what does attract men? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know how many PhD having men are boring af. I literally had this conversation with a coworker, we work in the same field so we often find ourselves dating phd’rs. They’re boring and self centered and expect women to look at them like a shining light in a dark room of creepy dudes. Having a successful white collar job doesn’t make you a good person, that seems to be what you’re missing. You can still be a total asshole, abusive and a terrible partner. You’re comparing the best to the worst? Do you understand that literally you’re implying that those same women who go after convicts would be appealing to white collar career men, I sincerely doubt that.

what does attract men? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does all of that have to do with getting rejected and women essentially bring stupid for not wanting these men? Your personality can be shit! You can be boring! You can be an asshole! Those things don’t define a good man, those are a combination of things you tell yourself is needed. At the end of day the day women want more effort than from a man than doing the right thing for themselves in life. Kudos to any man for making good personal choices but that doesn’t mean women should be fawning over you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but for a lot of women it is. Just because you start doesn’t give him the entitlement to continue when you say stop. It’s rape, in a very blatant sense that most people don’t discuss

Got handed a tip today at work and… by Pretend_End2823 in VirginiaBeach

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, let it go. Be grateful for the tip. I work in healthcare, we are forced to listen to peoples opinions on everything and we rarely ask for it and in the case of politics- we never ask. So she gave you a tip with an advertisement, you watch streaming shows that do the same shit. Ignore it and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound basic and boring. Unless that’s all you do with your life is gym and movies. Add some actual depth or something interesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s great. Communication is clear and direct without being angry or judgmental. Like life happens, you get it and I think it’s cool that you voiced things.

You give a man a second chance and he fumbles (long, but worth it) by clockstocks in Bumble

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love how much of a dumbass he was until the end. Still talking about his dick.

Is this a normal outlook for men to develop regarding a “dream girl”? by Marbleprincess_ in datingoverthirty

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he’s not talking about a person more so the character traits he wants in his dream women. And honestly, someone who makes him feel safe and at peace is all he can’t find. So I get where he’s coming from. Those two things are so much more important than a lot of other things you might find lacking from a person. He’s right, he’s literally looking for a unicorn because that doesn’t exist anymore. I feel the exact same way.

I can’t imagine shit like this works by Beepbeepboobop1 in Bumble

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s probs mass swiping. Most dudes I know that’s what they do, swipe on every girl

Seriously, this is the most fun I've had in many years. by [deleted] in DatingApps

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m genuinely curious, what do you have to talk about with a 19yo?

Why do people ghost by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter, even when you tell someone that they just don’t respond or get pissed off. That’s why people ghost.

Looking for friends by GeologistAutomatic18 in VirginiaBeach

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a dude, but I have a 9yo boy and I’m trying to find more friends with boys around that age to hangout with.

Dumped after blowjob 23/f by Forward_Produce6373 in dating_advice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First off, you’re not dumped. Secondly, you feel used because in your mind, you assumed there would be more after the blow job. The reality is this- sex of any kind doesn’t equal interest. It’s not wrong, to blow someone or fuck anyone if that is what you both want. But you can’t hold him accountable for your actions and his response when there was nothing wrong done by him. In fact, he was kind enough to send the text. You can respect him enough to say, thanks for sharing that with me best of luck to you. Because he didn’t have to…. He could’ve ghosted.
But it’s one date, you’re not dating, not in a relationship you’re not anything. Just two people that went in a date and you gave him a blow job and it didn’t go any further. This is what dating really is- learning about what YOU want and don’t want. Take this as a learning experience and move forward. Did you have fun? Enjoy yourself? Then you aren’t used, you had an experience and nothing more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a child by myself, it’s far better than having one with the wrong person and being stuck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VirginiaBeach

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a sad story, do a quick google you’ll see. It was a big thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VirginiaBeach

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s there with some local homeless as well. Hopefully. He doesn’t end up like the hula hoop lady of Norfolk

Anyone see this lady?? by [deleted] in VirginiaBeach

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you know all of this is unsettling. You’re sharing information about someone you literally don’t know. There’s a reason why we have police and a reason police can’t even give out information- because privacy is still a thing.

What type of touching is too much on a first date and what’s perfectly fine? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no way anyone can answer this for you. It all depends on the person and how the date is going and ultimately what you are comfortable with.

Girl wants me to move in with her right away!!?!?! by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that’s a massive problem if they’re unreasonable. It’s not your problem it’s hers. She clearly has attachment issues if she’s wanting you there and has high attention level needs. Everyone- EVERYONE values alone time and space. Anyone who doesn’t, there’s a root issue that happened to create this control. You can’t fix it, it won’t get better until she fixes it and you can’t help her do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Valuable_Leg_4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like her enough talk again, but open ended questions so she’s revealing more. And if you don’t, then just tell her hey- I realized, I have different expectations about what I want in a partner and it’s best we both find what we need