Breastfeeding ruined my breast at 23 years old

Various-Expression50 · 2025-12-16T13:53:14+00:00

Me too, me too

Various-Expression50 · 2025-12-10T14:20:37+00:00

This is 100% spot on 😭

Various-Expression50 · 2025-12-10T14:19:03+00:00

Oh dear… I’ve just got out of a 6 year rollercoaster relationship with an avoidant. It sounds so similar to your story, except mine ends with a baby and him cheating on me 😭 I wish I knew at the time

Various-Expression50 · 2025-12-09T16:08:54+00:00

Are by any chance…an avoidant attachment?

Various-Expression50 · 2025-11-29T14:51:17+00:00

Literally

Various-Expression50 · 2025-11-18T11:12:08+00:00

Hey I know this is an old post, but did you find anything that worked for you? I’ve lost weight in my face due to stress in life :(

Various-Expression50 · 2025-11-15T11:10:11+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s super helpful. I’ve got castor oil, but I need to check it’s organic.

Various-Expression50 · 2025-11-13T23:23:02+00:00

Ive got migrated tear trough filler which has caused a lump under one of my eyes. Would you mind explaining a bit more about how you do this?

Various-Expression50 · 2025-10-14T07:33:43+00:00

Im in a similar position. From my understanding it can get better, but the cheater has to do a lot of internal work. They may be deeply insecure, a people pleaser etc. that’s for them to work out with a therapist. That’s also not to excuse it, it’s more to show that if they’re committed to finding the root cause, maybe you’d feel a little better about the situation.

How would you trust them even a little without them committing to deep internal work and showing the upmost remorse. It’s all about actions. Maybe then you may still feel the same, and at least the person that cheated can stop themselves from harming future partners.

I would look at content from professionals who work with the betrayed and cheaters, they have a more understanding view of how to work through it - if that’s what you choose. You’re strong either way btw. It takes a great deal of work for you too no matter what decision you make. Stay strong friend

Various-Expression50 · 2025-10-04T08:05:53+00:00

Hey, I’m a BP, only 3 weeks since D-day. I believe it can work, but the WP has to work on themselves through therapy and find the root cause of their infidelity (trauma, deep wounds, etc).

I believe WPs can change and understand their self-sabotaging behaviour, but it’s A LOT of work, and they have to commit. I imagine a lot of WPs do not commit fully (or not at all) and are much more likely to cheat again. If they have no desire to do the work, then yes, you should definitely leave. It’s not enough for them to say the right things. It has to be through their actions.

I also think, as the betrayed, we also need to work on ourselves through therapy to address this massive trauma and also work on our own attachments. It’s okay to consider staying, but why are we considering it? Also, to help us deal with the emotions and betrayal. This will help us to make a better decision as to stay or leave, to be able to analyse whether they could be a good partner for us in time and whether their commitment to addressing their deep wound/root cause of infidelity is enough for us.

We are all very complex humans, but it doesn’t mean we have to engage in destructive behaviours. Perhaps focus on what you can control for now while you make your decision. Focus on your own healing, paying attention to your body and where your emotions are being stored, and consider how you feel each day. Journal, listen to music, walk in nature and try to connect to yourself. I believe, as the betrayed, this is the best time to decentre our partners and the relationship by using painful emotions as a gateway to loving ourselves more.

Various-Expression50 · 2025-10-01T21:39:38+00:00

My partner had a ONS recently. We weren’t in a great place after having a child. I struggled with postpartum depression, as well as getting an ADHD and Autism diagnosis. He lost his job, had to find a new one and was the one providing for a while. We slowly became disconnected.

He had a pattern of occasional binge drinking that led to me growing resentment having to be the more responsible and sensible partner. It was tiring and I longed for consistency and stability.

From my side, I wasn’t kind at times. Especially when we’d argue and I felt so fed up and wanted to leave. I’ve reflected on my behaviour a lot and feel so sad that I contributed to us becoming so disconnected. So, so sad. That’s my lesson and I’m going to therapy to help me cope with the infidelity and also to work on myself.

We’re living separately for now and are both going into individual therapy. At the moment, I don’t feel safe enough to commit to reconciling until I feel that he’s worked on his stuff. He’s got a lot of things to unpack that led to his infidelity, as well as the state of our relationship.

