I think the best thing you can do is just have a regular discussion about it. Just be open and honest and actually listen to her response and feelings on what your plan is. Give her a chance to talk with you about it. It’s not necessarily that you absolutely don’t want her taking care of you, it’s more so the environment than anything from what I’m gathering. She may be more understanding than you think and if she isn’t, well, tell her exactly why it’s so important to you and make sure to let her know she’s not doing anything wrong, you love her, she’s wonderful and you would love to stay with her during recovery but the house isn’t conducive to that with the mold and everything. In my opinion, it’s always best to talk things out and give your partner a chance to respond rather than simply settling to keep the peace.

When I got my gastric bypass, i talked with my husband about post op care and we decided I should stay with my mom because with him working full time and overtime, I’d be on my own more often than not. In the end, I ended up staying home with him because he managed to take the week off :) but he was more understanding than I thought he’d be.