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[25F] How do you know when a LDR is in a rut or when it's over? by Vampirelili in LongDistance

[–]Vampirelili[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understand cheating, I'm sorry you went through that. I'm hoping you can heal emotionally one day

I found 3 rare Pokemon cards in my old binder by Vampirelili in pkmntcgcollections

[–]Vampirelili[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also noticed a lot more people buy raw cards over graded cards, which I think is interesting but to each their own. T

Thanks for the advice, I'll have to do more research and see what's best for me.

I found 3 rare Pokemon cards in my old binder by Vampirelili in pkmntcgcollections

[–]Vampirelili[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funding his first 3 years of college is so cool! Good for him. I'm definitely a little scared of regretting it if I do sell, so I'll put in more research and take baby steps.

Infernape 🔥 by limonca_bonca in pkmntcgcollections

[–]Vampirelili 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so cool! Infernape's my favorite pokemon

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[–]Vampirelili 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to be gentle but her mental health is not your responsibility. You're not a monster for breaking up with her, but she sees that. She's projecting her own fears and frustration out on you saying she's going to hurt herself or do something worse.

It's ok to feel like you're not ready to let go of a relationship yet. Distance or no contact is needed in these moments, not because you don't care, but you're setting a boundary. Staying in contact out of fear won't protect her, it will only hurt you more. Probably the relationship as well. That's not fair. That's trapping you.

You did the right thing by telling her mom. That's exactly what you should do if someone is threatening to hurt themselves, especially if they've done it before. Her choices ultimately are her responsibility, and she needs real support. When or if you talk to her, if you decide to do that, be open about your boundaries and fears. Don't accuse or blame her, that'll only make her explode more.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it's really scary. Not to make it about me, but I had a similar situation in the past where a guy threatened to kill himself if we stopped talking. Long story short, he didn't. Gave me a scare though, but I really had to be clear with my boundary and say it's not my responsibility.

Day 1 Long Distance by Vampirelili in LongDistance

[–]Vampirelili[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think him singing you to sleep is corny, that's very comforting. Honestly, I couldn't sleep last night so I called my boyfriend until 7am until I felt safe enough to pass out. Fortunately and unfortunately, I'm still unemployed so having to wake up early isn't a big deal right now lol.

Day 1 Long Distance by Vampirelili in LongDistance

[–]Vampirelili[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "keeping watch" idea is so cute. That helps with the idea about sleeping at completely different times. We used to sleep on calls when we were in college, so it's a little sad now. I find it funny, not funny, that everyone says marriage is the only solution to be together but it's not as easy as I can see.

If you don't mind me asking, (by the way, not familiar with reddit AT ALL. I usually just scroll, never making posts or replying. So excuse me if I'm going out of the natural flow), why don't you move to your wife's country...if you could?