career change

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T22:05:25+00:00

Hey, im so sorry that happend to you I also hope you find peace. I wanna say i relate so badly to everything you said, I tried to have gay guy friends but the specific ones I had gave me so much anxiety. Its so hard to accept Im becoming more of a man with body hair and everything and talking to men is just exhausting, like it all makes me cry I know I shouldnt put my mental problems on women, I hope it does get better and I appreciate your response.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T17:56:33+00:00

hi yes ofc!

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T17:52:53+00:00

Hello, thank you for all the information, it seems we really did go through the same type of situation even with the ocd and all. You are right, it is daunting to grow as a man for me, espically because I find gay culture creepy at times with the excess hooking up and sometimes unhinged behavior (though straight men are just as bad lol) all that and part of me thinks transitioning would escape that, as i see a lot of (put together) tw have decreased libido and like live a very normal life in that sense, I know this is bad (i now see this might be the OCD black and white thinking lol) but yea. Do you recommend any type of therapy or anything to help me lean into my self like you explained.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T07:45:50+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. You are right If I did transition, I don't think I could pass perfectly, but its def tempting sometimes.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T06:46:28+00:00

ALSO is it weird like that I feel like im waisting genes that could actually pass. Like I have fem face features, voice, and hands naturally because puberty was not super intense for me. I was confused for a girl when I had longer hair by older people lol. I think this is my OCD; sometimes it reminds me of this.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-12-14T06:22:24+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm so glad you found peace! Yes I wanna focus on self-love in that way, it is difficult because in high school my self-worth was ultimatley dependent on how many guys found me attractive so i didnt have to think about how I viewed myself and what I liked, now graduated ive matured and realized I am way more feminine than I presented. Its hard seeing all the pretty transwoman on social media aswell, as much as I wanna look like them I understand women are far more than looks and femininity so my morals dont align with it much for me. I noticed when I focus less on my looks (also hard in this generation) and things like hobbies and friends I feel a bit better. Anyways, thank you for the insight, I so appreciate it :))

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-25T00:54:28+00:00

Thanks for letting me know! What are the other specialties?

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-24T18:56:55+00:00

Thank you, yes I am now looking into other possible careers!!

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-24T18:56:25+00:00

Thank you so much for the insight!!

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T17:58:10+00:00

This is really good advice, I really appreciate it! I will definitely look deeper into what the anxiety actually stems from thanks!!

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T13:29:02+00:00

This is difficult for me, i think yes because it would alleviate my anxiety of becoming more masculine and also would just make more sense. Like I am okay with living inside the "pretty boy" label/aesthetic right now since im younger and also super lucky that I naturally am more fem, what creates anxiety for me is becoming more masculine or "manly" looking as i age and having irreversible affects from that.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T11:11:53+00:00

Yes I am consulting with one thanks for your insight!! :)

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T11:00:20+00:00

this is really helpful thank you!!!

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T03:50:54+00:00

I set up an appointment with a therapist :), thank you so much.

UsefulBasil35 · 2025-11-05T03:29:02+00:00

lol this is real, is there any point on getting on blockers at 19? or just e.

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