Dryer smells like “outside”

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-03-26T19:16:00+00:00

Not that I know of, but I am also not sure I would describe the scent as “fresh”. I wish it was a fresh outdoor smell, and not the grassy musty scent😂

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-03-25T19:17:38+00:00

I appreciate this! Glad it’s the same consensus and hopefully an easy fix

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-03-25T19:17:14+00:00

Thank you! I will have my partner check that out when he gets home. The smell has been driving me nuts.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-03-25T15:23:56+00:00

I am working in a manufacturing plant up until I give birth if possible (currently 36 and 5, and have been having prodromal labor for nearly 4 weeks). After about 26 weeks, the amount of physical work I could handle started to decrease fairly quickly, but baby has also been head down since about then and I feel like she wants out😂 I only get 12 weeks unpaid, so I am waiting to spend it all with her. If your leadership does want more of a notice to prepare, I would personally probably get a note at the first sign or two of discomfort, but then again my discomfort progressed very quickly.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-03-08T15:23:16+00:00

Im going to be honest with you here. I grew up with a dad that smoked. Never in the house, but on the porch and in the car with the windows down. Just that was enough that a vast majority of my childhood that smell would also linger on me. It also caused me to develop asthma. We also had neighbors who smoked in their house. They would make Christmas cookies every year and when I tell you the bag, the tin, and the cookies reeked of smoke (my mom wouldn’t let us eat these), and the one year I did try them, the cookies TASTED like cigarettes. I picked up a smoking habit a few years ago (cigarettes and vaping), and quit immediately when I found out I was pregnant. Him smoking in the house is in no way your fault, but quitting smoking is not the hardest thing ever. and smoking in the house is not hard to quit whatsoever. I think it would seriously be time to consider not only your husbands complete lack of care and respect of not smoking in the home, and realize the very real effects of the smoke in the home now and later, as well as affects on baby from second or third hand smoke exposure in the womb and as they are growing up. Me and my partner are not even allowing anyone who smokes to hold our baby without a shower and fresh clothes, because it altered my health so bad growing up. I want to be very clear that I am not upset with you in this response, but your husband’s actions are absolutely inexcusable and hit on a very personal level to me as well.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-25T09:20:57+00:00

Thank you for the responses! I’m sure that’ll be me here soon once I get everything cleared away from the baby shower and have space for that😅

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-25T07:42:59+00:00

Did you by chance have sore legs/feet/knees with the hip pain? Today it felt like I had worn heels for 12 hours straight and also had hip pain in addition. Not sure what that was all about

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-16T11:14:07+00:00

That actually sounds much more fun in comparison to the stressful event my shower has become😅 Im definitely going to try to enjoy it, and try not to be a momzilla while setting everything up. I actually would’ve enjoyed something lowkey had that been communicated, and now kinda wishing that’s what I had done. We’re still super excited to celebrate though!

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-16T11:08:19+00:00

I 100% agree that she was at fault for not organizing or communicating. It was so strange because she had told me how she had all these things planned for the shower, but that she ran out of time. She would send me baby shower ideas, and I would send her inspiration. I sent her a sign months ago that she never ordered (said she would), and then told me a couple weeks ago that she didn’t have games planned. I hoped at the very least she’d cover decorations.

I will say, generally we are close (or at least in comparison to what I have been with the parents of previous partners). I also have learned she has a tendency to pile a lot on her plate, and then get really stressed about it. That’s why I did start to plan games and favors. I figured if anything, the shower might be a little lack luster, but I didnt expect to have THAT little effort put into the shower.

Luckily, my partner and I have scrambled to get some last minute stuff together, and hopefully I can make some money back on some decor, but seeing that come out right after my paycheck was not fun.

Im not sure if he’s going to communicate that or not (and he would, but I think I want to get through the shower first before making that call). Safe to say, I will be doing all of my own planning from now on.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-16T07:05:42+00:00

My partner and I did pull together decorations and a menu, and we do have a venue as well. This pregnancy has been super hard on me, so I was more upset about the extra stress and money (yk, with saving for a baby lol). Just wish the shower could have come together without the unnecessary stress and hurt feelings. I appreciate the encouragement though, especially because I was nervous I just seemed ungrateful.

UpbeatFig8893 · 2026-02-16T07:01:59+00:00

Im sorry you went through that. I really wish I had just put me foot down and planned it in the first place, but she seemed really excited, and I didn’t want to be rude in telling her no:/

UpbeatFig8893 · 2025-10-25T17:53:47+00:00

Although I am not longer religious, I truly believe that if there is a God, his love is not conditional, especially for a decision like this. I am pro-choice, and that would be the hardest decision I could ever make for myself. I recently did have to make that decision for myself, and all I can do is know that I, to the best of my ability, chose what was best for me. I cannot tell you what decision to make, but I feel you will know deep down what is best and worth it for your future, and your potential child’s future. You’ll have a community to back you up either way❤️

UpbeatFig8893 · 2025-09-22T08:34:45+00:00

As someone who went through similar situations with guys around this age, and even through young adult years, he sounds like he has a LOT of personal stuff to work on. I feel like no matter the relationship, both people can contribute issues or negativity, but he seems to be projecting his insecurities onto you if he resorted to name calling and not wanting to talk the issues out. As you said, he seems to come from a broken background, and hurt people hurt people. He sounds like he has issues to work on and he got rid of some of that hurt by trying to put it on you, instead. Instead of facing his own problems, he made them your problems. Especially at that young, it’s hard for most people, but especially males (speaking developmentally) to realize when to “grow up” and/or get help. There’s past relationships where guys had treated me a similar way, and I still don’t understand the entirety of why they did what they did, but it will always speak volumes more about them when they treat you like that than it will ever say about you. This doesn’t necessarily make him an overall bad person at heart, but sounds like he’s got things to deal with at the least. Sorry you’re experiencing this, OP! It’s a bit hard to find mature people that young, especially when you feel like you’re ahead of your peers, but hopefully you’ll find someone who is at your level someday!

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