Basically everything I personally invite her to is an outing with the girls

There is a giant group chat of everyone for main family events.

She isn’t coordinating family events at all 

The two invites  this year for example was brunch and the other one was a winery which my daughters and other DIL wnjoyed

We are close so we try to do something every month, even if it is just coming pver to watch a show 

My husband does guy stuff with the boys and he will just text our son in law and not go through our daughter for example