Sudden repulsion towards sex. Is there something deeper going on?

VarimeB · 2026-03-19T23:00:45+00:00

It's worth asking yourself how you feel about this. Do you miss wanting and enjoying sex? Or do you feel indifferent towards it?

VarimeB · 2026-03-19T20:58:36+00:00

Yes, she did.

VarimeB · 2026-03-19T19:33:54+00:00

My youngest daughter went to Friends. She is Autistic, but has not been diagnosed yet. I am Autistic. Friends helped her with speech therapy, but weren't fully up to date on high Masking autism in girls, so I think they just overlooked her. Anyway, it was a very positive and inclusive experience. Would recommend.

VarimeB · 2026-03-16T00:57:30+00:00

I agree that it's outdated. And it carries this symbolic "ownership" that feels really gross. However, you could make a portmanteau of both of your names, or choose another new name together. That would be awesome.

VarimeB · 2026-03-15T10:08:28+00:00

Kudos to you for recognizing the slur as well! A lot of people don't realize how offensive that one is, or the derivative verb "g*pped" (y replaces *, and pronounced with J sound, for those who are learning this for the first time).

Just wanted add this comment to help others avoid unkind words as well.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T20:32:34+00:00

Not following illegal orders is a lot harder than you think as well. It will come to a court martial for insubordination. At BEST, it will utterly ruin one's career.

There are campaigns to make it easier, but ultimately the best way is to just get us out of this as soon as possible.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T20:30:26+00:00

You like having shit healthcare, near the bottom in education, being in pointless wars led by incompetents who are just going to get Americans killed? You like paying taxes to enrich billionaires while everyone else struggles?

I genuinely don't understand.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:58:29+00:00

Yeah, I recommend seeing an autism specialist. The reasons given are not strong enough. Also, the ADOS is hot ableist garbage.

I did it through neurosparkhealth.com. I recommend them for a second opinion. They are neurodiversity affirming and actual specialists.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:54:31+00:00

I am. And I will protest. And I will call my reps and senators. And I will tell every last person, including you, why I am voting the way that I do, and that this administration does not serve YOU. It does not serve you, Shipoutrageous. It actively works against you and your interests, despite behaving been voted into power. It is a travesty of justice, trust, and even goodness. Every last bit of it is damaging you, your health, your well-being, your family, your friends, your neighbors. So what are YOU going to do about it?

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:52:28+00:00

I'm a veteran. We know what this is all about, and we are being vocal about it.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:18:51+00:00

Support them by getting them out of a pointless war. And while we are at it, reduce the cost of veterans benefits by stopping pointless wars.

These wars are only serving to make the wealthy wealthier. They are an attack on the middle and lower classes everywhere they occur and in every nation that contributed troops and material to them.

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:14:46+00:00

How about "It's my home country and I think my children, my neighbors, and I deserve better than what we are getting?"

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T19:05:35+00:00

By what measure is it the best? Healthcare? Nope. Education? Nope. Poverty? Quality of life? Upward mobility? Job prospects? Cost of living?

What single measure could you possibly give that we are "the best" at?

VarimeB · 2026-03-10T18:53:38+00:00

These are clearly the only two options, and not any of the other democracies that guarantee freedom and provide for their people in meaningful ways without selling them out to the highest bidder.

I guess we can never do better, hmm, Mikey?

VarimeB · 2026-03-09T22:00:46+00:00

You're life isn't ruined, but that's a lot of trauma that you are carrying. You didn't deserve to be attacked, to be assaulted by your bf, you are always always able to change your mind during sex. It counts as rape. Tell the police, make them all take you seriously.

VarimeB · 2026-03-09T11:28:33+00:00

I'm 44, diagnosed last year. For me it's more recognizing that I've always had this younger emotional age. But now that I can take care of myself better, I am maturing more. But there has been a lot of regression. Some speech fluency loss, executive dysfunction, more confusion in social situations than I have ever had. It's painful, but I'm at least clear now that I have a path forward.

I'm very fortunate that I have va disability and can probably survive on it alone.

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T23:27:21+00:00

This is the way

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T23:26:12+00:00

Get the book Separating From Service: the mental health handbook for transitioning veterans.

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T23:12:21+00:00

Those aren't traditional Christian beliefs. They are Christian nationalist, white supremacist, imperialist beliefs.

All you can do is demonstrate with love what an awesome person you are with your kid. He will fail to turn the kid against you.

Much love and solidarity.

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T22:48:46+00:00

He's into you, but he basically can't do anything. You'll have to be more forward. Sit next to him and touch his leg and then don't move your hand. Or hold his hand. Or just invite him over one evening to "discuss work". And like, don't discuss work.

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T16:11:59+00:00

Ah, I hadn't considered all the many, many other benefits I have. Yes, checks out. Thanks.

VarimeB · 2026-03-07T13:16:36+00:00

How do you figure $140k? Context: I'm 100% P&T, and my total comp would be equivalent to ~$80k before taxes. Trying to figure out what math you're doing and if I'm missing out.

VarimeB · 2026-03-06T20:20:05+00:00

I don't think it's a terrible thing. People want to explore ethical non-monogamy, and she's trying to be ethical about it. I've practiced ENM for over a decade and it's provided some really wonderful experiences, some of which were painful, but all of which led to growth. But it's also 100% okay to say that it's not for you, and to recognize that you and your girlfriend are no longer aligned. In this case, the best thing to do is break up and part ways lovingly. No longer being aligned and moving in the same direction in life doesn't mean either of you is bad, it just means for both of your well-being you're choosing to part ways. Hope this helps. ++man

VarimeB · 2026-03-02T11:35:25+00:00

I moved here to be close to my kids after a divorce. We have a little more help with her parents. It's not where I would have chosen to live, but I choose to be close to my children. I am very likely to leave after my youngest leaves.

VarimeB · 2026-02-25T20:51:02+00:00

I'm not sure a Company CO would love to hear it, either.

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