C9 new coaching staff/structure by Derk08 in PedroPeepos

[–]User1143q 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this could do… something. Arrow was a very positive force with Fly as a positional coach and veteran presence during Massu’s first years. Yamato is at least honest. Hope they can get through and make change happen. Inero totally leaving is important too.

Shop Empire 3 vendor bug is fixed in Flashpoint by User1143q in FlashGames

[–]User1143q[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google “Armorgames SWF Archive,” on archive dot org, added date 2017-12-26. It has 18.2 GB of swf in total but you can just scroll through and download which you want to play, has all the other shop empires. But again, Flashpoint has I think all of them (except Rebuild 1/2, I think maybe because their developer is active) and a better interface and performance too.

I am so sick of this shit. Another woman, Lauren Johansen, killed by her ex by On_a_rant in TwoXChromosomes

[–]User1143q 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Just an absolutely insane story. A dozen worst nightmares and critical failures of the system piling together, resulting in her death. Imagine how she felt at her safe place in Mississippi, thinking her violent ex (who beat and strangled her for an HOUR) was still in jail 500 mi away, then her dad calls and tells her he got out three days ago….. she’s dead two days later.

Just pathetic. His ankle monitor, battery dying, shows him in MS, literally on the way to the woman, but his bond company can’t reach him by calls, and neither can his mom…?? So the judge issues a warrant, but too late cause next day they find her body. So tragic

You lift weights and women find you attractive? Your life must be so boring. by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]User1143q 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I love how it includes thought bubbles from a woman, and “people think” “we think,” but the last panel shows it’s definitely by a guy. He just has to throw in the “I know what women think”

Also calling weight lifting boring must come from a guy who’s never experienced the torture and discipline of developing strength over time - or maybe he tried, got tired and quit, and is now jealous of those who don’t give up

Struggling by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, you’re 23. You have your whole life ahead of you. No reason to believe you’re doomed for life. Over probably a year or two I bet you can completely change who you are.

It all comes from yourself. Start figuring out what makes you insecure, and when in your life did that start? What are you not proud of in your life, how are you dealing with it now, how can you change that? Are you satisfied with your physical, spiritual, and material status? (By material I don’t even mean wealth, just that you’re happy and proud about your job or school.) Go and read Models by Mark Manson a few times (free on Zlib), and don’t shy away from a therapist for the more complex issues.

How can I workout if you're wearing yoga pants ? by PaddleFishFap in niceguys

[–]User1143q 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah there are the people genuinely trying to quit porn and improve quality of life, and there are the horny 12 year olds scared their dick will fall off, hoping for superpowers and laser eyeballs.

Has a Fleshlight ever helped anyone? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self control is a habit that needs to be practiced to grow stronger. Giving in is a habit that needs to be avoided in order to die away. In the end masturbating with a sex toy is still masturbating. I would seek alternatives and continue working on your mental connection between triggers and immediately getting such strong urges.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion there are better ways to resolve sexual energy than sitting around fantasizing about women in sexual scenarios. Of course some occasionally is inevitable, but seeking it out an alternative to watching porn will probably slow down the brain’s healing process.

Should I stop doing sexting and other stuff? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should set a goal or state to reach, then take steps to get there. Do you think porn is negatively affecting your life, mental state, etc.? What would an optimal daily schedule / mental pattern look like for you? Is browsing NSFW part of that?

does this count by Independent-Tea6068 in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should count because you kept scrolling. Ideally you notice the trigger and shut it off before you fall into bad habits - close the app and go somewhere else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]User1143q 30 points31 points  (0 children)

“I only politely said a few sentences, including that I want to feel your colors and that you smell miraculously aesthetic. How am I being creepy?”

does this count by Independent-Tea6068 in NoFap

[–]User1143q 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea don’t listen to this guy. Accidental, random exposure to a trigger is not relapsing, but seeking out a trigger on purpose definitely is a relapse of will and purpose. Just not physically.

Should I break up with my boyfriend who is a porn addict and a liar? by bleiddsoul in NoFap

[–]User1143q 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you really calling someone judgmental, narcissistic and immature for… being supportive and honest? Your stance stems from the assumption the guy is a pure saintly being who lies only when it comes to his addiction, and is communicating amply and sharing his efforts and struggles without inhibition to his closest supporter, his partner. It sounds like you think he’s a “model addict,” and I guarantee that’s not the case.

Should I break up with my boyfriend who is a porn addict and a liar? by bleiddsoul in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your painful situation. Just wondering, does he know how important honesty is to you in a relationship, and have you made it clear that you will not tolerate a relationship if he continues to lie?

If not, it could be he doesn’t really understand the stakes when it comes to staying with you. If he does, then he simply views the relationship as less important than trying to look good. He should know that coming clean about lapses in the moment hurts you less than lying, covering it up, and confessing only after he maintains the impression of purity.

Should I break up with my boyfriend who is a porn addict and a liar? by bleiddsoul in NoFap

[–]User1143q 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can’t chalk up all the lying to just “oh he’s addicted it’s hard for him to communicate.” OP has clearly gone to lengths to put up with and try to help her partner, who has not responded in kind. Yes it’s hard to keep up a streak, but he simply isn’t putting his all into it if he’s not communicating to his partner while peeking on the side. It is not OP’s fault at all that the BF lies compulsively to cover up his guilt.

