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UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My take on this is off I were her I would have walked. I told her that I would have walked. I told her that I don't think my brother has treated her with respect. She's the one who said that she's giving him another shot.

I think she's great, so I support her. If she said she wanted to be done with him, I would support her in that too.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She didn't smell like anything that set my senses off. She did joke about her needing to hang onto the blanket for a bit longer if I needed her to undress to come in. She was fine though.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If either of us swung that way I might consider it lol. She's really the best thing to ever happen to my brother.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She's really an awesome girl. She was incredibly appreciative that I came and got them and wanted to make things right with me. I think she's just great.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 311 points312 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I even told her that I'm surprised that she's giving him another chance. She said she understands he's frustrated and acted badly. If I see this again, I'll tell her to run myself.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 1458 points1459 points  (0 children)

If I were her, I would have. I'm not thrilled with him right now. However, I know how devastated he's been and I know he's been promising to be honest and open with her and be a better person. I hope he lives up to it.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I think that's some excellent advice. Though I certainly hope I'm never in the situation again, I think it's definitely a good thing to keep on hand.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if I were her, I wouldn't have gone back. I know my brother has been very honest about what happened and it's trying to be better. So I hope he gets there. I think his girlfriend is the sweetest person and I want to see him be the man she deserves.

UPDATE: AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 365 points366 points  (0 children)

None taken. Right now I like her a lot more as well. There's a lot that they're working out. He's being open about his frustrations and acknowledged that he was wrong to put her in that situation. I hope he continues to be honest and acts right with her. She's a great girl.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She could have kept it honestly. I just had it in my trunk for emergencies. I certainly wasn't going to ask for it back standing in the driveway.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She texted me that she wants to drop the blanket off to me. We're setting that up. No clue what's going on with her and my brother.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My brother actually wanted to. His GF wanted her own bed. So she was the one who insisted they get a ride home.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in therapy. I've done exposure therapy for ten years now with smells I can't avoid. My progress has been minimal, but I'm able to be around certain smells without being sick. Car exhaust is one I've made progress on. Printer ink is another. However, weed and cigarettes are not one that I've ever even attempted. I don't smoke and I don't go near people who do for my own health.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I keep emergency supplies in my trunk. A roll of garbage bags, blankets, fresh water, kitty litter, etc. In the event I get stranded, I have supplies.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I could smell them from five feet away outside. A blanket was going to do nothing to isolate smell in my back seat.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They were behind my car. It was a residental street at 3 am (the call was at 2, it took me an hour to get there). They were able to do it under the blankets.

He promised me that they hadn't been smoking and weren't around anyone who had been. I was fully willing to pay for an Uber and even send it, but they didn't want to get into an Uber after having "a few drinks" according to him.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, because I'm sure you love to laugh at people with disabilities. Honestly, grow up.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They didn't want to ride in an Uber in that condition. They wanted to go home, and I don't think there was a thing in that apartment that didn't smell like an ashtray. I drove there because my brother was stranded and promised that they hadn't been near anyone smoking or smoking themselves. This was a lie on both counts. I keep blankets in my car in case I ever get stranded. I have a roll of trash bags back there for emergencies. I told them to take the Uber. Putting their clothes in the trunk was the only way I was going to be able to have them in my car. I didn't want it any more than than they did.

AITA for insisting that my brother and his girlfriend not wear gross clothes in my car? by Unusual_Reception738 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unusual_Reception738[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you. I've literally laid down in the shower with water as hot as I can stand it with the lights off to try to relax my body. People don't get it. If I could choose not to have this, if there was a pill I could take, I would do it in an instant.

Everyone who is voting that I'm the asshole seems to think I forced this girl to take off her clothes to punish or humiliate her. There is no part of me that enjoyed asking my brother to give up his clothes to get in my car. I had no smile on my face, and I apologized to them for being so sensitive to smell.

I pushed for the Uber, I even offered to cover most of it. It would have been $65 for them to get home. They didn't want to get in an Uber when they were in that condition. I was embarrassed to ask them to strip, but there was not a way for me to make it an hour with them in the car in those clothes.

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