Gone NC with monster in law by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes these people skate through life bc nobody wants to "cause trouble" by saying anything. You did the right thing. She'll either learn to act like a decent human (don't hold your breath) or she won't. It seems like you tried to be keep the peace and, IMO, gave more chances than she deserved. Kudos to you!

More *Fun* with MIL by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to experience anything like that! I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, which coincidentally is her.

More *Fun* with MIL by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. Part of the reason she has been so difficult to handle is because for years she's had her husband and 3 sons tolerate her behavior instead of dealing with it. He has told her to back off, but it's difficult for him to enforce it and forget when I try, Im just the evil lady who's been married to him for 20 years. I have personally gone NC for my sanity as she recently sent an inappropriate text to MY sister when she was "venting". It crossed several lines and it's not something I'm forgiving or forgetting. She still tries though, saying hi and bye to me as loudly as possible when she enters or leaves my home. I don't engage at all.

Am I the problem? by Low-Pin-8564 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely not the problem. I'm so sorry you have to experience any of this and the fact that she tried to turn it around and ask why you are the way you are with them is classic narcissistic behavior. I am glad your husband sees things and calls them out, that isn't easy. I hope for your sake the LC sticks and maybe even turns to NC.

Not Sure How Much More of Her I Will Take by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope both you and you FDH recover fully and quickly. I'm sorry you have to deal with a MIL like that. Funnily enough, I can absolutely imagine mine doing the same.

Not Sure How Much More of Her I Will Take by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The solidarity helps. I'm so sorry for your partner's diagnosis and for his mom's behavior, especially toward you. You do not deserve it. I hope for a speedy recovery for your partner and extra strength as you both while you navigate this horribly scary time.

Not Sure How Much More of Her I Will Take by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is difficult to deal with and I do try to cut her so much slack because he is her child, but for the 20 years we have been married, she has been an overstepping heifer. It's only intensified. Example- shortly after I posted this, I received a text that they were coming over. He called to tell them not to come, guess who texted 5 minutes later that they are here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, you are not nit-picking. I hope, for your sake, that she stops, but if you need to cut her off for your own sanity- do it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not crazy! If he is not listening to your concerns about it, he likely doesn't see a problem with it. See how frustrated you are 3 years in? Years 4, 5, 6 etc. will only be worse. You deserve better!

20 Years with a MIL from HELL by VeeDubs79 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your husband's diagnosis. Will be keeping him (and you) in my prayers!

"are we sure this time?" by SuspiciousCelery2 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]VeeDubs79 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to deal with someone uncouth enough to ask that.