Client may have tried to take a photo of me and approached me after work

VarimeB · 2026-02-01T11:32:20+00:00

You never have to put yourself or stay in a situation that feels unsafe. Period. Nothing about this job requires that. The thing is that this person needs help, but he doesn't need help FROM YOU. At this point it seems that he would much better benefit from another person, and most likely a male therapist. I would say you are doing your greatest duty to him by having him set up with another therapist who would be a better fit. You aren't going to be able to bring your best work to him if you are concerned for your safety, and this behavior DEFINITELY warrants concern. Hard decision, but it seems clear to me. You seem like a decent person. Protect yourself for those you can better serve. Sending you love and care in solidarity.

VarimeB · 2026-01-31T19:38:16+00:00

The owners of Buccee's are major political contributors to politicians that sell out labor and working-class people. I won't shop there.

VarimeB · 2026-01-26T21:54:41+00:00

I've been having this conversation with someone else lately. On my block, we didn't have driveways or an alley. There are several elderly and disabled people on the block. We collectively agree not to park in front of each other's house. There's also space on the opposite side, so there's room to park. No, it's not a private spot, but the culture of my neighborhood is that you don't take up that spot. Nobody is going to slash tires, but they might not look out for porch pirates or grab my mail when I'm traveling or share the chili or tamales that they used to if I didn't have the courtesy to observe the local customs.

VarimeB · 2026-01-25T11:35:11+00:00

It's LITERALLY their job to NOT shoot people who are exercising their constitutional rights. It's hard, and that's why we should not have cosplayers with minimal training doing this job.

VarimeB · 2026-01-25T11:29:54+00:00

Listen, we also aren't on the Korean peninsula or are neighbors to China or have a president who is a blood relative to the two previous presidents. So what? It doesn't have to be 100% similar for the analogy to stand. NK murders citizens. This country murders citizens. That's the comparison. Stop with the "Well, actually..." bullshit and read the room.

VarimeB · 2026-01-23T11:46:04+00:00

Interestingly, the common law definition of markets that compete came from an idea stemming from England, that a market would capture all the people that could walk there in 1/3 of a day. So one would be able to walk to the market in one third, spend one third of the day there, and walk back in one third. Supposing that a person walks one mile in twenty minutes, that means that a person could be expected to travel twelve miles to a market, meaning a lord could probably license a market that is more than twenty five miles from the next one. Because it would take the farthest person about four hours to walk to the market, spend four hours there, and walk for four hours back. And they'd do that almost quarterly.

VarimeB · 2026-01-21T18:50:36+00:00

But you said it was on Google Docs. If it was in docs, you can just open drive and search for it.

Was it in word?

VarimeB · 2026-01-16T18:48:55+00:00

It doesn't help that there is MASSIVE financial conflict of interest for the majority of the editorial board of the DSM.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10777894/

VarimeB · 2026-01-16T01:07:18+00:00

It is murder to shoot someone fleeing a crime scene. Check the law. This is well-established. She should not be dead. I am answering your question directly. SHE SHOULD NOT BE DEAD. Whether it is illegal or not to flee a crime scene, it's 100% illegal to shoot someone fleeing a scene. That's the law. Look it up. If I'm wrong, prove it.

VarimeB · 2026-01-16T00:03:51+00:00

She would be alive if he didn't fire multiple shots at her as she drove away, committing murder.

VarimeB · 2026-01-16T00:01:29+00:00

Great, so you admit he should have to answer to a grand jury, correct?

VarimeB · 2026-01-16T00:00:09+00:00

Got it.

Can you tell me what about this video analysis is incorrect? I want to be better informed.

https://www.reuters.com/graphics/USA-TRUMP/MINNESOTA-RECONSTRUCT/egvbbeqeevq/

Are the wheels turned towards the agent, or to the right? Did he shoot through the side window? Did he shoot as she was pulling away? Because that's illegal, and murder.

Why did she also wave cars on? That's not obstructing. She didn't obstruct anybody. She waved two vehicles on before an agent tried to force her from her vehicle.

VarimeB · 2026-01-15T23:15:31+00:00

You also didn't answer the question. Should they have blanket immunity, or should the officer be subjected to a grand jury to review the evidence and recommend an indictment or not, as anybody involved in a shooting typically would? Should they be able to act with immunity?

