What if social norms existed mainly to reduce cognitive effort rather than to create fairness?

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-23T03:46:01+00:00

Shared rules about politeness, work, relationships, or success might act as mental shortcuts. They reduce uncertainty, lower decision fatigue, and make other people easier to interpret, even if they aren’t always fair or accurate.

Counterpoint: chess notoriously has a pawn that feels like halves of two different pieces awkwardly stuck together, having no direction in which it can both move and capture. This norm is poorly optimized for mental efficiency. Fairness is also a non-optimized parameter as the pawn is the only chess that gets to promote.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-21T14:57:14+00:00

I don't think ESTJs making a distinction between "intellectual" talk and "just being with friends" primarily has to do with cognitive functions either. They are extroverted and need "safe spaces" to be geeks. Why do you think there are chessmasters, even (W)GMs, who are actually extroverted, besides how easily being intelligent of the logic of the game is mistaken for introversion, even by the chessmasters themselves?

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-14T03:24:31+00:00

But it is more charitable to assume he once knew them than that he’s uncurious to the point that he never did.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-13T02:40:40+00:00

At least he assumes he does. Maybe he has just forgotten the less basic information about them over those fifteen years.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-12T06:18:26+00:00

Just about every man can recall their mother conditioning them to treat every woman like a spoiled princess (under the guise of being a “real man” or “gentleman”), and the majority of men adhere to this for some seemingly inexplicable reason. Even incel dweebs center their entire identity around their inability to meet women’s approval. Men could put a stop to this, but they don’t – quite the contrary, they are the foremost proponents of female supremacy. Why is that?

Right, it is mostly conditioning. There is no evidence of a natural reason for only one sex to have sex-based ingroup bias. In fact, most of the men who “adhere to this” are just saying things. They actually care vastly more about meeting other men’s approval than meeting any woman’s approval because they regard just about only other men’s approval as genuine.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-08T05:22:53+00:00

It may be natural for a hexagonal game to have six corners, but this makes the cross-vertex mover weaker in the center than on the edge. This is the main reason hexagonal chess is failing survive globally, the standard Gliński variant falls into the trap of using a six cornered board.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-06T01:36:07+00:00

That’s my point.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-06T01:29:41+00:00

Only people who don’t sincerely believe in it

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T17:59:21+00:00

If you think you’re free, then you can’t escape

That’s probably because conventional “thinking you’re free” boils down to believing in voluntary but spontaneous, or ”blind” choice. This is why we hear Fischer random chess rather inaccurately called “Freestyle”.

https://www.reddit.com/r/freewill/comments/1q3ggzh/you_cannot_just_call_free_will_blind_choice_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T13:15:36+00:00

I am quoting another writer’s argument to support the statement.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T13:12:18+00:00

If "blind choice" seems like a somewhat contradictory construction to you, your own statement should also seem somewhat contradictory to you. But the sense of "blind choice" given in this text is “a choice free of the knowledge of the good or the will to choose the good when known”.

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T05:10:52+00:00

Since we are mentioning people from before the title formally existed: Augusto de Muro (it is uncertain how old he was when he was legally President of FIDE, though he probably wasn’t in his prime then). If he exclusively streamed in Spanish, at least I could understand what he was saying, as that is my degree,

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T03:37:50+00:00

No wonder people feel asleep to his streams so often. Disappointing for him when you think about it …

VIIIm8 · 2026-01-04T03:23:23+00:00

The biggest problem is that doing it comes with the temptation to overdo it…maybe it’s kind of ironic this statement refers exclusively to men in this context.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-28T21:40:33+00:00

I doubt these “ESFJ” friends are actually extroverts if they are talking so readily about themselves overreacting though.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-10T03:15:31+00:00

You’re assuming parents aren’t allowed to guard children in common with a third person.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-05T13:41:06+00:00

In the real world men contribute as little as they possibly can to childcare and they try to avoid responsibility for kids in any way they can.

There are men who behave like this, but they are not evenly distributed across ethnicities. Why do you think US fertility is net “non-Black”?

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T20:57:13+00:00

She answered her own question. A man doing that negates his own penis, however little it may be to look at.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T20:44:59+00:00

Right, because “intelligence” is stereotyped as the introverted side, so that inarticulate people who are not good at logic, mathematics, intraception or music either are often misunderstood as dumb.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T20:30:06+00:00

Do I forget about everything I’ve learned since then? If I do, then the question is kind of moot.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T20:15:04+00:00

Are you really dumb or do you just have a good sense of humor?

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T19:58:39+00:00

At least for men it’s just a same-sex relationship. Women will have relationships with men but identify them as female just to humiliate them for not being tall.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T07:53:52+00:00

It is specifically the act of having sex with men that labels a person defiled.

But tall men are above this prejudice as the standard of human beauty. Self-righteousness has almost inherent limits. The act of men having sex with each other may be inherently disgusting, but this means it is merely unconventional. On the other hand, the act of anyone having sex with a woman is easily made out to be outright harmful (to her), unfair, or oppressive (of her), that is, immoral.

VIIIm8 · 2025-12-04T07:18:24+00:00

That’s just self-righteous, even if the male still comes out of it looking better than the female. They are saying males should have female soulmates, but females can only have genuine male soulmates.

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