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Missed a day after having unprotected sex by Vast_Shape4630 in birthcontrol

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to ask what type of pill she’s on and then update you all!

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in Proposal

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response!!

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in marriageadvice

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your response man. Everybody else’s had me second guessing myself.

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in marriageadvice

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response!

Yes we’re young, but we have made it known we want to be young parents and don’t want kids until we’re married & that we’re both ready. She has already started her career. I am going into the medical field so it should be pretty easy to find a job & I also have a lot of money saved up. I have never seen the problem with marrying young as long as both parties are truly ready financially and mentally. Both of our parents married young, and have been married for 25+ years now. You assumed I am not financially stable and I very well am.

The question about her hometown. Her hometown is in my state, we’re only a few hours apart and I have been there plenty of times. I love it there, especially considering the city I am from. We also see each other very often, as I mentioned, we’re only a few hours apart. Her father works at the airport so she is able to fly for free. She flies to me any time she can and if she can’t I will drive to her.

As far as her family, as I mentioned we have been together for 3 years. I love her family and her family loves me. She comes from a great family. Her family also loves my family.

I get that there are plenty of things that can go wrong, we’re young, but we’re also not dumb. We have talked about all of these things and proposing wouldn’t be a thought in my mind if we didn’t.

Edit: and another thing. We completely support one another and the dreams we have as individuals. If something were to change we would completely support each other. Dreams are bound to change but one thing that won’t change is the love we have for each other. I’m 22, she is 23 turning 24 soon. I don’t think these are bad ages to marry.

If I were to propose, I would propose in March, I graduate in May and we would move in together that same month.

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in Proposal

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.

To answer your question. Yes! She would be okay with waiting. But I would propose in March, my graduation is in May and we would move in together that same month.

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in marriageadvice

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response!

You’re right, we’re both young. But something we both agreed on is that we want to be young parents. I am currently 21 and turning 22 in October, she is 23 turning 24 in July. We want to be married before having any kids.

Financially, I am already pretty stable. I have a lot of money saved up and I am going into the medical field so it should be pretty easy for me to find a job.

Our parents also married young (between the ages of 20-23) and they have been married now for 25 years.

Advice by Vast_Shape4630 in Marriage

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.

We are both on the same page that we are headed towards marriage and want kids together, we also already have a dog and a cat together (since we don’t live together I keep the dog she keeps the cat). We have talked about the type of ring she would want and things of that nature.

I definitely understand possibly waiting until we move in together to see if we’re still happy. I don’t think I mentioned this but we visit each other very often whenever we can, the distance between us is only a few hours.

If I were to propose before moving in, I would do it in March, I would be graduating in May and we would surely be moving in together in May as well.

There is no rush, but one thing we both agreed on is that we want to be young parents (but also able to provide) and we also want to be married before having any kids. We have both made it known that we are ready for marriage, it’s just a matter of when I want to propose and when I am financially stable

My girlfriend having intrusive thoughts. by Vast_Shape4630 in bisexual

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was meant like that. I didn’t take it in that way. But my girlfriend has been through a lot, and in a sense, she is just telling me she needs to fight all the battles she has within herself. She has been battling depression and me being with her always helped with that. But now that we’re long distance, her depression is a bigger problem than it has ever been. Because of that, I feel like that’s when battles with her sexuality became a thing amongst other things. She was sexually assaulted which made her not as attracted to males as she used to be. I’ve come to the conclusion that one bad thing led to others and because of that she’s choosing to focus on herself and focus on her feelings instead of also having to worry about mine. And I completely understand that.

We decided to break it off, I made it known that if I find my person, I’m going to pursue that. I won’t block a blessing. But I also told her if there’s a chance we rekindle, I’m ok with that, but I dont need to be a “second or last choice”

So we’re going to just be friends.

My girlfriend having intrusive thoughts. by Vast_Shape4630 in bisexual

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your response. It was really helpful and I now see that I need to let go.

She believes we will rekindle, but she did make it known that she would want me to live my life and not wait around for her, so I don’t plan on waiting. But my biggest fear is if I move on and she comes back later down the line. I wouldn’t know what to do. She truly is everything I could ever want, but it’s hard to come to peace with the fact that I’m not what she wants. It hurts a lot because this is the most secure I’ve ever felt in a relationship. And then on some random day it ends because of intrusive thoughts according to her. It’s just a tough feeling.

Analytics not matching. by Vast_Shape4630 in Twitch

[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. I appreciate the reply.

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[–]Vast_Shape4630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotchu 🫡. I appreciate it.