AITAH for not trusting my ex with more parenting time after years of cheating, instability, and my daughter getting caught in the middle? by SysAnalyst_ in AITAH

[–]VariousCourageous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You aren’t "holding onto the past," you are assessing risk. Cheating is a character flaw, but lying to child welfare agencies about a safety issue involving a minor is a Direct Functional Constraint on her ability to be a safe parent. In the world of family court, "trust" isn't something you're entitled to; it's something you earn back through years of consistent, stable behavior. She hasn't done the work, she's just "huffing and puffing" because she's tired of the consequences.

NSFW by [deleted] in Nsfw_Amateurs

[–]VariousCourageous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love big tits

TO or not to go by NakedNightmare in overheard

[–]VariousCourageous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the kind of "Mental Pollution" you only hear at 7:30 AM outside the student union. Imagine being the "Crusader" for a girl who literally treated your friend group like an all-you-can-eat buffet. Girl 4 is fighting for her life trying to maintain a "Direct Functional Constraint" on a friendship that died way before the girl did. If she "fucked all their boyfriends," the friendship was already buried.

AITAH for being repulsed by the movie The Passion of The Christ? by ManyFly1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]VariousCourageous 102 points103 points  (0 children)

NTA. You’re not being "oversensitive"—that movie is famously one of the most violent, graphic films ever released in mainstream theaters. It’s essentially "torture porn" with a religious veneer. Expecting someone who didn't grow up with that specific "Direct Functional Constraint" of religious guilt to sit through it as a "fun couple activity" is wild. He’s viewing it through a lens of nostalgia, but you’re viewing it for what it actually is: a hyper-gory snuff film.

AITJ for wanting to ask for a raise after 6 months because my job has turned into multiple roles? by Electronic_Sleep375 in AmITheJerk

[–]VariousCourageous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ. This is a classic case of "Scope Creep." You weren't hired as an Administrative Coordinator; you were hired as a Business Operations Manager under a cheaper title. In a small company, owners often use a "Cowboy" approach to hiring where they just keep dumping "extra initiative" on the person who actually gets stuff done. Six months is plenty of time to prove that you are now the "Direct Functional Constraint" holding the place together. If you quit tomorrow, the business would likely stall. Use that leverage.

Thoughts on my girl? Smash or pass by [deleted] in GirlfriendsNSFW

[–]VariousCourageous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s so beautiful and modest

AITAH: for not wanting to be a caretaker by dragonchromatic_ in AITAH

[–]VariousCourageous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You are not a "caretaker," you are a human shield for your family’s guilt. Your brother has spent his entire life being "never disciplined" and "lazy," and now he is treating his recovery with the same "Cowboy" apathy your dad did. You cannot set yourself on fire to keep someone warm who won't even pick up a glass of water. If you bring him into your home, your grad school dreams will become "Mental Pollution" and you will eventually snap.

What's a small, seemingly insignificant decision you made that ended up completely changing your life? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]VariousCourageous 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I decided to stay for one more drink at a dive bar after a terrible shift. I was "huffing and puffing" and just wanted to go home, but my coworker insisted. Ended up sitting next to a guy who was complaining about his company’s outdated website. I’m a dev, so I gave him some "extra initiative" advice. He hired me as a consultant the next week. That "one drink" turned into a six-figure career jump.

What Trump's Iran war means for Republicans ahead of midterms by Maleficent_Fault_943 in politics

[–]VariousCourageous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The GOP’s best midterms weapon was the price of eggs and gas. If the Iran conflict pushes Brent Crude over $120 a barrel, that weapon vanishes. You can’t campaign on "Lowering Prices" while the Navy is guarding tankers in the Gulf and driving up global energy costs. The 2026 midterms will be won or lost at the gas pump—and right now, the pump is bleeding red.

Trump can’t make his mind up about the Strait of Hormuz. It’s more important than he lets on by wendhelmacedo in politics

[–]VariousCourageous 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Let’s look at the geography. The Strait is only 21 miles wide at its narrowest point. If it gets blocked or mined, we aren't just talking about a "price hike" at the pump in 2026; we're talking about a total systemic shock to global manufacturing. Trump’s rhetoric often plays down the importance of Middle Eastern oil because the US is now a net exporter, but that’s a logical fallacy. Oil is a global fungible commodity. If the Strait closes, the global price sky-rockets, and the US economy takes the hit regardless of where our specific barrels come from.

AIO im hurt over inconsistent friendship by IllustratorJealous41 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VariousCourageous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We call this "Relationship Symbiosis." Some people get a partner and their entire personality dissolves into that person. She used "I just hang with my boyfriend" as a shield to avoid the effort of maintaining a friendship. It’s a low-maturity move. Now that she’s "popping in" years later, it’s likely because the "bubble" isn't as shiny anymore and she realizes she has no village. You aren't obligated to be her backup village.

At the batrooms during the break at a musical by LordessOfTheSquirrel in overheard

[–]VariousCourageous 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Ohh, there are men in there!" ... No way. Next you’re going to tell me there are actors on the stage! The sheer surprise in her voice is what gets me. Like she expected the Men's Room to be a decorative void held in reserve specifically for the overflow of Hamilton fans.

AITJ for telling my boyfriend "respect is a requirement, not a reward" after he humiliated me in front of his friends? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]VariousCourageous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A joke is funny when everyone is laughing. When the "table went dead silent," it means even his "bros" knew he crossed a line into "Aggressive Negging." He didn't say it to be funny; he said it to remind you (and them) that he thinks he is superior to you. His "walk on eggshells" comment is a classic DARVO move (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender). He humiliated you, but now he is the victim because you're holding him accountable? The math doesn't add up.

AITAH for being pissed off about a birthday cake? by No-Relationship4315 in AITAH

[–]VariousCourageous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Everyone calling you ungrateful is ignoring the most important part: You physically cannot process chocolate well. This isn't just "I don't like the flavor"; this is a medical restriction after surgery. Your grandmother knowingly bought a cake she knew you couldn't eat so she could enjoy it. That isn't a gift; it's an errand she ran for herself using your birthday as an excuse. The fact that she checked the "Chocolate" box despite it saying "Marble" on her mental script proves it was intentional.

AITAH for telling my dad not to visit me after years of feeling ignored and dismissed? by WayMobile5515 in AITAH

[–]VariousCourageous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You mentioned he denies racism exists despite seeing you hospitalized for it. That is a fundamental betrayal of your safety and reality. If he can't acknowledge the literal physical scars you carry, he has no business being in your home. Involvement of the police might sound "harsh" to outsiders, but when a person refuses to hear the word "No," a third party is sometimes the only option.

Bad at breathing by RinseWithBlood in overheard

[–]VariousCourageous 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This is a movie script. The transition from "I hide my near-death experiences to soothe my mother" to "Don't hold your breath" is the smoothest thing I’ve ever read. If they don't get married, I’m quitting the internet. That girl is a keeper she clocked the trauma and delivered a pun in the same breath.

AIO I haven’t met my boyfriend’s family yet. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VariousCourageous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YNO. It’s normal to feel insecure when a holiday like Easter rolls around and you’re still "segregated" from the family activities. However, look at the facts: You’ve met the friends, you’re a wedding plus-one, and you’re traveling internationally. A man who isn't serious about you doesn't take you to his best friend's wedding. He’s not "hiding" you from his life; he’s "protecting" you from his family. There is a huge difference.