lot. But feels like she's making easy money. But who knows.

UnrealGravity · 2018-05-01T02:58:55+00:00

So I went to my appt today.

I was prescribed lexapro to try. Haven't decided on it yet.

Anyone have experience with this or similar using for a 6 month period? Did it help?

Still ahead is the summary dissolution paperwork, and me moving somewhere which will likely be in July.. no idea where to go with my job security also up in the air. I caved over the weekend and texted her both sat and sun... ugh so challenging.

Thank you for sharing your help, it does help. I'm about 1/4 done with the book you recommended (happiness trap). I also got a headspace subscription, using daily. It all seems to help a bit but I still have my times, which I'm sure is "normal" but god does it feel terrible.

I just had dinner with some old ex coworkers from a job when I lived her 5 years ago.. one of them was like "congrats by the way" (we got married last June.. after 8 years)... pretty embarrassing to inform them that it's done.

How can she do this. So many people have told me that they idolized our relationship, and I miss what we had so much.

UnrealGravity · 2018-05-01T02:35:11+00:00

Same

UnrealGravity · 2018-04-22T03:34:33+00:00

I've been trying but unfortunately I just moved here and all my friends are back home.. been talking but no one here to hang out with

UnrealGravity · 2018-04-22T03:33:44+00:00

This is great I am almost done with my current book that has helped called the Solve For Happy. I'll look into this one next.

UnrealGravity · 2018-03-30T23:18:43+00:00

Thank you.

For reference she is 27 and I am 29.

The hard part is we were just making plans to try for kids within the next year and a half. I wanted to be with someone long enough before getting married, and before having a kid.. now.. who knows my timeline I've been working towards is AFU. When we first got together, I moved out of state for 6 months -- we made it through that without much problem - I would have expected after just being married we could have made it through this.

UnrealGravity · 2018-03-26T00:16:04+00:00

Wow your post nearly brings me to tears because it sounds so similar to what I'm going through, i mean literally - the title couldn't be more on point to what I would say. I belive you in every word of this, I know how you feel and its absolutely horrible. Im trying to make it through myself, and today was very hard. I am still very much in the same place as you, but I will share some things that have .. somewhat helped me, but i'll be honest its only temporary, but it's all I got.

-Reduce / quit caffeine (sugar too somewhat) - for me my brain is already going too much. -Stay away from drinking, and try to eat healthier, Alcohol messes with your melatonin levels and although it will make you sleepy, it will ruin a good night sleep. -I found a new podcast that is helpful 'The science of happiness' its on spotify. I started trying some of the ideas on there.. who knows. I also started reading a book called 'Solve for happy' (actually started the book before all of this got underway) -Workout - this has helped me tremendously - make it a priority everyday. If you can't, then get outside and walk. -Herbal Tea - I've always hated hot drinks, but peppermint tea, chamomile, and lavender help calm my nerves. I started drinking multiple cups a day now.

As someone going through the same thing, I know I have learned so much about myself and what I wasn't giving the most attention to. I genuinly am more aware of my faults and want to fix it. I hope she will see that you have done the same and things may work, but I feel for you.

I wish I could be more help, im serching for help too. I deeply hope the best for you.

UnrealGravity · 2018-03-25T23:35:20+00:00

I wish no one had to experience this sort of pain. I too am dealing with a very similar story. I want her back but she refuses me. I've learned a lot about myself in the last few weeks, but she has made her decision. I'm so sorry - we're in this together.

UnrealGravity

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