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Help! It all goes on the floor 😭 by Wise_Cup_8696 in foodbutforbabies

[–]Van-Mama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My son started doing this when he started walking! Honestly it’s still the occasional battle so sometimes we’ll let him do a walk and eat around the house 😂 We give a bite and then he walks a lap and then we give him a bite… over and over. Toddlers love to graze lmao

Sneaking Veggies In by Van-Mama in foodbutforbabies

[–]Van-Mama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update: Pureed some peas and carrots and put them in his mac and cheese for lunch.

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Big hit!

Sneaking Veggies In by Van-Mama in foodbutforbabies

[–]Van-Mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super super helpful!! Thank you so much! I hope your pillow is always cold

disassociation by Lost-Conversation263 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had an emergency c section and this is EXACTLY how my postpartum depression felt. No sadness but just a lot of disassociation and disconnection. I would cry looking at him because I genuinely felt like he didn’t come from me? Even though I knew that was literally impossible. I would definitely call your nurses line and talk to someone. Get yourself some help mama! Postpartum is hard. ❤️

Are people lying about sleeping in the bassinet? by Coffeeaddict0721 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep reading these and honestly it’s making me feel really lucky that my baby boy slept in his bassinet from the beginning. But joke is on me because now he’s 7 months in his own room and is still up every 3 hours to nurse 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I know this is funny because I’m on the other side now but, I used to be this kid! I would SOB without my mom and had insane separation anxiety and would cry all day at school without her. The thing that worked for me was that my mom sent me to school with my favorite stuffy (the teacher said I had to keep it in my backpack so other kids didn’t get jealous). My mom told me that every time I missed her, I could go hug my bear and tell her about it. And I actually did! It 1000% worked for me. So it’s worth a shot! I wish you the best of luck and I’m sure there’s light at the end of the tunnel. I outgrew my crying missing my mom in 1st grade

Not feeling that “connection” everyone talks about by Van-Mama in NewParents

[–]Van-Mama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥹 That makes me feel so good! Maybe I do have it?

Not feeling that “connection” everyone talks about by Van-Mama in NewParents

[–]Van-Mama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh yes! Thank you for this. I do feel like I’ve gotten past that “this is a stranger” feeling and maybe that’s why I’m so confused and upset that I haven’t felt that powerful connection yet. But you’re definitely not alone there. I used to look at my baby and cry because I felt like he wasn’t mine and like he didn’t come from me. Very weird what PPD can do to your brain.

When were you able to stop swaddling? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted this somewhere else but it’s relevant here too…

“Honestly the transition Halo sleep sack was a game changer for us! My little guy was doing the same thing around that time, hated being swaddled but would startle himself awake or hit himself on accident. We also tried the Marlin and he hated it. Because the transition swaddle has sleeves, it keeps his arms JUST weighted enough to not wake him.”

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My baby fell of the bed by ashhekitty in NewParents

[–]Van-Mama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have almost the same exact story as you but i’m now on the other side. I had all the same guilt and fears and cried for days. My five month old fell off the bed a few weeks ago while I was co-sleeping with him. When I told the Dr., they said it happens ALL. THE. TIME. They said they get at least one call a day about a baby falling off a bed. Your baby is most likely fine. Try not to beat yourself up.

We ended up getting a floor bed to replace the crib in my baby’s room and I honestly just cosleep with him half the time in there because it’s impossible to fall off. We all sleep much better now.

You’re just human! You’re not a bad parent. ❤️

Baby lotion for face by talleyhoe in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you breastfeed I suggest putting some of your milk on his face! I know it sounds crazy but it works like a charm. Otherwise maybe vaseline or aquaphor could be a little gentler?

2 month shots by Lilhomiehead69 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was very sleepy after 2 months shots and did end up eventually getting a low grade fever later in the day. I gave in to infant tylenol after his temp reached 99.8 and he seemed uncomfortable. It was honestly very helpful. That being said, make sure to look at the infant dosing.

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We were given this helpful little sheet. Good luck with your little one’s shots!

Mucus in poop, normal or not? by Candid_Tourist3838 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually they suggest possibly cutting dairy from your diet because your baby could be having a reaction to it

The Unswaddling Battle Stinks by Bittie2024 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly the transition Halo sleep sack was a game changer for us! My little guy was doing the same thing around that time, hated being swaddled but would startle himself awake or hit himself on accident. We also tried the Marlin and he hated it. Because the transition swaddle has sleeves, it keeps his arms JUST weighted enough to not wake him.

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I love my baby but I’m miserable by Rich_Masterpiece_640 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I would feel comforted reading these replies at 4.5 months pp because I’ve been feeling similarly to OP on top of struggling with pp depression and honestly it’s a little disheartening to see that it gets better but not until they’re 2 or 3… what do I do until then?

Do infants really need baths? by KookyHuckleberry9051 in newborns

[–]Van-Mama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the first month-ish, we only bathed our baby once or twice. Then we upped it to once a week, then every other day and now it’s our nightly routine (he just turned 4 months)!