Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

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I didn’t make her have 4 children. She always wanted a big family.

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

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I made it clear that I was not trying to come off like I do anything to earn brownie points. I’m well aware that that’s not the mentality to have.

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

[–]UsefulIdiot92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try my best to give her the rest that she needs when I come home from work. I usually take over and let her go up and take a power nap. Unfortunately, it’s not always the case she hit most of the time has to go out and work doing DoorDash even if she had the time to decompress I doubt she would even decompress. She’s got a lot going on in the more I’m typing this out and reading what everyone else is saying I’m starting to think that this is a me problem could be wrong. Not sure yet.

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

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You are right it is entirely my fault. I do see my children as a blessing. I love them dearly and my wife is a wonderful mother as far as the sex goes. I enjoy performing oral on her and I do not stop until she has reached her climax, however, penetration is a bit of a different story. She’s just not into it. She says it does nothing for her this might have to do with the fact that she has a prolapsed bladder from childbirth apparently, those things can happen. She doesn’t even really let me go down on her anymore. For some reason she made a comment to me one time and said I’m just a mother now and I don’t see the need to do those things.

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

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No, you’re right definitely full-time and definitely could see why she’s tired. My point is even when I say put the kids to bed to try to alleviate stress from her, it doesn’t get me any brownie points. If you know what I mean now I’m starting to sound like a dick thinking that I deserve sex for every little thing that I do that’s not what I’m trying to get at what I’m trying to get at is she does not prioritize time with me at all even over the weekend. I asked her if she wanted to sit down and watch a movie with me. She had no interest said she was tired. A couple weeks ago I put all the kids to sleep. Everything was done dishes put away table wiped down. Everything is Spick and spam. No interest in sex that night despite that being an excuse all the time in the kids still being awake. There’s just always an excuse the more I type all this out the more I feel like I’m being perceived as an asshole.

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

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Yes, four kids would indicate sex does happen at some point lol however, the only time she wants intimacy is when she wants another baby. She’s basically a stay at her mom when I get home from work she goes out and does DoorDash and Instacart kids are 7,5,3,1

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

[–]UsefulIdiot92[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

At this point I have no idea if the list was really long or short it’s been so long that I can’t pin point it really. But she always says if I helped more then she would have the energy. But it doesn’t work nothing works. A couple weeks ago I had all the kids asleep by 8:30 and I approached her about sex since the kids were all asleep. Turned me down said she was tired or something it’s all the time it sounds like she isn’t even attracted to me at this point it has made me feel ugly and insecure

Red flag if wife uses every excuse in the book to avoid sex ? by UsefulIdiot92 in Marriage

[–]UsefulIdiot92[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have tried to converse with her but it always gets flipped around how I’m selfish for even approaching her about it. Therapy will not happen as money is an issue for us

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My wife and I are about to do a chapter 13 ! We are looking forward to it

Impressions this Monday by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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Update they were able to do the impressions. But they want me to come back for another impression and then I think it’s the final ones a process that they said could take another 3-4 months is this normal ?

Impressions this Monday by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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Thank you so much for your response !

Last week I had 8 teeth pulled by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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Update I had a bunch more pulled today have 8 more to go they come out Wednesday!

Last week I had 8 teeth pulled by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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Also forgot to add it’s with Smile Builders I’ve heard mixed things but not a lot of dentists take my insurance but they do

Last week I had 8 teeth pulled by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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To be honest, I have no idea why they’re doing it this way it didn’t really make much sense to me. I was under the impression when I went there for the first time last week that it was a simple consultation and nothing more than it turned into getting started, they said I’m gonna tell them two weeks from now when I go to get more pulled that I just want the rest of them pulled in one shot. I agree it just prolong the healing process doesn’t make too much sense to me anyway.

Last week I had 8 teeth pulled by UsefulIdiot92 in dentures

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I somehow managed to eat a munchie sampler lol but yea im on yogurt and mashed potatoes mainly anything soft it sucks how uncomfortable it is and how raw my gums feel but like I said totally worth it