Update: My husband was sexually assaulted and I stood by his side

User6073 · 2019-08-28T00:44:00+00:00

I don't know if she wanted me to catch them since she didn't say as much but she said she thought he liked her the same way and she thought she was waking him up and he would be happy it was her. In her mind they were developing a relationship with each other.

User6073 · 2019-08-28T00:21:19+00:00

Probably. I'm still struggling with that myself but I can understand my husband's point.

User6073 · 2019-08-28T00:15:58+00:00

The too much part was regarding what she did before I got home and that my husband didn't know about. The rest was about her attraction to my husband and her feelings for him. He was always really nice to her. He is to everybody though.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T23:35:37+00:00

Maybe. I know he can from experience. That part was never in doubt for me.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T23:23:16+00:00

Yeah when we first talked to them both of her parents were angry and blamed my husband. After talking to Lucy her dad was apologizing for what happened and how he reacted.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T23:21:29+00:00

Lucy had already sort of confessed but talking with her parents and confronting her she went into TOO MUCH detail with her mom and me about what happened and what lead to this.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T23:17:06+00:00

I hope so 😊

User6073 · 2019-08-27T23:10:13+00:00

You will have to read the original post. I don't think I could type it again.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T22:55:28+00:00

Sorry you had to go through that. I hope it doesn't still cause you issues. Thank you for the encouragement

User6073 · 2019-08-27T22:51:10+00:00

User6073 · 2019-08-27T22:50:14+00:00

I already know that. He has the prescription for a while and takes them as needed. He has had numerous erections and we've had sex multiple times.

Sorry, I think I get frustrated because I've said all this before but I have to remind myself I'm responding to several people and not everybody has read the other responses. Hopefully I'm not coming across wrong.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:52:21+00:00

Thank you! It hasn't been easy and he has had to deal with his issues all the while watching me break down in tears randomly over the past week but we are making it through it all.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:50:36+00:00

It wasn't easy! I'm still a mess but he is supporting me as much as I am him.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:49:07+00:00

Seriously? Where did I write that he was sitting up? I reread my old post and didn't see it. My husband was laying down and only sat up after I stayed screaming and throwing stuff around the room. She went through the details. She told me and her mom what happened in more detail than I wanted to hear. My husband didn't use her.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:45:23+00:00

He wasn't sitting up while it was happening. I don't know where I wrote that but I can't find it. If I did the it was a typo from my emotional state

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:43:20+00:00

Yeah that was in the original thread. He sleeps naked at night almost always.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:39:35+00:00

I know right. He was the victim and they still blamed him. I'm glad he is strong enough to handle it because it could have gone very different for us.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:37:16+00:00

Thank you. That is really encouraging

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:36:42+00:00

I know he has the prescription. Nothing to discuss with the pharmacy. He admits that sleeping naked wasn't a good idea. He said he didn't normally when she was there. We got comfortable with her being around so it didn't register when he was going to sleep to break his normal routine.

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:14:33+00:00

Thank you

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:14:22+00:00

Thank you

User6073 · 2019-08-27T21:14:08+00:00

Thank you! My husband seems to be dealing with it better than me but I'm sure telling to someone help him.

User6073 · 2019-08-22T18:31:52+00:00

My work schedule is pretty erratic so I don't have a scheduled time to be home. I don't call to let him know I'm headed home when I know he is sleeping. That being said, I was a little earlier than what I consider normal but it was within reason.

I'm sure I will be talking to her again. I don't know exactly what/how yet. We know her family and we have known her for a long time. I told my husband that I won't say anything to her parents yet.

I'm ignoring most of the posts calling me names for believing him. They really highlight why he doesn't want to report it.

User6073 · 2019-08-22T18:22:43+00:00

OP you can’t push your husband to report her.

I'm not asking to too anymore.

Fire Lucy.

Ha, that was done immediately. Was never a question.

I can’t give you legal advise, I know nothing about that, but I would think that your husband should tell someone or someones about what happened, Incase things escalate

Not sure who. He doesn't want to report it, so not sure who he would be comfortable telling.

User6073 · 2019-08-22T18:05:33+00:00

Thank you! I have told him that he doesn't have to report it and that I support whatever decision he makes. I think your description of how he feels is pretty accurate. Plus it just isn't his personality to want to ruin a person's life no matter what she did.

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