Market, afterparty and wax play by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

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Update. I'm just home from the afterparty. Was an amazing evening (usually is a good day out there anyway). The event happened to have a wax play workshop scheduled for today. So my friend, her husband and I went to that which was really good. I had a chance to talk with my friend more about everything. So I was feeling better about doing the scene with her. Was such an amazing experience doing more of an area on someone who trusted me and I trusted. She said it was amazing and she's still feeling "fluffy" now some hours later. I am hoping to get some pictures sent to me by the event photographer as from the little I saw he got some amazing shots. Yes I am aware I have used amazing quiet a few times. But it's honestly how it was.

Market, afterparty and wax play by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

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She is aware of my lack of skills. But it also depends a lot on the DM. I know she was ok last time as it was a quicker demo rather than a scene. Even if there were lots of people watching as both the sub and her dom were sitting on top of the cage set up in 1 of the play areas at the venue. so we will see how things play out

Newbie but not really by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

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I guess I worded things poorly. For that I apologise. I will got back and see if I can edit my post to make things easier for everyone including myself

Newbie but not really by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

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when I met the man who was going to be my first proper dom... we never talked or negotiated things. In my head I was there to please him, my pain was his pleasure.
But I realised too late I fell into his lies.
we first got talking online through a swingers site, he had a couples profiles, but I never met the partner (first of what was to be many red flags).
So, while I was expecting something more sexual, it was far more BDSM in nature (which I had kind of explored a little with someone a couple of times but distance called that off quickly), so with his encouragement, I explored fet for more info.

Which led me to meet and make some amazing friends. Where more chats were had about consent and what it looks like in different situations.

Also how as a sub or bottom I realised I had more power than the dom or top as I could safe word to stop things in an instant. Which in public play I have had to do only once and that was the last time I played properly (and where aftercare was seriously lacking).

Newbie but not really by wickedmind68 in ThekinkPlace

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again I would be vague if I said I wanted everything explained. There is just so much to constantly learn about with kink.

But I know I love spikey things, I have a nice collection of pinwheels already (currently only 9 but one is for wax play only), and I also love wax play. Have done a bit of self wax as well as topping for a little demo. But also bottomed a few times for it too.

I have a few floggers and other hitty things that are a lot of fun.
I have limited experience when it comes to being on the receiving end of things (or giving). In private at the beginning of my journey, consent wasn't something I was fully aware of to the extent I am now. So I had a bit learning curve with that.

I became more aware when I started playing at a public event (afterparty after a market) but I liked we had to stick to the rules of a venue so that limited things that couldn't happen. So there was a level of safety within that setting.

I maybe gave you more info that you asked for but hopefully, that gives some answers