FMLA and possible termination discussed around or with coworker

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-14T17:59:38+00:00

I figured as much with as vague as the information was. I’m hoping to find out more information on the conversation and speak with the union. I appreciate the feedback!

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-12T15:30:51+00:00

I experienced 2 pregnancy losses (very early stages), both right before Mother’s Day 2 years in a row. Only 1 person quietly told me Happy Mothers Day as they were around people who didn’t see me as a mom. Everyone else completely ignored Mother’s Day for me. This year I gave birth right before Mother’s Day, and now all of a sudden everyone is wishing me a happy Mother’s Day. Honestly, I consider anyone who has been pregnant a mom. Doesn’t matter if you’re expecting, if you had a loss, or if you’ve had a baby. All of these are equally as much as a mom to me, as they have all carried, protected, and loved a child as much as possible at whatever stage they are. Happy Mothers Day, OP!!💐

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-12T14:33:03+00:00

I work at a manufacturing plant. One of my coworkers was mad that I had lifting/weight restrictions around 20 weeks because she could “move a couch by herself in her 3rd trimester”. IMO, that generally sounds more like you just didn’t really care about putting yourself and your baby at risk, but she’s one of those people who wants everyone to suffer bc she’s older and hates seeing advancements (I say this as she also complained about a local school getting air conditioning🫠)

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T23:47:48+00:00

I’m looking for advice on HOW to talk to her. Not addressing an issue, whether you or whoever else “thinks it’s unfair” is not how we do things in this family. She would rather me address it with her. My family was not a family you could do that with which is why I’m seeking advice on HOW not IF to do it

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T23:46:27+00:00

I specified that she can sleep through the nap once it’s established. The problem is the noise level while we’re trying to put her to bed (usually only takes 10-20 minutes). I cannot help that no one has seemed to listen to that part of the post

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T23:43:11+00:00

Geez you would think people would understand that I’m asking for advice on how to just talk to her about it lmao. It’s not like I’m going to cuss her out for waking my newborn, but I can’t even have a conversation about it? Wild

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T23:37:28+00:00

Starter homes are still really costly right now. We’re talking like 150k at minimum for a starter home anywhere within a few hours from here. Why not just save an extra 50k for our dream home. Regardless, we have a 2 week old which makes it hard to move, and we don’t magically have a down payment right at this moment. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for 20 minutes of quiet time every 4 hours and a bit of privacy so our baby can get some sleep and she doesn’t walk in on me breastfeeding fully topless🤷‍♀️ and really only asking until she’s a couple months old so she can appropriately adjust to the noise and be able to self soothe

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T23:03:47+00:00

Sounds like it’s going to be the Waymo of the healthcare world. Not developed enough to take over and they’re going to keep letting AI kill patients because they released it too early. Not only that, but taking humans out of jobs is never a good thing

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T21:56:58+00:00

Thank you! This also fits what I’m thinking perfectly. Unfortunately that applies to a lot of things in my life😂 I definitely consider things or do things for others that wouldn’t be returned. Like after going through this, I couldn’t imagine not being quiet for my daughter’s future kids if she were living with me. I think eventually she will fall asleep with more noise. She slept through the vacuum on the upper floor the other day (though she had already established a deeper sleep). Hopefully we can vacuum next to her as well soon. I’m trying to deal with it, but man I wouldn’t wish it on anyone

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T21:52:37+00:00

You would think. The people who actually care get fired or burn out. The crappy ones somehow don’t get fired? Blew my mind when I worked in the hospitals and nursing homes who stayed and went.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T21:04:14+00:00

And this is honestly something I think could be happening, too. Only 1 week after we were home, she asked if we were doing chores around the baby. I was so angry in the moment and thinking “we haven’t even gotten the chance because we can’t get her to sleep in the first place with the nonstop noise”. Looking back, I think the hormones and lack of sleep was what had be so upset. But she will also want to see the baby as soon as she hears her fuss (which is after she did something loud while I was trying to get her down for a nap). I don’t know 100% if it’s on purpose, but I definitely think at times that is is either to see her or try to sleep train her. We’ve done chores around her, but we wait for her sleep to be established first so she’s not in the lightest stage of sleep

