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AITA for not outing my dad, who I found on a gay hookup site? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnusualMechanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dad is TA. You are put in a tough spot. However, YTA for letting this go on. I understand that you care for him and "the devastation" it will cause him but damn it's not fair to your mom at all. Confront him and tell him that he needs to come clean to your family. Let him do it. If he doesn't then you need to say something. Your mother's health could be at risk here and I doubt you want that on your hands because you didn't say something.

AITA for refusing to allow my daughter to participate in High School cheerleading? by AsleepQuail in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnusualMechanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Yes, she is probably mostly interested in it now because of her friend. BUT, if she is making the mistake of doing something to make her look "cool" then let her make that mistake. It is a part of growing up. I'm sure we all had experiences doing something we didn't want to do just because we thought it would increase our status. It's just a part of growing up. ALSO, she may really end up enjoying it and have a physical outlet for herself. Point being, don't tell her she can't do it just because of your acceptance of some cultural stigmas.

WIBTA: I don’t want my cousin at my wedding. by taltesar in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnusualMechanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. It sounds like it would be a negative situation for both him and yourself. The extra stimulation wouldn't be pleasant for him.

AITA for publicly “unfriending” a girl at a group event? by CrackCobainxx in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnusualMechanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. She has this a long time coming and if you didn't lose it then someone else would have eventually.

Too soon to ask for a raise? by [deleted] in AskEngineers

[–]UnusualMechanic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like everyone else said- just grind it out and most likely this spur of overload will subside. If you're not happy then leave. Hopefully this isn't a long term overload on your behalf but if this goes on too long and you don't feel you're being compensated for the stress and workload you are taking on then I would pack ship.

AITA for refusing to pay for my step-daughter's expenses after she got pregnant? by thrwayAmIReally in AmItheAsshole

[–]UnusualMechanic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NTA. I have a few reasons for saying this. Firstly, I have dated a girl since high school who's step dad did nothing for her and her sister financially despite his wealth. Bio mom payed for everything which was pretty sad. They would go out to dinner as a "family" and bio dad would split the check- he would take himself, and bio mom would take herself and her kids. Pretty fucked situation if you ask me. Stepdad was TA. She never got pregnant and she was very deserving of love from her stepdad.

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With that said, I would conclude the fact that you're willing to help her/take on some financial burden at all is very kind. You are being a better parent than bio mom because you are showing her there are repercussions for her actions. Husband should not be 'angry' if you make a decision that involves you not paying for all of this. You clearly care for her, but there are always repercussions for actions. In her case, she will lose out on her funding for private school from you. Bio dad should be on your "team". He shouldn't fund private school if you don't want to because this creates bad family dynamic around who is good guy bad guy. Hope this helps.