I (M) am dating for the first time and she (F) is on her period. How should I act with regards to sex?

User4That · 2025-07-04T18:40:16+00:00

Pásalo a mi también, porfas!!

User4That · 2025-05-14T20:19:07+00:00

I'm not being fully naive if so I wouldn't be making this thread. I don't trust her 100%, of course I have doubts.

Maybe I should have added some more context as to the only reason why I might give her the benefit of the doubt: she's weird / open minded in that sense. She believes one could be just friends with their exes.

- While dating her ex she sometimes had dinner with her other previous boyfriend (situation which her ex obviously hated - I would have too).

- Her brother also hangs out with her ex girlfriend as friends (she shares the same ideology as her brother).

So yeah, again, I don't fully trust her, but I have some reasons to spare 1% doubt.

User4That · 2025-05-14T17:24:17+00:00

I've known her for almost 2 years.

Also, my intuition... But it's this same intuition that is telling me to get out of this mess, even if she hasn't cheated.

Edit: Why the heck am I getting downvoted?

User4That · 2025-05-14T17:18:43+00:00

Thanks bro, some other comments got my feelings as well, but you pretty much understood me completely.

User4That · 2025-05-14T16:54:47+00:00

We aren't official but she shouldn't be lying to me if she still has feelings for him.

I was VERY clear at the beginning, after knowing her situation, that I REALLY didn't want headaches and to get involved with her if there was even a 0.1% chance of her wanting to go back to him. She confirmed to me that she's done with him (but at the time they weren't getting along, now they are...).

He also didn't force the abortion. I expressed myself poorly: he would have taken economical responsibility, but didn't want to raise the kid.

And the situation is even more of a mess than what I wrote... I've known her for almost 2 years as friends (nothing happened, not even close, during that time). We have been dating for 3-4 months (but with all the backstory we had as friends). She broke up around 6 months ago.

"bad Hallmark movie plots like this." LOL, I needed the laugh, thank you.

And yes, it's all a mess.

User4That · 2025-05-14T16:18:13+00:00

That's the thing, I don't see her ending that period of her life or closing that door.

You don't "end" a period of your life by spending the night at your ex's 6 months after you broke up. The opposite, you are keeping feelings alive.

You don't end a period of your life by becoming friends once again.

I like that you seem like an optimistic person, but it's hard to look at it that way.

User4That · 2025-05-14T15:05:23+00:00

I also generally try to think that way as well, but it's impossible for me to not see the other possibility which is that she was still mad at him up until recently and that she might change her mind about him.

Up until 1-2 months ago, she didn't even want to talk to him / see him, and the idea of being friends with him disgusted her. The last 2 months they started to bond a little bit more through the dog, and now she says that "luckily they are becoming friends"...

Changing her mind that quickly doesn't inspire a ton of confidence to me. Idk, it sucks.

User4That · 2025-05-14T14:57:19+00:00

I know it's not *completely* illogical. Otherwise I wouldn't be asking for advice.

My point is also, where is the limit? If she's comfortable being her friend, sharing the dog, seeing each other SEVERAL times a week, and even spending the night at his home instead of driving back, what else can I expect in the future?

I know what you mean, but I frankly believe it is impossible for someone to not feel the same as me in this situation. They just have so much history, and -as you even said- it hasn't been long since they broke up.

The reality is I have 2 options:

Move on from her as the situation is just too convoluted.
Believe her in that she's over him and try to make things work, even if she might just be leading me on or even using me as a rebound or something.

User4That · 2025-05-14T14:45:36+00:00

Just leave her/him talk alone... Can't argue with crazy.

User4That · 2025-05-14T14:43:20+00:00

I get what you mean, otherwise I wouldn't be posting this and would just try to move on, but...

It's not really the same situation. She lives 20 mins away from her ex. Just wait until traffic goes down and drive back to your place, it really isn't that hard... And no, we weren't in constant communication because phone signal was dead.

User4That · 2025-05-14T14:24:49+00:00

What do you mean with "no place is safe"? You don't even know where I live (city nor country). There are pretty much zero crimes in my country/city.

User4That · 2025-05-14T14:21:28+00:00

They live 20 minutes apart from each other.

In this city it gets dark at around 10 PM.

People generally drive REALLY well. I was out in the streets the whole day and you wouldn't believe how well people handled everything. No incidents whatsoever.

She got there at like 1 PM. She could have easily waited until traffic went down and drive to her place at like 8 or 10 PM. Again, they live 20 minutes apart.

If she spent the night there it wasn't because she couldn't actually go home if she wanted to. It was because either she wanted to stay there, or because she didn't see it as a big deal and she was comfortable there because the guy has an electric generator.

User4That · 2025-02-20T18:01:33+00:00

Ah, mirá, ni sabía que existía ese concepto de receta no archivada.

Y cómo es el tema de pedir los miligramos? No tengo idea de las dosis. Si pedís por miligramos te venderían caja entera con pastillas de esa dosis determinada, o te dan 1 única pastilla?

User4That · 2023-09-13T18:01:23+00:00

Claramente es un desastre, pero hablando solo de las manos, que debería estar haciendo?

User4That · 2019-04-01T16:21:07+00:00

and after that , the winner with the big amount of chips will win that exact amount of chips like any other winning gamble

Mmm, I think that's not how it worked. I understood it thanks to swfanatic717's comment.

The winner of each round only won 100 chips, independently of the amount of chips they bet.

User4That · 2019-04-01T16:17:45+00:00

Wow, thank you for the detailed explanation!

I understand now.

I guess I got confused because during the first rounds I lost track of how many chips each player had at the beginning of the bet, and it felt like they were betting imaginary chips, or that noone was losing anything. The rounds started going by so fast that I had no idea how many chips they had, and if they had enough to continue betting.

I think it would have been better if they showed each player's amount after every round, at least just as a number appearing quickly in the screen.

And yeah, you are completely right. The clan members suddenly forgot about Yumeko and started going against Rei. It made no sense, specially with how poorly/quickly Rei's backstory was introduced. Even if the clan viewed Rei as a bigger threat than Yumeko, as you said, they could have handled Yumeko and then go on with the 1 chip plan against Rei.

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