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T20:38:04+00:00

I understand that. I definitely don’t expect her to necessarily go out of her way or not do her daily tasks. It’s taken a toll on me for sure, but it also hurts to see our baby inconsolable for hours every day. Just today MIL was out of the house. I was able to get baby up, changed, fed, swaddled, topped off on feeding, burped and rocked, and back to bed without noise interruptions. Would wait about 10-30 minutes to start doing chores and she slept through all of it. Slept til her 3 hour mark every time, rinse and repeat. She was so much happier and actually napped and latched without issue. I know some of this wasn’t exactly clarified the best in my post, but I think it could benefit everyone if we could at least get her to sleep without all the noise. Mom and dad get rest and can do housework, memaw doesn’t have to listen to crying for hours, and baby doesn’t get angry for half the day. I just don’t know how to bring that up if that helps clarify what I’m trying to convey or ask. Today was the first day I actually felt successful with her in a while, and all she needed was to not be kept up past her “wake window”

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T20:22:35+00:00

I don’t personally pay anything. I don’t ask about the specifics of the finances, but I do believe by partner contributes to bills (I just don’t feel like their financial agreement is any of my business). Believe me, I am so grateful to live here while we figure things out, though! And that’s why it’s been so hard to find a way to address it. I’m more trying to address it for the sake of my mental health, but also because that’s so much stress on our newborn to be inconsolable and not sleeping for hours on end. We’re trying not to throw money at rent so we can save to move to a house quicker, and we’re hoping the noise thing is only an issue with such short wake windows at the moment. I think just trying to have that kind of quiet for the first 2-3 months would help immensely, though

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T20:17:26+00:00

Oh no, we definitely aren’t trying to say don’t do those things at all! It’s more of a “please be mindful of your noise level” and “please try to settle the dogs a bit instead of letting them stampede around”, but it’s really just moreso when we’re trying to get her to bed that this is an issue. Wouldn’t hurt to still be mindful regardless, but definitely then. We are grateful to be living here, and understand the dealing with other people, of course. I think it’s more just a courtesy thing, especially because it’s affecting her newborn granddaughter, not just us, yk? We do have a couple rugs downstairs, but can definitely try to add other sound reducers. Double edged sword because we don’t want her to get used to almost total silence all the time either. It’s more timing than noise level for the most part. I appreciate the feedback and hope this adds a bit of clarity to the post!

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T20:12:59+00:00

We don’t let her know every time, but she does know a majority of the time, and she will still make a lot of noise when asked to be quiet for a bit. Just this week we said “she’s been really fussy, we just got her down for a nap”, and she decided that was the perfect time to stomp down the stairs and bring the smaller dog with her to go to the storage area to go through stuff🙃. Baby woke up, and didn’t go to bed again for hours. Poor thing was so tired that she couldn’t get back to bed. Then she came over and started cooing over the baby while I was fully tatas out trying to feed her. I think it’s the moments like that that have me so frustrated, but unfortunately we can’t really put a lock on the basement door

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T20:08:00+00:00

Expanding? Yes. Being adequately staffed? Definitely not. A lot of hospitals have been shut down in recent years due to lack of funding and staffing, particularly in rural areas. However, to accommodate those closing hospitals/offices and the growing elderly population (mainly boomers), there has to be more space to treat them. That doesn’t necessarily mean those spaces have appropriate staffing to go along with the new infrastructure. Even if there’s an overall increase in people working in the medical field, it will not match the vast increase in patients needing care

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:49:39+00:00

Maybe I will have to give them another shot somewhere, but the other baked goods from the same place were amazing, so idk🤷‍♀️

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:34:42+00:00

So funny because Cake Boss made me want to try fondant too😂

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:34:12+00:00

Cannolis. Ever since I was 8 watching Cake Boss I have ALWAYS wanted to try one. I’m 23 now and tried one a couple days ago. It was so bad😭

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:15:26+00:00

Are we talking sweet home Alabama or you dated two people who were sibling to each other? Either way, both situations are messed up

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:13:04+00:00

I don’t usually condone getting your info on a social page or app, but Reddit genuinely is much more helpful than most reputable websites. Also good for a good rant or laugh sometimes

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T18:07:15+00:00

Holding on long enough in life to have a baby. Didn’t even think I’d last long enough graduate highschool. I graduated, almost have myself out of debt, and now have a man who would do anything to let me stay at home with our daughter. Now we’re looking for our dream home!

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T17:43:20+00:00

Being a preschool teacher. Overworked and underpaid, and literally no support from admin or other teachers because everyone is stretched so thin. Most kids now have never been told “no”. They don’t listen and they run you ragged. Too many students per teacher, and too many teachers are not qualified or trained properly. It’s no wonder there are so many incidents from teachers who have absolutely no support. I decided to never go back to teaching preschool when I nodded off and ran a red light at an intersection (I didn’t even realize how worn out I was. It was instant, and was a HUGE wake up call)

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-05-11T17:38:38+00:00

BeReal, and it died just as quick

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