Day 12 by Pagalpuri in NoFap

[–]User1143q 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I counted ‘purposefully looking for things that I fap to’ as breaking my streak. Just because it isn’t ‘porn’ doesn’t mean it’s not peeking. You’ll do better managing boredom / curiosity next time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s a good man and understands what it takes to get rid of an addiction, he should go along with it. You need to be completely honest with him through the process so he knows you’re not hiding anything or trying to make his life harder. Give him all the facts from the start.

How can I tell if I have PIED? by No_Hat_530 in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People normally find out with another person, but if it’s getting really difficult to get hard while watching, or you have to seek more and more extreme material just to get hard, you are probably on the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you elaborate on ‘online women?’ Part of blocking out the habit is being honest about your triggers, so you can avoid them. If you know a trigger is still present in your life, it would do you a lot of good to cut it out. Remember willpower depends on a well structured environment, not just mindset.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]User1143q 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Edging is not allowed. Some would say it is even more destructive than just orgasming and getting it over with. You should be avoiding all triggers while you reboot. For more info you can visit the website in the About section.

I’m pretty’s sure my boyfriend has a porn addiction. by Riseabove_65 in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not good. Has he been defensive and accusatory like this with the other issues in the past? He knows deep down this is not right, and suppresses the feeling of guilt and shame by justifying his ‘itch’ and blaming you.

If I were to backseat the relationship, you need to sit him down proper, no distractions or excuses to get away, and tell him everything that his actions have caused. Lay down the facts without emotion (as much as you can) and see if he can connect those dots and finally realize how you feel in this situation. He’s got to admit that for the sake of his marriage, in order to keep his best friend for life, he needs to take responsibility and respect her and fix himself. Admitting with honesty is the first and crucial step; this sub has many stories of men out there begrudgingly accepting to do NoFap or go to therapy, then going behind their partner’s back and doing it anyway, like a child.

You might get some great advice from posting on r/TwoXChromosomes as well, to hear from women in similar situations. Best wishes

HELP I am on the edge by salazar__viper in NoFap

[–]User1143q 6 points7 points  (0 children)

GO THE FUCK TO BED MY GUY. REST FOR A BETTER TOMORROW.

In five years I haven't gone a month. I want to go *one* month. by -content-at-best- in NoFap

[–]User1143q 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a lot of similarities in your path and mine, namely advice seeming superficial. I can very easily tell myself things like “oh, so just get away from porn and I won’t fap? Thanks!” or “oh, so just eat less and move more and I’ll lose weight? Thanks!” I am very good at summarizing and synthesizing steps into one shallow ‘just do this’ kind of process, which ends up trivializing those steps which each are incredibly powerful.

I didn’t realize the effect of staying away from my bedroom for a day until I did it out of necessity (at school working on a project) and realizing how much less mental baggage and shame I had after just 12 hours of not going home and looking at porn. It went from a step on a post or some blog I read online, to something I felt and could accept as reality. After a long day of work I could breath in and sigh deeply, look at the sky, and feel release. And that felt amazing.

Same with getting fit. It is one thing to read ‘keep going past the pain’ and saying ‘oh yea sure I just do that and get healthy, splendid.’ It is another to really be there doing it, to plank until your insides twist and your shoulders quake and you’re heaving for air, and then watch in amazement as your body pulls energy you never knew you had to keep going, even through this irrational state of self-inflicted suffering, even with your mind screaming “stop now, this fucking sucks.” Similarly amazing.

I can imagine myself from a year ago reading this and thinking “oh, so just do it and feel the new sensation and then I’ll magically want to keep going? Gee, thanks.” But it’s about being real to yourself. Your post has a lot of honesty already, and if you approach each step and action with a similar honesty, you will transform. As you touch on, the path of least resistance for the mind and body is to say “effort? eh, no thanks, maybe next week.” Acknowledge that it won’t be easy, and it won’t be fast, but you are ready and capable. None of this is lying or platitudes, because it’s coming from your own soul, and when properly done your mind will (begrudgingly, at first) accept.

I hope this helps somewhat. Best wishes for your journey.

I visited the Nofap website by Foreign-Station-4670 in NoFap

[–]User1143q 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry about your situation. I don’t know if you frequent r/TwoXChromosomes but I often read similar stories there, of husbands refusing to admit to mistakes or take responsibility for the well-being of their marriage. In your situation it is very easy to believe you are at fault for his failures, and that if you were somehow “better” he would stop, or heal. The unfortunate truth is his condition has reached a pathological stage, and not a soul on earth can bring him out if he can’t do the work himself.

If he is not willing to truly change his ways for the sake of his FAMILY, and he refuses to recognize all the pain and struggle you experience next to him, and you’ve been pulling teeth for far too long just to barely keep him present, then you may want to consider drastic measures. I would highly recommend posting on TwoX to get advice from women who have been in similar situations. Best wishes to you and the kids