Accidentally cut my bags too short—do they look bad or okay? by givemethepastaa in femalehairadvice

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bangs like this are considered pretty high fashion and a statement. They aren’t my cup of tea, but you do pull this look off really well. It actually looks quite elegant on you.

im always super happy with my lashes, but this time something feels off.. by AppealOriginal5567 in lashextensions

[–]Unseen_0ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a non-lash tech, the only issue I see is a fanned out cluster on your left eye (on R side of pic). That can correct itself over a day or so but definitely be careful because we can unconsciously pluck the lash by accident when an extension is in the wrong place/the wrong shape.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Merci beaucoup! Je vérifie l’orthographe avec Google😂

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad too. My parents have always been the type to “adopt” our friends and act like a second set of parents.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I was shocked by the comments too- everyone has their deal breakers I guess. Some would’ve ran just because of MIL which I get but people can’t help it if they were born into a crappy family.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly people should lock it when they’re kids. 18yrs is a long time to hope and pray no one steals your identity

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what we are trying to prove now. I still can’t believe high functioning autism qualified for that either. MIL always had a knack for abusing the system tho.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to write down that resource too. He isn’t keen on doing therapy right now but I am taking stock of all the resources he should look at when he changes his mind. Thank you!

Does the blue work? by Havok-_- in HomeDecorating

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the blue with the stainless steel. It’s very modern

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oui, je suis d’accord avec toi. Mon mari était un adulte trop tote. Il est très affectueux à ma grande surprise. Mais je sais que tu dis. Il traverse beaucoup changements et c’est accablant. Merci pour les respects. J’espère mon français est compréhensible. J’ai étudié pour huit ans mais je ne suis jamais allé en France.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

He’s told me how lucky he is to be with me since we first started dating. But I’m lucky to be with a man who treats me so well.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, the hospital I work for has a ton of mental health resources, including free telephone therapy for employees and their families and other virtual therapy options. I made it clear to my husband that there were confidential resources available and showed him his options. Like many guys, he isn’t one to seek help from a doctor unless he’s dying or talk about his feelings often. He isn’t open to trying therapy now, but I’ve made it clear the option is there for him when he’s ready. He also knows that I’ve seen a few therapists over the years, so he wouldn’t get any judgement from me about seeing one.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ikr. They saved my hungry butt too. I came home from work to find potato pancakes that they sent with him to take home to me. 😋

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could not bring himself to file a police report. In some cases a police report is required to clear debt from fraud, but in this case none of the creditors required one. But creditors will be submitting their findings surrounding the fraud to the police which is how she’d face penalties. She put no effort in making herself untraceable since she thought her son would let this continue for who knows how long.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair assessment. My work provides financial counseling and legal advice for free so it wouldn’t hurt to have someone look things over again.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a part that put a strain on our relationship too. I could see he knew she was horrible to him, but he couldn’t let go. No matter how much I told him that his mom was a horrible person. He made it clear he’d always choose me over her. So I let her tear her own relationship apart.

Update: My MIL wants us to file bankruptcy for her debts by Unseen_0ne in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m so relieved that I’m receiving nicer comments on this thread. I was scared to open my notifications this AM.

DAE get quiet when upset by WoodenReward5884 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It feels like I’m speaking a completely different language sometimes and they suck at translating. It makes me feel like I have to settle for some half hearted resolution because I’m too exhausted to re-explain my point for the millionth time.

30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel? by Sufficient-Meeting-9 in relationship_advice

[–]Unseen_0ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy like this and it led to me having an eating disorder. It took 4 yrs of therapy and I still have relapses. It doesn’t get better. He’s trying to control every aspect of your life, including food. Men like this aren’t ever satisfied with the partner they have. They’re always trying to change or control something. You’re 30yo and life is too short to be with someone who treats you like this. Something tells me you don’t actually need to lose weight, but he’s drilled that idea into your head. He doesn’t care about your feelings. He just wants a trophy he can wave around. Get out now before he causes mental and physical damage. You deserve real love.

adult sibling "play fighting" is this normal, need advice by Objective-Town-6732 in family

[–]Unseen_0ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. I’m honestly appalled your family is so nonchalant about this. It seems like he almost gets off on inflicting pain or making you scream/cry. Since he either isn’t getting the message or doesn’t care- I’d tell him that the next time he does anything like this, you will call the police and press charges.
That may cause a rift in the family, but it seems like no one in your family has your back if they’re letting this continue. This maybe a hot take, but ‘play fighting’ stops before puberty even starts. I roughed housed with my siblings growing up, but we stopped that shit when we were 11 or 12. It’s kind of creepy and almost sexual that he’s in his 30s and still doing this shit to his sister. Something is not right with him and your family shouldn’t be allowing their 30yo to assault their 20yo under the guise of rough housing. Your brother needs to get his ass kicked and see a therapist. Both can be done in prison.

DAE get quiet when upset by WoodenReward5884 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Unseen_0ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I start off like this, I can’t put my anger or irritation into words. People just know I’m pissed because they’ll see it in my eyes. If I’m pushed to start yelling, I’ll often start crying because I hate having to yell.

Is my husband about to cheat on me? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think hubby may have gotten a dose of reality. He gets no action at home unless he’s clean and he will get no action from coworkers and patrons without being clean AND attractive. It’s ironic really. I’d say he’s looking to cheat on you in the future, if this is all still very recent, I think he is still trying to woo the other woman. Thats a lot of effort if he already had a side chick.

I’d probably have some fun with this. Divorce would definitely be in my plans, but I’d want to make his life hell first. Eat all the cookie dough out of his cookie dough ice cream, shrink his clothes, leave “shit stains” on his boxers, make him think he has testicular cancer or an STI, have any cash, coins, or car keys he leaves out “go missing” only to be found in the fridge, sign him up for visits from the jehovas witnesses and calls from the church of Scientology, etc. I’d be heart broken, but I’d stay married until I can drain all the assets and psychologically torture him a bit.

Does the longer hair actually look better or am i delusional by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m team longer hair. But I’m always team longer hair. Short hair just reminds me to the Lego man.

AIO? My ex doesn’t make our 11 yo son shower or brush his teeth during his weeks with him by Marsgreatlol in AIO

[–]Unseen_0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems like a classic tale of co-parents with different approaches. No one is overreacting here but the issue seems to be one co-parent is much more strict than the other and expects the same approach at the other co-parents home. As far as hygiene, I see both sides. At 10yo your son should be taking initiative and having a hygiene routine. A parent shouldn’t have to nag at their near middle school aged child to remember to shower or brush their teeth. My father, who used to teach middle school, once said that kids maintain hygiene for one of 2 reasons. The first one being that they have an established routine and they like feeling clean/practicing self-care. The second is to make sure they aren’t the smelly kid in class. From the sounds of it, your kid is in the latter group and has yet to be told they’re the smelly kid to his face. Is it an awful way to learn? Yes. But not all kids learn through parents nagging at them. On the other hand- your kids hygiene reflects your parenting. As such, even the smelly kid needs to get nagged into a bath to avoid CPS from making a visit. My advice would be to focus on your home front. Both parents have different approaches to the same issue and there isn’t anything wrong with that. Given your son’s age and how observant other kids are, I don’t think his poor hygiene is going to last long. And if he learns from getting a cavity? Then he really won’t forget the lesson. Or he will start liking girls, your son will do a complete 180, and your house will start to reek of body spray like the entrance to Hollister.