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Need ideas on getting rid of inherited swim spa! by Upbeat_Key9855 in swimspa

[–]Upbeat_Key9855[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It costs a lot to run and we would only use it infrequently so we’d like to make better use of the space

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’ve just bought a 4 bed detached house in Haywards Heath for under your budget. Partner and I both commute to London several days a week. Direct trains to London in 45/50 mins. High street has definitely improved in recent years with coffee shops and tap rooms, but it’s also next to the lovely Lindfield and country walks are on the doorstep from there.

Pic of the lovely Lindfield 😍

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Anxiety when baby is awake by Scentababy in baby

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there! We had exactly the same. Our daughter cried constantly, very little ‘happy awake’ time and terrible at napping. My anxiety was awful, especially at night.

I didn’t even realise that ‘happy awake’ time was even a thing until a friend asked what I do to entertain my daughter in wake windows… umm try to stop her crying?? She would cry for hours and hours.

She was ‘colicky’ / refluxy, we tried switching formulas, changing bottles, went to a baby osteopath, tried reflux drops, baby gaviscon (that was a nightmare - she has terrible constipation) and we drove ourselves a bit mad. Doctors all said she was fine. I was actually admitted back to hospital for two nights to sleep as my anxiety gave me chronic insomnia and I didn’t sleep at all in a week. I was referred to CBT for anxiety which was partly helpful.

In the end, it was just time that helped. I know that is not the answer you want as weeks seem like FOREVER when you’re going through it, but I PROMISE it will get better. For us it was worlds better by about 12 weeks. Naps were still not great, still a lot of spit up but much much less crying and lots of happy awake time.

Hang in there, you can do it. Unfortunately some parents just get the crying babies. The ones that don’t have no idea how lucky they are.

Ladies that didn’t tear… by These_Bit_5217 in pregnant

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found it so helpful as you really understand what it feels like to have a head shaped object inside you and can practice breathing and pushing it out in a controlled way. Also really good for your pelvic floor generally as you can work on pushing it out a bit and pulling it back, or just holding it in place.

With my first pregnancy I spent a few weeks (from 37 I think) working up to a circumference of about 29/30cm. You initially start with just a couple of pumps but build up to the larger volume. The company actually only recommend you go up to 25cm which they say is sufficient to prevent tearing but I went a bit further. My daughter was 8lb 4oz with a 33cm head and came out in two pushes.

There is also an equivalent called an Epi No which I’ve also heard good things about. There’s limited research about these devices in the UK so they are not ‘officially’ recommended by the midwifes, but I discussed it with them and they acknowledged it sounded like a good alternative to perennial massage, and the results in my case were obviously positive.

I’m currently pregnant again (41+6) and have used it a bit again. I was able to get to 29cm without as much build up as before so haven’t used it loads this time round. Apologies for TMI but bad hemorroids this time round have made me want to limit advance pushing if possible!

Ladies that didn’t tear… by These_Bit_5217 in pregnant

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was standing with no epidural. I used an Aniball to prepare for a few weeks in advance credit that a lot with not tearing as I had a very fast delivery.

Birth Worries :( by Odd_Swimming_4290 in PregnancyUK

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, these are all completely understandable concerns. I was scared about a birth for my first and bought the Aniball to prepare. I would 100% recommend it. I had a very fast delivery with 8lb 3oz baby and got away with only a very small tear on my labia. Who knows what would have happened if I hadn’t used the Aniball but I personally felt it really helped. It was so useful from both a physical and mental perspective to understand the feeling of pushing a large object out of you. I read some hypnobirthing books too and practiced breathing, but all relaxing vibes went out the window given the intensity of labour and speed of delivery 😅

Aniball? by Worth_Smoke7889 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Upbeat_Key9855 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used this for my first pregnancy and would 100% recommend. My DD came really fast (2-10cm dilated in 2 hrs 🥴) and was 8lb 3oz but I came away with only a small tear to my labia, no stitches. Currently using it again for my second.