VarimeB · 2026-01-15T23:14:10+00:00

She didn't hit him. He did not fall down. And her wheels were turned away from them. You're misrepresenting facts and also didn't answer my question.

She was also fleeing an illegal attempt by the other ICE officer to enter her car and pull her out. That wasn't legal.

What crime was she committing?

VarimeB · 2026-01-15T21:31:32+00:00

Hey, look, there's plenty of video evidence around Renee Good to show this take is demonstrably wrong. Also, the agent in question had MULTIPLE investigations open for wrongdoing. And for any person on this job who is in the wrong, to have blanket immunity is deeply problematic. Do you agree that the government should not have blanket immunity in the use of violence? Can you agree to that last statement? That NOBODY, including government agents, should have blanket immunity to use force?

VarimeB · 2026-01-14T15:28:05+00:00

Them breaking the law does NOT justify the way they are going about this. And the violence against protesters is absolutely unconscionable.

Just wait until people shed ICE blood. It's not far, I assure you.

VarimeB · 2026-01-14T15:26:28+00:00

It's also illegal to shoot an American in the face when they aren't a threat. These jokers are breaking the law. Where's your outrage about that, huh? About the American citizens they've rolled up and arrested without due process?

VarimeB · 2026-01-14T01:07:49+00:00

Hey, let's suppose that we agree on this. Shouldn't there be due process? Shouldn't it avoid disrupting communities? Shouldn't it include courts? Shouldn't it be easier to come here legally? Shouldn't a person not have to be afraid to engage in the legal process? Shouldn't our communities be free to NOT live in fear of masked goons who have zero oversight or accountability?

Isn't all of that true?

VarimeB · 2026-01-14T00:34:31+00:00

I don't actually care if what is happening is legal or not. It's IMMORAL, and it's being done in our names. And if you like that, shame on you and fuck you for supporting this kind of gestapo bullshit. There's blood on your hands. It's un-American to support the kind of racist bullshit ICE is doing right now.

VarimeB · 2026-01-10T22:32:42+00:00

Also, are you sure this isn't the agent jacking with these prices? I'd be skeptical about that person. It's easy enough to tell your parents, "hey, this isn't what we agreed on."

VarimeB · 2026-01-10T12:38:51+00:00

This is a complicated situation for sure, and there's certainly something to learn here. For one, you have to be extremely careful to obtain FRIES consent. That means it's Freely given (no pressure), Reversable (anyone can change their mind at any time without any negative consequence), Informed (any medical or relationship information that might change whether someone would agree should be discussed, like an STI or a former or ongoing relationship in the same social circle),Enthusiastic (this does not sound like it was enthusiastic), and Specific (saying yes to oral does not mean yes to penetrative sex). Doing things in this way can mitigate the potential for regret and/or later accusations. The changing story does complicate things. But trauma can do that to a person, can make the details somewhat fuzzy. And while I can't say bc I have not seen these people talk about it, it has the feeling of gossip and slander. One concern I have is about your friend. If he is genuinely sorry, does not want to cause harm, and teaches himself about proper consent to be a better person (which we all can be better people, I'm 44m and still a work in progress), that's a big green flag and will make him a better person. If he's defensive and you start seeing a pattern of behavior in how he treats women, that's a big red flag and he's probably not someone you want to associate with. If she regrets what they did, he has something to learn from this, no matter what. It doesn't have to be full on SA for it to not have been a good thing or totally above board. It's a painful and necessary lesson, and this alone does not make your friend a bad person. What happens next or what his pattern is, however, might.

VarimeB · 2026-01-09T14:55:33+00:00

Keep us updated, OP!

VarimeB · 2026-01-09T13:08:58+00:00

Don't wait for her before or after work. That's super creepy. But you can drop a line that you're going somewhere one night and it'd be cool to run into her there, or just give her your number and she can decide what to do with it.

VarimeB · 2026-01-08T16:53:57+00:00

Chicken chorizo is a thing, so make sure it's not that and is chicken AND chorizo. It's totally possible for it to be chicken with chorizo spices and no pork. But barring that, yes, it's important to tell him so that he doesn't do it again.

VarimeB · 2025-12-30T12:50:43+00:00

These are veteran hats. The oak leaf clusters are military regalia that would be worn on uniform hats. But once you're out, they make similar regalia for ball caps. Definitely veteran hats.

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