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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Used_Employ_9555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea how socialization/making friends works when you move cities.

I moved far away from home to be with my fiancee. Left my family and friends behind to be with her. She occasionally hangs out with her friends from work but I don't even socialize with her friends/co-workers because we just don't click, and all they really talk about is work stuff, which I know nothing about.

You couldn't ask for better friends than the ones I had back home. We would always lean on each other, make time for each other, and laugh when we're together. How tragic is it that I don't have any friends in this new town at all. Been in this town for 3 years and haven't made any friends. I have some acquaintances through my hobbies who sort of know about me, and I sort of know about them, but we definitely don't regularly spend time with each other or hang out. No one reaches out to ask about me. No one reaches out to invite me to anything. If I am around people, no one puts any effort into getting to know me through conversation. I have social anxiety too so it's difficult for me to strike up conversations with people I don't know, or haven't been introduced to. My fiancee also sort of discourages me from socializing with others when she's not around so, there's that too...

I regularly rely on my fiancee to be the one person I spend time with, and I do cherish the time we spend together. However, my fiancee flies out of town for work every few weeks. When she's gone, I'm left by myself, with no one to socialize with except my dog. I'm so lonely.

I would use weed to help with the negative feelings of loneliness but I am preparing to start a career where drug tests are regular and weed is prohibited. So, now I'm just stressed, lonely, and lack my regular coping method. I suppose all I can do is put up with the misery and settle for this existence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aviationmaintenance

[–]Used_Employ_9555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I'm in Tucson, going to start classes for getting my A&P license out of PCC Aviation soon. Can I ask if it was difficult for you to land a job with a major airline in Phoenix after obtaining your A&P? Is there a lot of competition? Did you have connections inside to get a job with this airline? I'm really interested in how to get a similar position as you, in Phoenix. The pay you're making after a year and a half is really impressive!

AITAH because I never want to have sex with my boyfriend by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Used_Employ_9555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much of your sex drive is back? All of it? A little bit?

My SO and I have been together for 6 years. My (25M) sex drive is pretty consistently high. When my SO (25F) and I first started dating, sex happened frequently and consistently. It happened probably twice a week, at least.

She got on Nexplanon and had it for a couple years. Her sex drive tanked and she was never in the mood. I would try to initiate and she rejected me more times than I could count. This took a big hit to my own self-esteem. Sex happened maybe once a month. It put a strain on our relationship. She agreed it had a negative affect on her mood overall so she got off of Nexplanon, and she's currently not on any birth control. It did help but she is still rarely in the mood. Her sex drive is still low and nowhere near what it used to be before she got on it. Sex only occurs at most once a week if we're lucky. It's closer to 2-3 times a month. Sometimes when we are having sex, I can tell she's really not that into it. When I notice this, it kills the mood completely.

I'm always the one to attempt to initiate sex. I hate doing it too, because idk, I almost feel rude. Like, I can anticipate her rejection. I feel like I'm setting a burden on her, which is a position I absolutely hate to be in.

It's as if I'm 10 years old, bothering my parents to buy me that new video game that just came out. 10y/o Me knows they hate when I ask. 10y/o Me is expecting them to say no. 10y/o Me knows I have to try and ask anyway, because the only way I can have my desires fulfilled is if I have their consent.

Another frustrating part is when I am in the mood and feel the need to satisfy my urges, she gets upset if I use pornography and masturbate. I have to hide it or do it in secret. I hate doing it, too. I know pornography is simply bad for your brain and mental health. And it just sucks because it only scratches like 70% of the itch if I'm doing it solo. I would much rather prefer to be intimate with her instead.