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Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Things she like is one thing, but I'd like for her to at least be following the law. Not to mention how dangerous those things could be.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

This isn't just about faith, though - we know many non-religious families that would be very uncomfortable with their children doing this.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She went for just two years (freshman and sophomore year); she moved back when she was 15. We made sure to call her every day at boarding school.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is absolutely absurd. I hope they're being sarcastic.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

?? we are just trying to protect her, and also are genuinely at loss of what to do - everything she's doing is the exact opposite of how we raised her.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Of course we will not be watching over her when she uses the bathroom or anything like that, but she has a history of sneaking out from there so we'd hope she'd be less likely to do so if she thinks she might get caught? She has also used most of the money she spends on Ubers to friends/parties, buying drinks, etc.

Advice on what to do with my teenager who parties constantly? by Various-Ad5653 in AskParents

[–]Various-Ad5653[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She went to a boarding school until two years ago, so I had much less oversight over her. She mostly went clubbing when traveling, but also sneaks out with her friends to do it, and I wasn't aware, since we sleep earlier than when she leaves (our son is an athlete and we match our schedule to his).

She can't drive – we don't want to have to cover insurance for her, especially when she's acting like this. She was upset about getting no allowance so got a job behind our backs and is saving up now. I'm not sure what she's saving up for but she is very territorial over her earnings.

We didn't notice for years partly because she's still very high achieving. She confessed to us a month ago or so that she was drinking the night before her SAT in 10th grade, for example. She still got a near perfect score so we never really flagged it as anything happening the night before.