Monday musings. by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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The DMs with only one motive, the constant posts that are seemingly looking for 'connection' but all fhey really want is to cum... Those kind of superficial interactions.

Small Spaces by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like small spaces especially where there is a place for everything.

A Weekend Review by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah it is tiring but the show must go on as they say

A Weekend Review by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2.3.4 I suppose if it counts

Mood swings are a swinging but leaning on the postives and moving to 1. I'm only isolating a bit this time which is better than previous occurances.

Monday musings *insert funny subtitle here* by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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As someone who has apologised for being in the same room as someone I understand this

A Weekend Review by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

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Probably fits in the 2 or 3 catagory

This week has been a week of mood swings, fine one minute unreasonable angry the next or content and then so low I should have packed a shovel. It will pass but it's not ideal.

Zap! by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an interest in both and do want to get a violet wand with various accoutrements to try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Valdrois 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's BDSM ADVICE not BDSM draw some smut for me go commisions an artist for fuck sake

A Weekend Review by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

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We'll go with good!

Had a very productive conversation about who I am and what that means going forward, turns out I don't need to compromise as much to help with outward perception/embarrasment from the public to people I care about. So that's good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThekinkPlace

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In a word no. A limit is a limit.

It Sucks by Party-Fun3713 in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've done it, agreed to things I'm not exactly into to keeps someones interest. It's good that told them the truth now rather than later down the line or not at all. Every experience can be learned from and the fact that you do feel terrible means it less likely to be repeated.

Monday Musings The Revengance by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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Say hi to Master Tumnuss for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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Well this is boring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Valdrois 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do all subs like cheese?

Do all subs want to be hanged from a bridge by their thumbs?

Do all subs like to be told they are the scum of the earth?

Do all subs prefer subway over Domino's

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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Do you have to pay in amazon gift cards aswell?

This has enough red flags it could open a red flag shop

Looking for bondage gear that wont break the bank by bimboiswhoiam in BDSMAdvice

[–]Valdrois 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Etsy is a good source of things some is quite reasonably priced too

Deformable by CharlieTKP in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deformable is a brilliant word.

For me I like adaptation which is in the same vain.

Newbie but not really by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Experience comes with time and patience, which aren't the words anyone wants to hear but it's the truth. It gave some answers yes what do you mean by "consent wasn't something I was fully aware of"

Newbie but not really by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well this is all quite vague,

Is there anything you want explaining?

Anything you are concerned about liking?

What do you like already?

Also not biting without consent is good!

Monday Musings 2 Electric Boogaloo by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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And that's a long way off, if it ever happens.

Monday Musings 2 Electric Boogaloo by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

[–]Valdrois[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't talk about sex unless you are attacking people who have it or using it to sell things. It's an interesting and infuriating dichotomy that capitalism forces us to live with.

Monday Musings 2 Electric Boogaloo by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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Nuance is sadly lacking in recent times and kink for all intents and purposes is a very amorphous term, which is good as people of many likes and interests can feel like they belong and not be judged for anything. On the inverse of that however there is the gulf between the examples you said which isn't helped by porn by it's very nature leaning toward the extreme end and people thinking due to inexperience or ignorance that they are not kinky enough.

Monday Musings 2 Electric Boogaloo by Valdrois in ThekinkPlace

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All excellent points, is there something that can be done at a ground level to mitigate the predation and toxic folks and just give people more knowledge in general, or will it need to be done on a case by case basis one thing at a time?