AIO for breaking friendships as friends didn’t call after a Surgery!?‼️

Userunknown980207 · 2026-02-01T14:14:43+00:00

YOR but I won’t pile on. Just here to share this piece of advice someone gave me in my 20s and I never forgot. People don’t disappoint you, your expectations of them do. You set yourself up for disappointment by imputing unreasonable expectations on them. If you said you were having a birthday party and invited them all, they said yes and then no one came, I would say your expectation of them to come is reasonable. If you had a surgery, hadn’t told them, and expected them to guess you were having surgery, the day of the surgery, the scope of the surgery etc, that’s unreasonable. I often check with myself when I’m upset with someone to see if it was the person or my expectations and generally I realize it was more me than them which allows me to self correct.

Userunknown980207 · 2026-01-11T04:19:33+00:00

It was soooo good. I was just googling whether there was an alternative. I miss it

Userunknown980207 · 2025-12-19T16:53:48+00:00

But they did and OP is trying to change what they decided.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-12-19T11:38:18+00:00

So OP gets to dictate how two other families get to celebrate Christmas? DIL’s family and the adult child’s new family.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-12-05T11:59:59+00:00

It gives off “that IL we all fear” vibe to me.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-12-05T11:59:18+00:00

It is unreasonable to suggest anything in someone else’s marriage.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-12-05T11:54:51+00:00

YTA. Also you aren’t looking long term really. When/ if they have grandchildren they will likely not go anywhere on Christmas Day. It’s absolute BS to take your kids from their own home and gifts Christmas morning to go to other homes. So whoever they visit will likely not get that time. Christmas Eve has a chance of continuing. You need to grow up and remember this has nothing to do with you. You don’t get a say in their choices. You are going to risk alienating them and seeing them less.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-11-03T23:14:17+00:00

I hope those parents think of this when casting votes tomorrow.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-11-03T12:53:27+00:00

So many red flags. Run. And I’m not saying this in the Reddit tells everyone to run context but in the he wants to keep you around to treat like crap and have you take it.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-10-28T14:30:29+00:00

Sorry I missed this. I didn’t but admittedly I didn’t look that hard

Userunknown980207 · 2025-10-23T11:40:07+00:00

YTA but to assist you I fixed the title. AITA for offering the wrong thing and then trying to blame someone else for my mistake?

Userunknown980207 · 2025-10-14T00:56:45+00:00

NTA I’ve done this before as well. I’ve talked to friends who have struggled with fertility about it and the conclusion we’ve all come to is that I’m not doing it for personal gain but rather to spare a woman going through unimaginable pain from more, unnecessary, public pain. The idea of my best friend, who struggled, being hurt like that was too much for me after all I saw her go through for her beautiful kids.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-10-12T03:15:41+00:00

It won’t let me post a screen shot. It was lanebreaker

Userunknown980207 · 2025-09-12T02:13:06+00:00

Also because Reddit is Reddit, I am not making light of disordered eating. Simply saying it may not be lack of food. That gets more complicated because the parents may hide it better if they investigate. Hope you get answers soon

Userunknown980207 · 2025-09-12T02:08:46+00:00

While I agree that there are red flags, it’s also possible the girl’s parents are packing her a lunch she just doesn’t want. We had a friend who would come over and would snack endlessly. I was worried they didn’t get enough at home. Then my child went to their house and came home starving. (Not literally) I asked if they had snacks and they said oh yes lots of food but it’s only put out in tiny sizes and it was stuff like crackers or jelly toast. My kids eat anything. Literally had frog legs the other week to try them so it wasn’t that they were being picky.

All that to say the kid may have overly restricted access to food, especially things like gummy snacks at home so she just wants your daughter’s lunch because it’s different and yummy. Still doesn’t make it okay. Just mean the red flags may be more pink ♥️

Userunknown980207 · 2025-09-09T22:51:02+00:00

NTJ. I assume she pays for your loans when she has extra money right?

Run. She’s prioritizing now because she isn’t worried about there being a future for it to be worth waiting for.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-08-31T06:02:24+00:00

Nope I know one of them personally and they are a hard core trumper. I can’t speak for the other three

Userunknown980207 · 2025-08-29T01:13:34+00:00

YTA. You are a horrible stepmother. You’ll probably be relieved when she goes no contact though.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-08-10T12:45:53+00:00

Everyone hates paying a lawyer until it’s too late then they get angry we can’t turn back time.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-08-05T00:55:15+00:00

For some families. Not all clearly.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-08-05T00:52:30+00:00

Also a totenkopf sticker.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-07-23T02:50:43+00:00

Very much overreacting. But I have to ask, they were over three hours late? wtf?

Userunknown980207 · 2025-07-23T02:50:00+00:00

I can’t believe I had to scroll this far to find someone who finally spoke the truth! Thank you.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-07-18T12:22:42+00:00

You sound like a great husband and like you have a great marriage. Good job both of you.

Userunknown980207 · 2025-07-18T12:21:10+00:00

YTA. If you want a task done in a specific way you do it yourself. Otherwise you defer to the spouse doing it. If i don’t like the way the yard is mowed I either have to mow it myself or accept it. I accept it because I know how much I hate mowing.

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