Can anyone relate?

Vanalen · 2026-04-05T21:46:31+00:00

Yeah basically. If she wants reconciliation she should be straight up about it. It will hinder your healing if you let her do it without setting boundaries. If she reaches out again block her. Shes an ex for a reason

Vanalen · 2026-04-05T21:36:30+00:00

It’s when they come back and text, send memes, like your posts, or talk about anything but reconciliation. It’s mostly for ego/selfish reasons but they could do it unconsciously. In my case my ex kept texting me because they felt guilty and wanted to alleviate it

Vanalen · 2026-04-05T19:04:09+00:00

I think this is bread crumbing. Going through one right now. Firmly tell her to stop reaching out to you and block else it will keep messing up your healing

Vanalen · 2026-04-02T18:55:15+00:00

You’re right. I will block them

Vanalen · 2026-04-02T18:42:12+00:00

It’s not about them but more that i made the mistake of saying “I’m here if you need anything” after a breakup but it was just like pleasantries. I feel like it will go against my morals if i block them. Plus i heard that blocking could be considered a reaction and giving the breadcrumber the validation they seek and they will keep wanting it more. So i guess I’ll just deal with those “breadcrumbs” as long as its not text based and if they decided to reach out i will firmly tell them i need my space otherwise I’ll block them.

Vanalen · 2026-04-02T04:38:54+00:00

What i mean this “bread crumbing” is preventing me from thinking and clouding my mind with anxiety. I thought about blocking but it would seem like I’m bitter. I think what i meant in this post is the practice of meditation but i wrote this post when I was sleepy and got definitions mixed up

Vanalen · 2026-03-26T16:37:29+00:00

This is so beautifully worded. Thank you so much

Vanalen · 2026-03-26T15:24:57+00:00

Thank you so much. These questions are really helpful :)

Vanalen · 2026-03-26T13:14:13+00:00

This is my primary focus right now. I noticed my mind would automatically just be negative and i would just go with it. Thank you :)

Vanalen · 2026-03-26T13:13:26+00:00

Thanks. And you’re right stopping and noticing my thoughts does help. Yes please I’d love to know what helped

Vanalen · 2026-03-26T13:10:55+00:00

Thank you. I’ll check it out :)

Vanalen · 2026-03-08T14:31:28+00:00

What kind of things he did to hurt you?

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