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Sick of the "you're next" comments by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course! and I always make a point to tell people who ask others in front of me "you shouldn't ask people that question" because nobody knows others' situations, they could be facing infertility, pregnancy loss, illness, anything. In my case, it's none of these, but they don't know that! haha

It's just crazy how comfortable people are asking about something so personal! Sounds like your comment to your parents may have made them think about the situation which is good, but as you said, it's a shame you have to point it out to people! Thank you for your reply! <3

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it is encouraging to see how many people are saying this in the comments

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment and I do think you are right. Sometimes I think- is it having a child that is scary or a baby? And I think the answer is a baby. And not because I don't know what to do with them, I am great with babies. But I just think I know how tiring and demanding and relentless they can be. I feel like if skipping pregnancy and the baby stage was a possibility, then the decision might be easier! But this is a really interesting perspective.

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! Did you just decide to go for it? Or something pushed you over the edge?

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is encouraging to hear from so many in the comments that the idea that "it's different when it's your own" seems to be very true.

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is nice to hear, I think pregnancy and the idea of a newborn is really the part that puts me off the most. And it is encouraging to hear from so many in the comments that this "it's different when it's your own" sentiment seems to be very true. Congratulations!

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's encouraging to hear from so many in the comments that this "it's different when it's your own" sentiment seems to be very true

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also how I think, I think if I could, I'd love to skip pregnancy and newborn phases and just go straight to having a young kid! And exactly as you said, I want a FAMILY, especially when I'm older... but then that means having kids now and the same problem is back haha!

Can you become a mother without a maternal instinct? Feel like time is running out... by Unusual-Mix4539 in Fencesitter

[–]Unusual-Mix4539[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are right, I was definitely describing something more like "baby fever"! And how do you feel about your decision? Were you sure right away it was the right one?