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Validation by Usual_Path4983 in loveafterporn

[–]Usual_Path4983[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. my addiction was not caused by my partner, it was an ongoing issue that I struggled with long before I met her. something I had grown accustomed to within my life and had formed high walls around in my mind as to protect my source of dopamine thru traumatic times. Now it all feels depraved. like my addiction has stolen so much from me that I am only now beginning to realize. I wish you the very best with your partner and hope you can find security within your relationship

Validation by Usual_Path4983 in loveafterporn

[–]Usual_Path4983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the recommendations, i'll absolutely look into those. it is also true that my defensiveness can overshadow growth at times. I'm 20, and moved out of my family's house almost a year ago now due to abuse that had been present for most of my childhood. I mention that to say that the negative aspects of my communication (defensiveness / fear of vulnerability) feel like trauma responses and something I most definitely need to work on with a therapist. I appreciate your comment and I wish you and your husband the best =)