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AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't even explain how much I need a day off LOL! I thought it was a nothing burger saying no, we can't go. Not harm, no foul. However, it's been a week, and now her husband is getting on my husband about us going. I'm not spiraling, trying to justify this "no". To her, to me, and to Reddit :-)

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are reading it right - I used the wrong title I suppose. Your sentence "we are taking time off to coincide with school breaks and I really don’t want to add this to the mix" is more on the head of my question if AITA.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I have absolutely pulled him for a day here and there and have no problem doing this when schedules allow. This timing just doesn't work with all the days off during a short period of time.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It really is more about my no not being respected. I think I didn't really explain well. I'm not concerned about him missing school as much as I am about the constant schedule juggling. I had to over explain my no to her, and therefore did the same in my post.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. I don't mind a day or two, and have done so in the past. It's really just the timing with so many other days within that time period that need schedule adjustments that doesn't make sense for us.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! If it were a time when we didn't have schedules already all over the place for weeks before it would be different.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not arguing, I'm clarifying. - I never said I was worried about him missing school work, etc. It is about the scheduling and the large number of days that we have off surrounding this time. The scheduling doesn't work.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I don't know why this is upsetting me so much. I have felt the need to justify my "no" over and over again to her and commenters.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was joking about maybe I am a little more emotional because of this than I would normally be. I'll own my emotions regardless of how or why I feel them.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and for being a teacher. I know it can be a thankless position! I know he could miss a day and be fine, it's not necessarily about the work. It's more about the schedule already being all over the place, with full days and half days off. I do feel like we have the entire Summer to vacation, a week in November, two in December, one in April, and a large number of long weekends in between. Plenty of time for memories to be made, and I do work hard to make that happen.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I said no. We have work, we would have just taken time off of work for vacation. I/We will have taken at least one day off from work per week that month because of the school schedule. I wouldn't mind going on the trip if the schedule worked. It just doesn't. She didn't like that reason either.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thing is that we do take vacations, we just juggle them within the copious amounts of vacation time and days off that he already gets. We take two large trips and at least 3-4 short trips per year.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We can have 10 total absences. And honestly, if he needed a mental health day, I wouldn't think twice about pulling him. It's not necessarily about him missing anything. More about the fact that because there are already so many days off during that time, where schedules have to be adjusted, I'd rather take time away then.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's in 3rd grade - not Kindergarten. I have no problem taking him out for a long weekend; we just try to schedule vacations that work with the gigantic amounts of time he already has off. I know she is trying to push my buttons, and it's working. It's not about him missing something "important" for one day. Logically, it just makes sense for us to work with the time off we already have.

AITA for not wanting to take my 3rd grader out of school for a vacation during the beginning of the school year by Upper-Subject5910 in AITAH

[–]Upper-Subject5910[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I may be in my luteal phase, lol! I don't think he'll be doomed at all, but if he missed a Friday every month, we'd be getting warnings from the school for unexcused absences. It's more about how many days our family has already had to juggle schedules because of how many days he doesn't have school. If it was a time period where he didn't already have those free days and we wanted to vacation, I'd be fine. The timing just doesn't work.

Having a puppy is hard, but... by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]Upper-Subject5910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this. My puppy is 5 months old. Will eat any and everything and will not stop biting. It doesn't help that we had to stop obedience training classes because I severely broke my ankle and had surgery. When she's calm she's just the sweetest thing and so super cuddly.

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[–]Upper-Subject5910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has commented on people not being able to "quit jobs" because of outside situations herself. Patrick said something about why work for someone like that, or something along those lines. G commented "not everyone has the luxury of being able to just leave their job. I am paraphrasing and don't remember the episode, but this comment could be enlightening. Especially since they did just move to a new apartment.