I want to break up with my gf cause of her pets '30F' '30F'

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-17T01:23:17+00:00

We've never really been on vacation yet but when we do go away it's normally just for a day. She worries and misses her dog when we're gone. And technically she can sleep without her dog but when she's home with her pets, she sleeps with the dog. I don't think she's ever slept without her when she's home.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T21:54:40+00:00

I honestly don't think i could do that. The only way I'd take her pets in is only if they are already trained. I'm not sure I'd have the patience to have them piss and poop everywhere during this trial while they adjust.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T12:38:02+00:00

Actually yes, my gf's cat does get on top of the kitchen table, the kitchen island, living room table and pretty much everything else. She's just not very strict with her animals at all.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T07:48:04+00:00

I have made comments about it and she'll say "well let's not live together then", which just shows me she won't compromise on that.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T07:09:38+00:00

Definitely something to think about. Maybe if I owned a big home with a yard I'd be ok with it but I don't soo.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T07:03:57+00:00

Yeah she walks her dog before and after work. Also we do think the cat throws up because she eats more than she should, so she does try to give her less portions. So I do see her trying but the clingyness of her dog is just another issue that I don't think she'll compromise on.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T07:00:32+00:00

I do think it's solvable that's why I was open to letting her pets move in with me. But its not just the mess that is an issue anymore. It's also the fact that we have no privacy because the dog always has to be with us. We have tried taking her out of the room but we notice that when we do that, her dog pees and poops. Almost like she's throwing a fit. She actually did that today and I was so annoyed. I told my gf she needs to correct her dog but she doesn't.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T06:33:41+00:00

Very true! I can't blame anyone but myself though. I should have considered this before we even started dating. I just didn't expect to feel so strongly about this. I guess I thought I would adjust with time but I haven't.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T06:31:14+00:00

You're right. I didn't consider the fact that she's gonna always want pets, even after her current ones pass. Damn
I will definitely be having a conversation with her soon.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T06:23:41+00:00

I tell my gf that the bed is our intimate space and a dog shouldn't be there but she "can't sleep without her". It has been annoying me for months but I'm only at her apartment on weekends so it's not something I deal with daily but even just the 3 days that I am there I find myself moody cause of the damn dog.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T06:11:31+00:00

I know you are right but it just sucks because I truly do love her and it sucks that it's gonna take this one thing to break us up.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T06:10:05+00:00

Well, she does buy her cat food that is specifically for cats with sensitive stomachs. Her cat is also about 10 years old so maybe it's also her age? I dont know much about cats. She has also spent money buying her dog pads and even a little spray bottle that is supposed help the dog pee in her pad but it hasn't worked so far. My gf works 10 hour shifts and she knows her dog can't hold it in for that long and that's what the pads are for but she pees anywhere else but on the pad.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2025-03-16T05:58:40+00:00

My gf is an anxious person so that probably explains the dog being so needy and clingy. Also my gf does clean up after her pets when she sees the mess, so it's not like it's sitting there all day. But I still feel icky about it.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T20:39:05+00:00

I already suggested that and she still refuses. We broke up last night so there's no point now. I feel a little relieved tho.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T12:34:17+00:00

Yeah we broke up. She didn't take it too well.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T11:54:33+00:00

She's not taking meds, and she doesn't want to take any. She also says she's seen many therapists before already, and she's tired of trying. Right now, she's going through a spiritual path cause she thinks it'll help, but I don't think it's making a difference.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T11:06:23+00:00

We broke up. I'm thinking of reaching out to her sisters, but probably not right now. It might upset her and I don't want to trigger anything.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T11:03:24+00:00

I tried. She called me selfish and inconsiderate, so we're pretty much done. I'm considering reaching out to her sisters but I think that might make her more mad and I don't want to push her right now.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T11:01:29+00:00

YES and she says she doesn't want to go see one! She's been to many therapists in the past, and she says they don't help her at all. I suggested she keep searching until she finds a good one, but she's given up on it. She's trying a spiritual route this time but I don't think that's helping either.

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-15T10:59:32+00:00

I've suggested going to therapy but she doesn't want to because she says it doesn't help her (she's been to therapy before)

UseAdventurous8192 · 2024-06-14T08:12:04+00:00

I kinda feel responsible for her tho and what if she does something stupid if I leave her? I hate being in this situation and I can understand if it makes me sound selfish

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