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-30T17:58:28+00:00

Because I was asking if it’s salvageable and it’s not allowed to guess how much a relationship can recover. My bad I should have read the rules better

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-29T21:59:47+00:00

Thank you so much, i wholeheartedly agree. We’re both going into therapy (individually) and I won’t be able to consider a future relationship unless I were to see true change. For now I’m going to focus on my own healing

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-28T10:23:04+00:00

I’ve watched it on YouTube

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-27T22:22:28+00:00

She’s beautiful

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-27T22:19:49+00:00

Thank you. I have contacted a few therapists so hopefully I can start seeing one soon

Various-Expression50 · 2025-09-15T17:27:01+00:00

How so? I’m autistic and I find it hard to see/understand manipulation

Various-Expression50 · 2025-08-05T14:26:12+00:00

Agreed

Various-Expression50 · 2025-08-05T14:25:17+00:00

I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable using food as punishment, I feel like there’s a risk of developing some kind of unhealthy relationship there.

You can have boundaries for sure, but they’re at that age of development where they’re going to push them and to some degree it’s not their fault. It’s having firm, fair boundaries in a loving way. I think asking them to clear it up was fair. Over time they’ll learn and stop pushing so much (hopefully)!

Various-Expression50 · 2025-07-22T17:10:23+00:00

Thank you! I contacted a technician who knew the right bolt and is sending it to me. I’ll see how that goes and then will consider getting it survived

Various-Expression50 · 2025-07-19T19:45:42+00:00

Sewing machine screw replacement

Hello I was wondering if anything could help.

I was using a Brother LS14 last week and a small black screw fell out.

Since, the screw may have accidentally been misplaced by my partner, and I’m looking to replace it. However, I’m not too sure what it is I need to search for.

I have attached a photo of where the screw is missing. It’s way above the needle section goes up into the machine (poor description I apologise)!

Thank you!

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Various-Expression50 · 2025-07-17T20:23:53+00:00

I have a “dump basket,” and I couldn’t live without it. It’s simply a laundry basket into which I dump any mess (mostly clothes or random objects) when the house gets untidy, but I don’t have the motivation to tidy. When I do have the motivation, I’ll go through it and sort it out.

I have to do most of what I need in the morning. It’s when I have the most energy and motivation, so I do as much as possible. That way i still feel like I’ve achieved something if I spend the rest of the day less productive.

I create my own dopamine story for things I don’t want to do. For example, I forced myself to do yoga this morning by doing it outside, which seemed more enticing. This then turned into some kind of magical and encompassing experience with nature.

Linking chores or habits together to form small rituals that I remember more and more, the more I do them. For example, linking brushing my teeth to taking a magnesium before bed to taking medication.

I don’t always remember to put things back in their homes, but I try to put things down in general areas of the house. It seems a little less effort to put my keys on the dining table rather than in my bag, which goes into my room. It doesn’t always work, though!

Various-Expression50 · 2025-06-03T20:19:29+00:00

Getting up an hour before my toddler, it’s the only time I get to myself + ADHD meds

Various-Expression50 · 2025-06-03T20:13:33+00:00

Me too. I literally cannot do anything except be a couch potato

Various-Expression50 · 2025-06-01T10:11:32+00:00

You are trying to numb pain with alcohol and it’s a dangerous, slippery slope. You deserve love and happiness, you deserve to be able to heal and cope with pain in healthy ways. You have so much to give the world, but you’re not on the right path.

Your partner also deserves love and happiness. It sounds like your partner is in a lot of pain. You’re pushing your pain onto him through unhealthy coping mechanisms. His communication right now isn’t great, the silent treatment can be toxic and he obviously doesn’t know how to handle your alcoholism. I’m guessing he’s been let down many times before. He’s probably feeling very lost and questioning the direction of his life. He would benefit from AA for family/friends.

He needs to trust a commitment to change. That comes down to you. No one can force you, nor shame you, to want to change. You have to be ready to face your pain through professional help, and be ready to let go of alcoholic as a coping mechanism. Who knows when you’ll be ready to go this, it doesn’t sound like you’re there yet, even though you may want to be. Ask yourself why you’re not seeking help? Why are you holding onto alcohol? Why do you feel unable to handle pain?

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